Emotional frequencies?

[KeilCoppes]

I was blessed to spend the evening out with a singles group from Colorado Springs this evening. We went out to Casa Bonita, which is a local tourist trap that only purports to serve Mexican food, but which is a neat place to go for an evening of entertainment, albeit a bit cheesy in places - kids love it. It was a pleasant and beneficial evening.

During the course of the evening I met everyone in the group, and tried to talk to everyone to learn a bit about who they were. There were some different variations - with different people it was as if:

1) we were near the same personal frequency, but the messages we were sending were different (same intelligence or reactivity, but different things valued. )
2) or, we were near the same personal frequency, but the channel was reserved (boyfriend there)
3) or, the frequencies were different and the other person was at low power - we could be pleasant, but with some I had to keep putting energy into the conversation to keep it going
4) or, the frequencies were different and the person was locked at high power - we could be pleasant, but I could detect that the other person might be highly reactive in the direction of someone who didn't agree with them.

Have you seen things like this?

 

[esseJ]

First off...in defense of Mexican food, don't let Casa Bonita be your guage...

About the rest ofyour topic...

...I think you make interesting observations, I've started hanging out with a group from New Life..(where do you go?) but I've never really thought about "frequencies". That isn't to say that there aren't people that I prefer not to talk to, or people that I'd rather talk to. Anyway, since all people are different there are going to be some that you get along better with. That goes for all people, not just the opposite sex...

Anyway, interesting observations...

 

[KeilCoppes]

First off...in defense of Mexican food, don't let Casa Bonita be your guage...

...I think you make interesting observations, I've started hanging out with a group from New Life..(where do you go?) but I've never really thought about "frequencies". ... Anyway, interesting observations...

I'm at Providence OPC up in Denver - www.denverprovidence.org. (The OPC is an old-fashioned bible believing presbyterian church, and a sister church of the Presbyterian Church of America)

I have the same interactions with people of either gender. I can be pleasant and work with all of them, but there are some people I just know I'll have to constantly be adapting to, and I normally know within a couple of minutes of meeting them. That adapting takes constant energy whenever I am dealing with them - some more, some less. It has nothing to do with whether I like them or not. I can be friendly even with those who take energy - it just takes different methods to interact with them, and perhaps it will become second nature in time. If I'm ever to marry, though, I'd like to find someone who I find an energizing influence. Happily, I have met such people - they're just all married or dating someone else.

-kc

ps - I'm actually not a die-hard Mexican food fan - I like the bit more bland americanized versions - but c.b. doesn't even do that all that well - the fajitas weren't even vaguely tender - they approached charcoal sticks.

 

[Living4Him03]

CASA BONITA! I have been to Denver twice (and I LOVE the Broncos) and my family went to Casa Bonita...it is just an awesome place! I hope to take my family there someday! Wish we had that in Dallas! Anyway...So you didn't make any connections at the singles event? I'm sure you will with someone eventually. You are a funny guy and seem prepared to meet someone you can get to know (dating is kind of a scary word for rationals..hehehehe ). It's difficult to find someone on the same page! My question is if some of the women had boyfriends then sheesh what are they doing at a singles event?? That's sort of strange. You are very perceptive! I think it's just really difficult to make the right connection and sometimes, at first, you just don't. I remember my first conversation with my boyfriend, and although I thought he was nice, I was a bit weary of his need to push others as hard as he pushes himself and his insistence that I not put him on a long list of guys to "get to know"...I was a bit intimidated by him, but the next time I saw him there was a "connection" and we talked for hours! Go figure!

p.s. Is Casa Bonita in Colorado Springs or Denver or both? I'm confused!

 

[KeilCoppes]

CASA BONITA! I have been to Denver twice (and I LOVE the Broncos) and my family went to Casa Bonita...it is just an awesome place! I hope to take my family there someday!
....
p.s. Is Casa Bonita in Colorado Springs or Denver or both? I'm confused!

I understand from one of the women at the event who grew up in Dallas that they used to have one there. On the other hand, our WaterWorld has no comparison to Schlitterbahn!

I have a feeling this is more a non-married than non-dating group - that's not all that unusual. When a woman calls a guy 'dear', that's pretty indicative, so the rules of respecting others that are dating apply.

As to meeting, I don't totally write people off, but I'm pretty sensitive to detecting patterns and reading people. I would always like to be pleasantly surprised with having been wrong, and I continue to give opportunities. I was born with sensitive feeling first and the rational preference came about as a survival necessity during elementary school, so 'rational' type isn't quite correct - it's more a matter of the knowledge that to survive I can't just let my heart run free and assume everyone is good and kind.

 

[esseJ]

Casa Bonita is in Denver....take I-25 to Colfax and head west...

It's funny, I totally forgot about that place...then South Park did an episode on it...I was rolling!!!

It's a fun place to go, but I don't like the food...except for the sopapillas...