God's way is according to?
In my experience and with the Word, I have found that a calvinist always asks themselves, why they chose God (heady rationalization is sought after)?
Their answer is, they think they were not premade for hell, but pre-made for heaven. This is an inescapable pride as long as they continue to believe that, which separates them from God.
To wit, the answer of their mistaken assumption is that man is made in God's image (before and after the fall), having a right to the cross in which though the man is fallen and he can not choose the cross by his fallen nature, he is still made in God's image with a right to come to the cross which is to the glory of God, since grace precedeth the fall. Grace comes at in leading one to the cross by being made in God's image, and grace enters again at new birth upon the authentic repentant approach and choice according to John 3.16,18, so that God can give His life, as typified by the tree of life.
Man is created with one nature: neither God's nature, since the man has not yet eaten of the tree of life, nor the fallen nature, since the man had not yet fallen. Man being created in the image of God does not mean man has God's nature, that is God's life, but rather than the man, made spirit, soul and body has a free-will just like God's as well as all other other components of his being accurately reflect what it means to be made in the image of God which is perfect and to the glory of God. God can't sin, but man can fall, though not eternally, if he is born again for new birth is an eternal gift.
So you see the free-will of man can be viewed from two perspectives. One from being made in the image of God, which Adam had, and Abel had, who gave right offering (Cain did not give right offering, though he was still made in God's image); the other, viewed from the perspective of the flesh, that is the will of the flesh of the sin nature that can never come to the cross. Many Bible verses speak of this latter aspect that nothing of the man (of the flesh) can choose God.
Gen 1:27 So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
Gen 2:16 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
Gen 4:4 And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:
Calvinists get no respect for their offering of thinking they were pre-made for salvation. The image of God is never diminished in the man, for man is made perfect.
God longs to see the man make the choice for Him, for these are the ones He wants to be with, not the tares in the outward appearance of the kingdom of heaven. O there is so many of them.