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[Jere209]

Has anyone ever tried them? oh, lol, if so, can you share a bit please of your experience? Was it ok or not ok?

 

[Inkachu]

I've tried it before. Obviously didn't work, since I'm still posting here on Singles

And IMHO, no matchmaking website is worth $50 a month.

 

[ido]

I've tried E-harmony, match.com, ChristianMingle, Yahoo personals...you get the picture. None of them worked, they're all very much like an on-line meat market, IMO.

I'm not saying it can't happen b/c I know it does - but I think the success rates for those sites are probably pretty slim if you compare the number of successful matches (successful = long-term relationships that end in marriage) compared to the number of members they have.

 

[Jere209]

lol..that's what I figured..
but, gee whiz..I thought it might be one of those that does work..
groan. back to being single another 25 years..
lol

 

[ido]

Just because the didn't work for me doesn't mean they wouldn't work for you. If you feel led to try it out, you should. Most of them have some sort of money back guarantee.

 

[Bampot]

My cousin met her husband on Match.com. They've been together for almost ten years.

On the other hand, I have another cousin who met a boyfriend on there. They were together for several years before he left her for his ex.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I've never tried any of the online sites. It's kinda funny to me, cuz even though I haven't posted on any of those sites I constantly get emails from E-Harmony and for about the last year they keep threatening me...this is your last email if you don't respond. Ha Ha Ha

 

[dayhiker]

I tried one pay site ... they tried to run my online life like I was a 13 year old. I've heard other bad things about pay sites.

I finally found plentyoffish.com ... I met my GF on there. We meet to play golf almost two years ago.

that's been my exprience.
dayhiker

 

[graceskr]

I personally know of three successful eHarmony marriages. My best friend and I were discussing this very issue recently and she knows of several as well.

I created an account and did all the personality assessment stuff a few years ago but decided not to pay to join because some not so great for a relationship life issues were going on at the time. Through the account I could see some matches though and they seemed like guys I would've really liked. One guy I matched with I actually wound up working as a consultant for his company for a few months. He didn't know we had matched, but I did because of some pretty unique events in his life that he'd shared briefly on his eHarmony profile. He's a super nice guy and I saw him this weekend at a restaurant with his new wife and they looked incredibly happy (guess they're the fourth couple I know of)

As far as eHarmony being a meat market, I think it's way more complex and time consuming for that purpose. Why got through all the bother and pay more when there are sites like Match?

The service was actually created by a Christian psychologist with the goal of facilitating healthy marriages. My not so great life circumstances are nearly resolved and I'll probably do eHarmony seriously after I finish grad school.

 

[shannonbelieves]

I personally have never tried them but my dear friend is actually getting married to some one she met on e harmony. They've been dating for about 3 years and are one of the happiest couples I've ever seen!

 

[IzzyPop]

I met my current girlfriend on eHarmony. I did sign up for reduced rate, though. $50 a month is a bit steep.

I have talked to some other people about it and it seems that the guys have an easier time finding someone that is actually LTR material. Of the women I know that used it, they had to wade through months of bad dates and the occasional out and out freak before finding someone. The all guys found a girlfriend pretty quick.

 

[ido]

That really doesn't surprise me, Izzy. I think many of the guys on those sites are using it as an online meat market.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I used almost all dating sites throughout the last 5 years. I went on a lot of dates and may write a book one day, lol. I have to say that it gave me a really good idea of what I wanted in a husband. I met some great guys, some who shouldn't have been out dating while they had stuff to figure out. I met some weirdos and others too.

My fiance is someone I met 3 years ago and only communicated with by email when we bumped into each other on different sites. I kept turning him down for a date because of our age difference and I was impressed that he was always nice despite me turning him down. I spotted him on a bikers site when I was looking for friends to ride with and I didn't turn him down when he offered a ride. Thank God for the internet, lol.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I used almost all dating sites throughout the last 5 years. I went on a lot of dates and may write a book one day, lol. I have to say that it gave me a really good idea of what I wanted in a husband. I met some great guys, some who shouldn't have been out dating while they had stuff to figure out. I met some weirdos and others too.

My fiance is someone I met 3 years ago and only communicated with by email when we bumped into each other on different sites. I kept turning him down for a date because of our age difference and I was impressed that he was always nice despite me turning him down. I spotted him on a bikers site when I was looking for friends to ride with and I didn't turn him down when he offered a ride. Thank God for the internet, lol.

Wow! what a great story EBL thanks for sharing. I think we always meet "someone" when we least expect it.

 

[hockeysistah12]

I personally know of three successful eHarmony marriages. My best friend and I were discussing this very issue recently and she knows of several as well.

I created an account and did all the personality assessment stuff a few years ago but decided not to pay to join because some not so great for a relationship life issues were going on at the time. Through the account I could see some matches though and they seemed like guys I would've really liked. One guy I matched with I actually wound up working as a consultant for his company for a few months. He didn't know we had matched, but I did because of some pretty unique events in his life that he'd shared briefly on his eHarmony profile. He's a super nice guy and I saw him this weekend at a restaurant with his new wife and they looked incredibly happy (guess they're the fourth couple I know of)

As far as eHarmony being a meat market, I think it's way more complex and time consuming for that purpose. Why got through all the bother and pay more when there are sites like Match?

The service was actually created by a Christian psychologist with the goal of facilitating healthy marriages. My not so great life circumstances are nearly resolved and I'll probably do eHarmony seriously after I finish grad school.

Unfortnatly, that Christian psychologist, Neil Clarke Warren was sued by some members of the homosexual community because they "were not included" and the courts told him that he had to include that segment of the community, which it's too bad. E-harmony started out as a "Christian" site, but Christians are not supporting it because of Warren's opening the door to the site to non belivers.

I'm not trying to discourage others not to go on that site, but I'm letting people know before they make a prayful decison to go there.

 

[IzzyPop]

Unfortnatly, that Christian psychologist, Neil Clarke Warren was sued by some members of the homosexual community because they "were not included" and the courts told him that he had to include that segment of the community, which it's too bad. E-harmony started out as a "Christian" site, but Christians are not supporting it because of Warren's opening the door to the site to non belivers.

I'm not trying to discourage others not to go on that site, but I'm letting people know before they make a prayful decison to go there.

It never went to court. Eharmony settled the suit prior to it ever being heard. The courts didn't force them to do anything.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Unfortnatly, that Christian psychologist, Neil Clarke Warren was sued by some members of the homosexual community because they "were not included" and the courts told him that he had to include that segment of the community, which it's too bad. E-harmony started out as a "Christian" site, but Christians are not supporting it because of Warren's opening the door to the site to non belivers.

I'm not trying to discourage others not to go on that site, but I'm letting people know before they make a prayful decison to go there.

There were plenty of non-Christians and fake Christians on there before. My matches started out pretty good there then started to get more flaky. I was advised to re-rake the test and found a big difference in matches after that.

 

[EADGBE]

I tried E-Harmony and SingleC. I won't ever do any online dating sites again. Never went on a single date with either service. With E-harmony, several men were removed after I got to the email stage with them. I don't know why, E-harmony never explained why they were removed from the service.

I also learned that if you are overweight and over 40, you can pretty much forget about meeting someone this way. Unfortunately, people still judge on the basis of looks.

Michelle

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I tried E-Harmony and SingleC. I won't ever do any online dating sites again. Never went on a single date with either service. With E-harmony, several men were removed after I got to the email stage with them. I don't know why, E-harmony never explained why they were removed from the service.

I also learned that if you are overweight and over 40, you can pretty much forget about meeting someone this way. Unfortunately, people still judge on the basis of looks.

Michelle

I was 45 pounds overweight 2 years ago and still managed to do a lot of dating. I can't remember what site it was, but there were a few who ghosted after I mentioned that I wasn't even close to being a Barbie doll just in case they couldn't figure it out from my pics. But, the most disappointing weight related brush-off came from a guy I was acquainted with at a church single's group.

I found that the guys who were banned from eharmony were the very same ones that gave me a funny feeling from their emails and I ended up not giving out contact info while I was trying to figure out what to do.

 

[EADGBE]

I was 45 pounds overweight 2 years ago and still managed to do a lot of dating. I can't remember what site it was, but there were a few who ghosted after I mentioned that I wasn't even close to being a Barbie doll just in case they couldn't figure it out from my pics. But, the most disappointing weight related brush-off came from a guy I was acquainted with at a church single's group.

I found that the guys who were banned from eharmony were the very same ones that gave me a funny feeling from their emails and I ended up not giving out contact info while I was trying to figure out what to do.

Eatenbylocusts,

I'm more than 45 pounds overweight, although I am working on losing the weight. I guess I've pretty much given up on finding a date, or love for that matter.

Michelle