drugs

[faith177]

For those of you who never had a problem with drugs or alcohol, I was wondering what you thought contributed to your decision. How did your parents handle the situation, was it sports, friends.

 

[Princessperky]

hmm, I dunno if I count as not having a problem, I used to smoke, and would still if I didn't have a family. but one of the reasons I found it easy to start smoking was that my mother assumed I already did. The reason it was easy to quit, it was stress relief and I found a better way, cause for my family I had to. I do still drink on occasion in moderation, though since I am always pregnant or nursing I am practically a tetoaler!

The reason I never started on Weed when it was around, I didn't like my BF when he was on it, plus I am a cheap date, one drink and I am 'buzzed' no need to go further.

My parents were a bit....hypocritical. that and my mother was whishy washy. So half the time even a beer was terrible, half the time drink in moderation was fine. Sometimes 'heavier stuff' was not the best idea, but it is illegal so get your kicks somewhere else. Sometimes it was the end of the world to even touch. but regardless, breaking the law was never worth it, though changing the law was occasionally a good idea and then occasionally the law was 'the only thing stopping the vast majority of Americans from becoming drug addicts, ruining society'-Moms occasional opinion not mine)

One thing I do remember clearly, when in 8th grade health class I was supposed to memorize the street names of many drugs plus miscelaneous other useless information (IMO, for a 8th grader) when the teacher wanted to know why I a pretty good student, didn't bother. "'Cause it is a drug, and no matter what you call it I am not taking it!" sheesh, like calling it angel dust makes it so much better? it is still a hallucinagen (could have my drugs mixed up here) and the 'drying out period' is soooo not worth it.

 

[Zoomer]

I would occasionally drink in my teenage years but that was it. I never used drugs. I went to parties that had drugs and I never had a problem turning them down. No one every made fun of me for not doing something so I never felt any peer pressure. The reason that I never used drugs was simple, I did not want to be a disappointment to my parents.

 

[okiemommy26]

One factor was my parents, I always think I would get caught or something and that stopped me. Also, I like to be in control I do not like my body where I can not control and that is a big issue with me. With doing stuff like drugs and drinking- I can't control it.

 

[snarfywarning]

My parents were drug dealers. That pretty much stopped me wanting to try it all toegther.

 

[Silent Enigma]

Well,

1> I wasn't popular and never went to parties.
2> The people in school who were habitual pot smokers were morons and I despised them.

So there wasn't much incentive I guess. I also had a nice family.

 

[Why?]

I think it all depends on the person. I never touched a drug until I was out of high school. I only drank a few times before I graduated from high school and never to the point of getting drunk.

It wasn't because I didn't have the opportunity. It was because I didn't have the desire.

My parents were pretty silent on the subject. Of course I got the "It's bad don't do it." talk (I think it was pretty short because I don't actually recall it) and "Be good." every time I left the house.

And while I will honestly say that while I was rarely 'good' upon leaving the house, I never got into drugs or drinking. It just didn't interest me.

Even after I decided to try a few drugs in college, I still never developed an interest in anything other than painkillers; which I used very rarely. (maybe 3 or 4 times in my year of college experience)

All in all, I think many things factor into making you who you are, and that is what influences your decisions in making decisions. Not JUST parents, or JUST friends, or JUST role models; but all of those people combined with numerous other factors and your own personality and genetic make-up.

 

[jusluvm]

All in all, I think many things factor into making you who you are, and that is what influences your decisions in making decisions. Not JUST parents, or JUST friends, or JUST role models; but all of those people combined with numerous other factors and your own personality and genetic make-up.

That is exactly what has been running through my mind while reading these posts.

We have quite a history of alcohol and drug abuse in my family, so why some have a problem with this and some don't really does appear to be something in the line of personality (combined with) genetics.

What's really tragic is that those in my family that do have an addiction problem are the brightest and most talented of the bunch! It's really sad. But then again, if they weren't so bright and talented they might not have survived as well as they have.

 

[VHOLLOWAY]

i was on the oppisite side i did do drugs and now i am a recovered christan looking back i wish my parents would have shoued me love and belived in me i started young and now i happily married and have a son the thing i do is no mater what my son sees in the appartments the lord has us in i tell him he is a good boy and i love him when he does ask i tell him they are doing things Jeses does not want from someone he is still young i will continue to do the same as he gets older and i will probley will have to explain what the bad things are and WHAT THEY DO TO YOU

 

[snarfywarning]

That is exactly what has been running through my mind while reading these posts.

We have quite a history of alcohol and drug abuse in my family, so why some have a problem with this and some don't really does appear to be something in the line of personality (combined with) genetics.

What's really tragic is that those in my family that do have an addiction problem are the brightest and most talented of the bunch! It's really sad. But then again, if they weren't so bright and talented they might not have survived as well as they have.

My dad (a recovering abuser) is taking classes and internships nd everyone about that rightnow, and he has found out that adictiveness itself is genetic! isn't that weird? Add a substance to that and it gets out of control! So not only if you are an adict, you pass it to your kids thru genetics alone, but when you (the parent) abuses in front of your kids, they pick up the personality and traits from you as well (as most kids do from their parents, reguardless of what they are doing)

People say it is a miracle my brother and I arn't drug dealers. I say that we just got "hooked" on different, less illegal things (Like Video games, internet, other people... we are both very codependant and obsessive)


sorry if that did not make sense! I am super tired!

 

[Linnis]

I tried drugs with my parents when I was younger. It is something I deeply regret now and wish my parents had better sense than to do drugs with my brother and I present & then offer them to us. I never want to do drugs again and never want to be around anyone who does or thinks it's okay to. No matter how you look at it it's not good.

I don't know if that answers your questions or not.

Oh yeah, when my kids are older 12-13 I plan on telling them about being allowed to try drugs and alcohol at such a young age and not seeing it as wrong because I didn't know any better and I wish my parents would have protected me from such things not encouraged it. I hope they will understand that and know I will not tolerate drugs in my home or underage drinking.

 

[Tawny]

I never tried any drugs like speed cocaine etc , I had a few odd drinks before I was 18 but nothing major. I don't know why I didn't, I guess it is two things, I do not like feeling out of control of myself and also there was no way on this earth I would have faced my parents. I wasn't scared of them or anything, (I consider my mum and dad as friends as well as parents) Its just that I would not have wanted to let them down.

 

[CDN Red Raider]

Ive never had the temptation to smoke or do drugs or anything of the sort. My parents (mother in particular) would teach me how bad it was for your body and how it was very unattractive. She always portrayed people who did drugs as "people with bad addictions and who are throwing their life away". It still amazes me to look back at high school and know that no one in my circle of friends did drugs or drinking or smoking in high school.

HOWEVER, one thing my mother always said that still sits with me now is that she told me no matter what has happened or what you have done, you can come to me, call me at any hour of the night and I'll come get you if youre in a compromising situation..... come ask me any questions and I will help you with anything.

Knowing that she wouldn't judge me even if I did make a mistake was wonderful.

 

[Bunnaroo]

I never had the opportunity to do drugs. It was never around me. Alcohol, on the other hand, has been available, but I have had bad experiences with it.

I used to be a primary sorter on the midnight shift at UPS. Anyone that has worked in the hubs knows what a sweaty job that can be. I was placed next to a guy who always seemed a bit laconic when he came to work. After two hours I found out why. He smelled like he had bathed in beer! The stench was so bad, I still remember it.
I also worked third shift security at the Gaylord Opryland Hotel and Convention Center, one of the 10 biggest hotels in the country. The place has five different bars, and alcohol is served in all the resturants. I have seen what being drunk can do to a person. In uniform, my crew would be taunted, flashed, and hugged, as well as fallen, puked, and bled upon. An adult who is drunk, even just tipsy, immediately is operating on the level of a 10-year-old.

I have been so thoroughly disgusted with alcoholic beverages, the desire is just not there.

 

[Linnis]

Ive never had the temptation to smoke or do drugs or anything of the sort. My parents (mother in particular) would teach me how bad it was for your body and how it was very unattractive. She always portrayed people who did drugs as "people with bad addictions and who are throwing their life away". It still amazes me to look back at high school and know that no one in my circle of friends did drugs or drinking or smoking in high school.

HOWEVER, one thing my mother always said that still sits with me now is that she told me no matter what has happened or what you have done, you can come to me, call me at any hour of the night and I'll come get you if youre in a compromising situation..... come ask me any questions and I will help you with anything.

Knowing that she wouldn't judge me even if I did make a mistake was wonderful.

That's amazing! Hug your mum for me and thank her for being a really awesome parent. I wish I could have felt that comfortable and safe with mine.

 

[Kentucky_Girl]

Mine was a combination of things. I grew up hearing my father who smokes and is an acoholic tell me that smoking was the worst habit you could ever have. Around the time that the kids in my school were forming their little groups (around 7th grade) I was not there as I had cancer at the time and missed almost all of my 7th grade year. After that I never understood why people needed to smoke or drink, as I saw them as being harmful to your health and a big waste of money. Some of my friends would say that it was fun, but I couldn't understand this either as I could have just as much fun as them without smoking and drinking. As for the drugs, well first I was never around them much and even if I had been, trust me I have had enough of the legal ones already and have no desire to continue with the illegal ones. I guess one big difference with me was that I simply didn't care what all of the other teenagers thought about me. If they didn't like me that was fine as I didn't need their apporval in order to enjoy my life. A lot of kids I know ended up with a lot of problems because they care way to much of what the cool kids thought.