dropped from women's group

[mama2one]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

 

[By_the_Book]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

Although the leader could have used more tact and sensitivity in how she expressed herself, it seems as though she was really just acknowledging what you had already told her, that you could not attend because of all the steps. You yourself said you could not attend, therefore she acknowledged that the group was not a good fit for you because of the relocation and the stairs and perhaps you should find another group. It doesn't sound like it was malicious on her part it simply was not very well worded or done but it was you who said the situation was not going to work out for you because of the stairs. I don't think you have any reason to feel hurt or upset sometimes people simply do not express themselves very well.

 

[dzheremi]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, mama2one. That's really cruel and unreasonable of the leader, though I suppose you probably dodged a metaphorical bullet if that's how those in charge of the group choose to (not) address someone not being able to attend for medical/personal reasons.

 

[Tolworth John]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

Complain to your minister about the frankly rude rejection and lack of explanation and ask for an aplogy.

 

[By_the_Book]

I have something further I want to add to my statements earlier.

You know whatever happened to actually going to a person when we have a misunderstanding with them, talking with them, and clearing things up. The Bible has many places and many different ways that it talks about us doing just that. And we should be doing that before we're talking to other people about it or deciding we're going to complain about the person, etc...we're going to do these things before we even give them a chance to talk with us. If you're feelings are hurt you need to go talk to the person who hurt them.

We live in such an overly sensitive society who addresses nothing head on by actually dealing with the people involved instead they run around and talk to everybody else... this is not biblical, it's not God's way.

 

[Blade]

So sorry this happened to you. To look at it both ways we forget were still in this world and human. I understand why it hurts but.. guessing the lord has something better for you.

Or write again asking can't anyone just help me come in.. you know something like that Praying

 

[lismore]

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house

Hello! One of the advantages about meeting in a designated place of worship is that the 'whosoever' can come. The venue is a known public place, physically accessible by law and open to all. In my experience meetings in private houses always lean towards being cliquey in one form or another. Hope you find happy times in your new groups. God Bless

 

[BobRyan]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

do you have any friends in the group other than the leader? Maybe they can help you find out what happened

 

[Maria Billingsley]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

Well that is not Christian behavior. If there are issues or differences then they should be addressed but I guess righteousness is not always the preferred practice.
Blessings

 

[Michie]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

You were too good for them anyway.

Seriously if they were looking for any excuse to drop you that shows their true colors. If there was an issue they should of been forthcoming with it and help you fit in if you desired. Sounds like you might of missed a bullet. Don’t let it get to you and move on to something better.

 

[mourningdove~]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

Maybe I am missing something, but ... by emailing the leader that you "couldn't attend",
it sounds to me like you dropped yourself out of the group.

The leader didn't reject you, you left the group.

(Hope you will find another group that better meets your physical requirements. )

 

[JohnC101]

Sounds like they read the first email, saw "couldn't attend" and assumed that you left the group permanently.

You may want to contact one of them directly, just to get the story straight.

May God bless your endeavors!

 

[Original Happy Camper]

Complain to your minister about the frankly rude rejection and lack of explanation and ask for an aplogy.

That is the wrong advise accoerding to Mattew 18

 

[Oompa Loompa]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

It seems as though the reason was that the group leader couldn't accommodate your physical limitations and suggested you find one that is better suited. Is that the only women's group in your church?

 

[Tolworth John]

That is the wrong advise accoerding to Mattew 18

Actually it is the right advice.
They have asked for an explanation, and got nothing, so either they assemble some mussle and have a confrontation in church, or they send the matter to the elders.

I think having a face to face confrontation in church is not the best way of resolving this.

 

[bmjackson]

I would write a letter to the elders asking them if there is a way for them to provide access to the meetings which you would like to attend again. At least it will bring out the possibility that it is a cover up which seems highly likely to me.

 

[Gentle Lamb]

since Spring, I've been in a women's group, fully participating every time I attended

recently, the meeting was moved from a public place to leader's house
I emailed that "couldn't attend due to several sets of stairs" (have hip pain)

got an email back "group is not a good fit for you & you should go elsewhere"
the leader gave me no reason as to why she dropped me out of group (I asked)

I have since joined couple of other groups

however, I am still quite hurt being dropped for seemingly no reason especially since I've been part of the group for months!
this has never happened before & the rejection really bothers me

I was dropped out of a women's group fellowship as well... first they removed my name from the birthday list, then they removed me from the group because I wasn't attending that church for regular Sunday fellowship.... even though they were telling the women to invite women to fellowship, they rejected me. It's hurtful... But God says to shake the dust off of our feet and to keep on going. Matthew 10:14; Mark 6:11

 

[Joined2krist]

I think this was done because you said you couldn't attend due to physical limitations. I hope you find anothe edifying group. It's their loss

 

[mama2one]

You know whatever happened to actually going to a person when we have a misunderstanding with them, talking with them, and clearing things up.

I did ask "why was I dropped" and was not given a reason

the leader also apologized for dropping me which makes no sense to me
why apologize but still leave me out of group?

 

[mama2one]

by emailing the leader that you "couldn't attend",
it sounds to me like you dropped yourself out of the group.

absolutely not

I've attended 90% of the meetings while others maybe have attended 1/2 the meetings but none of them were dropped

saying I can't attend one meeting is NOT saying "I'm leaving the group"

 

[mama2one]

I would write a letter to the elders asking them if there is a way for them to provide access to the meetings which you would like to attend again.

I did fill out form addressed to person in charge of groups


thanks for replies everyone!
I was enjoying being in this group since Spring
since I've never been dropped from any group, didn't like being rejected