Driving Me Crazy!!!!

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

So I just got a job that I will be working evenings. I also go to school during the day. My bf works some mornings and then early evenings. Looks like we will only be seeing each other on the weekends and perhaps only for a bit during the weekday. I feel like I'm in a long distance relationship all over again. Grr!

Do any of you have this problem? How do you manage? My love language is quality time....I am thinking of quiting my job before I even start it (just going through training now) because I am afraid that this will take us apart....

And another thing, is time together more important to most females than males? Would this type of schedule bother you guys????

 

[MN John]

My intended and I both have full schedules. We have one evening a week set aside for being together ... Tuesday. Sometimes that's the only time we see each other all week, sometimes it's not. We talk on the phone daily and email frequently. It's difficult. I know how you feel. Our love languages are Deeds of Service, followd by Quality time, and then Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation. I don't think time together is more important to one or the other of us.

Peace.

John

 

[Inperfected]

Honestly it's what grown up relationships have to be like sometimes... I know it's SO hard, i had to get used to it when my bf moved away for a wee while (only an hour so not ldr)... Weekends are great, and learn to love them... Don't quit the job for it... A good relationship will stand through less time together... Infact, in my experiecne absense makes the heart grow fonder!

 

[LynzLovedByCHRIST]

Aww, it'll be okay! It may be hard at first to adjust, but you'll get used to it.

My boyfriend and I both have pretty much the same schedules, but we're still very busy on weekdays. I have school every morning (well, except Tues.), and then I have work every afternoon from 1-5. Tues. and Thurs. nights I have a class too, after work. My guy has class everyday from 8-2, and then he goes to his dad's office and works till 5 or whenever he's done. On Mon. nights he goes to the community band to play his trombone too. And for both of us on Wed. nights is church, although we go to different ones.

So yep, we try and have Fri. night as "date night." Some Saturdays we don't see each other, but 80% of the time we do. We might have another date night, or just go to the mall, or watch movies at home. Sunday nights I often go to his church since mine doesn't haven't an actual service, but various classes of interest, then.

It has been like this just about the whole time we have been dating. So I am used to it. But it sounds like it will be a big adjustment for you. Just talk to your guy about how much from now on you two will be able to see each other, and when. Communicate by phone, texting, and emails too, when you want contact but can't actually see each other in person!

 

[Maeyken]

With my schedule, I work 12h shifts, 7 till 7, either days or nights. My fiance goes to school and works, as well as has a placement for school. Some weeks it is easier for us to do things, other weeks we hardly see each other. For us, it's sort of a temporary thing, as he won't be in school forever, and I won't be working so many nights forever, but it will be a couple years before that happens. We just take whatever time we can get together, and enjoy it. Sometimes I really get to missing him (and vice versa), but we email each other, which helps, and talk on instant messenger, as well as the phone sometimes. For me, quality time also consists of emails, IM conversations, as well as in-person time. Quality time and physical touch are my love languages, and sometimes it gets hard, but I try to remind myself that in less than a year we will be married, and at least then we'll see each other a *little* more often!