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BobW188
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Your friend accurately predicts that, as time goes on, he will need more and more. Alcoholism is progressive. Illness? At the end, he'll be drinking only to avoid withdrawl, getting no enjoyment whatsoever. (As I and many others here know from personal experience.) And it's not as though switching to some other substance will save him. It may look like a different road; but it goes to the same place.
So, what is it your friend wants? He needs to answer that. If it's to drink; we're not stopping him. If it's to quit, there's well over a half century of sobriety on this board willing to give support, caring, and lessons from experience.. Most of us would say at the start: check out AA, see what counselling and therapy is available (including detox), and pray.
More than one of us will be awaiting his answer.
So, what is it your friend wants? He needs to answer that. If it's to drink; we're not stopping him. If it's to quit, there's well over a half century of sobriety on this board willing to give support, caring, and lessons from experience.. Most of us would say at the start: check out AA, see what counselling and therapy is available (including detox), and pray.
More than one of us will be awaiting his answer.
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devonian
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We dont persuade anyone out of drinking. We dont have the power to do that. If he wants to quit, we have a solution, and would be glad to share it with him. The cool thing is that with our solution, he wouldnt have to fight alcohol or drugs anymore, he will simply no longer be interested in them. He wont think about getting drunk and he wont think about not getting drunk.
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Like me, he knows the answers to help himself, but he doesn't just need someone else to say it. he needs some serious help. He might need to reach a really low point, but hopefully that low point isn't too low.
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If your friend wants to end the vicious merry-go-round ride of alcoholism and possibly drugs, there is hope and help available to him in AA. If he chooses to continue with his self-defeating, self-destructive drinking behavior, he is headed for either jail, institutions or even death, if he does not kill someone else in a DUI.
If he chooses to go that route, my prayers are with him. If he chooses to quit and find a new way of life where drugs or alcohol are not necessary to get through the day, we can offer help and hope. Nobody can make him do anything he does not want to do, and I certainly would not attempt to stop him. I just pray that he gets help before he or someone else die as a result of his behavior.
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If he chooses to go that route, my prayers are with him. If he chooses to quit and find a new way of life where drugs or alcohol are not necessary to get through the day, we can offer help and hope. Nobody can make him do anything he does not want to do, and I certainly would not attempt to stop him. I just pray that he gets help before he or someone else die as a result of his behavior.
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No one here can talk anyone into doing anything, but we can support one another. The 1 step is admitting to ourself that our life has become unmaneagable.
We all get to this point in different ways, some faster than others, Many die... Denial is a horrible thing to break through.
God Bless you for looking out for your friend, pray for this person.
We all get to this point in different ways, some faster than others, Many die... Denial is a horrible thing to break through.
God Bless you for looking out for your friend, pray for this person.
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If your friend wants help, he needs to start with the first step, if he wants to stop and he sees that his life in unmanageable by him. He need to enter Detox, A.A. or both.
If he wants to drink and call his caring friends on the Phone for sympathy and to get them all worked, then let him drink. God allows us to sit in our own misery as long as we want. Tell your friend that you love him and want to help. But as a drowning man needs to let go of the stone he is holding, so does your friend.
I will pray the intercession will come and he will hear it. In Jesus Name, Amen.
If he wants to drink and call his caring friends on the Phone for sympathy and to get them all worked, then let him drink. God allows us to sit in our own misery as long as we want. Tell your friend that you love him and want to help. But as a drowning man needs to let go of the stone he is holding, so does your friend.
I will pray the intercession will come and he will hear it. In Jesus Name, Amen.
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If your friend is drinking heavily and is concerned that if he stop he will use substances. Then He needs to recognize he has a addiction and needs to, go to detox and a 12 step fellowship. Controlled drinking doesn't work, Once we take the drink, The drink takes us.
I pray that if your friend has a drinking problem, that our Father will intercede and direct him to Detox and A.A. In Jesus Name, Amen
I pray that if your friend has a drinking problem, that our Father will intercede and direct him to Detox and A.A. In Jesus Name, Amen
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BobW188
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Amen both to your prayer and to your post, ww2pigeon.
We all got scared like your friend, we all tried not to drink "heavily," we all failed. And you haven't even heard from those of us in prison, a jitter joint, or a cemetery. We - on this thread, in AA, and at the treatment facilities - will be here if your friend ever gets serious.
We all got scared like your friend, we all tried not to drink "heavily," we all failed. And you haven't even heard from those of us in prison, a jitter joint, or a cemetery. We - on this thread, in AA, and at the treatment facilities - will be here if your friend ever gets serious.
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