Dr. James Dobson

[Defender of the Faith 777]

Recently posted something very offensive in my opinion.

Breakaway magazine is designed to give Christian teens safe, Bibilical answers on girls, dating, music, and any questions.  A guy wrote something on self-pleasure (masturbation).  He asked for help and wanted to know what he could do to stop.  You know what they said in response?

Pretty much:

When you're married, you'll have a healthy life with your wife, but until then, what's a guy to do?

In my opinion, it's not that big a deal with God. 

I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

What kind of Biblically based answer is THAT?!  I really look up to him a lot, but this is one area I disagree with.  Our bodies are the temples of God.  If a man lusts a woman in his heart, he has commited adultery.  Is adultery in the temple of God regularly not that big a deal with God.  And when a guy tries to stop, he just says, "Don't worry about it.  It's all right."  Is this offensive to any other Christians? 

Moderators, I understand that this is a very serious topic and is very contraversial.  It is a mature topic, which can be offensive to some.  Please edit this if you find anything wrong in any way.

 

[A Sheep]

Yes, I am offended by it as well due to Jesus' saying that lust is the same as adultery. That doesn't sound like something that Dr. Dobson would say, are you sure that it was him responding to the letter?

 

[Defender of the Faith 777]

No, but the author quoted something from his book, "Preparing for Adolescence."

 

[ZiSunka]

Teaching self-control would be better than saying that some forms of non-marital sex are no big deal.

It's a small step from there to accepting the notion that all non-intercourse sex is fine, or that "safe sex" is okay, too.

Self-control isn't taught much from the pulpits anymore, not just in regard to sex, but in regard to money, debt, drugs, or sin in general. There's a lot of talk about God miraculously healing people with self-control problems, but I gotta tell you, it's rare. Self-control is one of the fruits, and something we are to practice and learn.

Seach self-control at any Bible search website, and you'll see that it is necessary and learnable.