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I haven't hired a doula but if I was going to have a hospital birth and had the money I'd definitely hire one.
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I didn't, but I was also confident in my own ability to birth, my husband's ability to communicate my needs and desires if I wasn't able to, and my obstetrician's professional judgement.
If you were going to have a hospital birth and were not confident in your obstetrician (ie - you thought he was pro-knife, rather than pro-natural), then I think a doula would be a fantastic support.
If you were going to have a hospital birth and were not confident in your obstetrician (ie - you thought he was pro-knife, rather than pro-natural), then I think a doula would be a fantastic support.
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My OB was pro-natural, I was Very confident in my ability to birth (having done natural births 8 times already), and I still ended up with all sorts of interventions this time. I did hire a doula, but it turned out she was out of town when I went into labor. Things would have gone much better with her opinion thrown into the mix...
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My mid-wife is pro-natural as well. I'm just kinda stuck on deciding because I don't wanna get in the hospital & become a total you know what with the doula.
Jan, why do you think things would have been different?
Jan, why do you think things would have been different?
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I had one and it was the best investment I could make. Actually I plan to become one myself!
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Do you plan a natural birth? Then it could help especially if your husband is less than confident in natural birth.
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I am going to have one with my next birth since I know my mom probably won't be able to fly out here to be with me. With my first child, I didn't have a doula because my mom & husband were both with me.
I actually am going to use a lay doula, who isn't licensed, but she also doesn't charge. She's had three natural births, so I think she'll be a great support person.
I actually am going to use a lay doula, who isn't licensed, but she also doesn't charge. She's had three natural births, so I think she'll be a great support person.
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I am a doula , but I never hired a doula LOL!! I think a doula that has as her aim for you to have an empowered birth (rather than the goal of natural birth, etc.)- where she is there to help advocate for you, provide and translate information to you, dispell and fear tactics or bullying used by medical staff, to suggest options---basically where she is at you service to help you make truly informed choices------I think a doula like that will help you to have a birth with which you will feel deeply satisfied.
I would be on guard for any doula who seems over zealous about achieving natural birth as the goal. I would make it part of your interview to ask them what their personal goals are for your birth and possibly how they would react if you got to ,say, 5 cm and were asking for an epidural...
I would be on guard for any doula who seems over zealous about achieving natural birth as the goal. I would make it part of your interview to ask them what their personal goals are for your birth and possibly how they would react if you got to ,say, 5 cm and were asking for an epidural...
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My doula was free (a friend) but I would have paid gladly to have her there. She really encouraged me to get up and move around to get my labor going, reminded me to pee (amazing how you forget things like that), was very verbally encouraging and just added a constant familiar and calming touch that I really needed. We didn't have any problems, but if we did, she would have given me good feedback on the choices I had without being emotionally invested as my husband would have been.
I think every woman's goal should be a informed birth without regrets. You can't always predict what is going to happen, how you are going to feel, etc. The best you can do is to have full confidence in the people providing your care and the information to make the best choices necessary.
I think every woman's goal should be a informed birth without regrets. You can't always predict what is going to happen, how you are going to feel, etc. The best you can do is to have full confidence in the people providing your care and the information to make the best choices necessary.
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I know this lady is not against having a epi if need be. I just get concerned with how my reactions are going to be in that here I go hiring this lady & then I tell her to get the you know what outta the room. 
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I wouldn't hire a doula who was AGAINST epis, to be honest. Sometimes they are necessary. If you have an induction, an epi is almost always necessary. Pitocin contractions are MUCH harder than real contractions (a reason to avoid an induction, unless you really really need one.) My doula was at an induced labor once and after watching her client in agony for several hours, she was happy when the woman asked for an epidural.
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I know this lady is not against having a epi if need be. I just get concerned with how my reactions are going to be in that here I go hiring this lady & then I tell her to get the you know what outta the room.
Voice that concern to her--most doulas would be just fine with that--and willing to to then run errands or whatever sort of behind the scenes. I have to tell you- that as a mom with three daughters--and thinking about them giving birth someday- I feel totally okay not being there if that's what they want--I deeply understand the need to hhave certain energies outta the room. I would just share that concern very explicitly with the doula and see what her response is--my guess is that it will be a favorable one. Her whole goal is (or ought to be) for you to have the birth that you want.
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