Let me quote a nice psychotherapy existentialist fellow I admire:
Reading this was a breakthrough for me. I have always slightly struggled with the stubbornness of others in holding their own views and their inability to consider other perspectives. I always labeled it as a defense mechanism, but never quite grasped the real mediating factor responsible for the defense.
It's a hidden doubt of one's own belief that drives the urge to defend. It goes deeper than what May said, in my view, to not simply a doubt, but a fear of what doubt implies, namely the possibility that one may be wrong. Fanaticism, understood literally or well on its way there, is an anchor in a world of water in which we're meant to swim, not sink. The swimming may be gentle, even a floating on one's back, or a vigorous kick and scream for progress; we're either adapting our current beliefs bit by bit or changing them entirely in certain areas.
Beware the anchors!
A curious paradox characteristic of every kind of courage here confronts us. It is the seeming contradiction that we must be fully committed, but we must also be aware at the same time that we might possibly be wrong. This dialectic relationship between conviction and doubt is characteristics of the highest types of courage, and gives the lie to the simplistic definitions that identify courage with mere growth.
People who claim to absolutely convinced that their stand is the only right one are dangerous. Such conviction is the essence not only of dogmatism, but of its more destructive cousin, fanaticism. It blocks off the user from learning new truth, and it is a dead giveaway of unconscious doubt. The person then has to double his or her protests in order to quiet not only the opposition but his or her own unconscious doubt as well. -- Rollo May, The Courage to Create (emphasis mine)
People who claim to absolutely convinced that their stand is the only right one are dangerous. Such conviction is the essence not only of dogmatism, but of its more destructive cousin, fanaticism. It blocks off the user from learning new truth, and it is a dead giveaway of unconscious doubt. The person then has to double his or her protests in order to quiet not only the opposition but his or her own unconscious doubt as well. -- Rollo May, The Courage to Create (emphasis mine)
Reading this was a breakthrough for me. I have always slightly struggled with the stubbornness of others in holding their own views and their inability to consider other perspectives. I always labeled it as a defense mechanism, but never quite grasped the real mediating factor responsible for the defense.
It's a hidden doubt of one's own belief that drives the urge to defend. It goes deeper than what May said, in my view, to not simply a doubt, but a fear of what doubt implies, namely the possibility that one may be wrong. Fanaticism, understood literally or well on its way there, is an anchor in a world of water in which we're meant to swim, not sink. The swimming may be gentle, even a floating on one's back, or a vigorous kick and scream for progress; we're either adapting our current beliefs bit by bit or changing them entirely in certain areas.
Beware the anchors!