What should a guy do when his wife is thinking about divorcing him? What shouldn't he do?
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Dos and don'ts in divorce.
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Conservativation
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Wow....thats not answerable. I can tell what to do and not do once she has started a divorce, generally, but the things to do when she is thinking about it , ones that would make a difference anyway, are not doable....like eliminate the gaggle of friends that will say "whatever you want sweety we support you you know that"....thats just NOT helpful, and its ubiquitous.
I think begging is universally not a good idea, offering to do anything ANYTHING just please dont to this.....
Also, saying things like "even if you divorce me its OK I will always be there for you and you can have anything you want its your happiness that is the most important thing and I dont care about me"......bad idea, and not uncommon.
If my lawyer during my almost divorce, he with 30 years of family law representing men and women, had any wisdom, it was if possible, allow some negative to be present immediately for her at filing, meaning if she feels discomfort suddenly you dont look so much the jerk, because he said some huge % of the women he represented got really scared at the nearing of the final date, because they knew that the drama was over and they were unable to change anything else to "get" more or whatever
I think begging is universally not a good idea, offering to do anything ANYTHING just please dont to this.....
Also, saying things like "even if you divorce me its OK I will always be there for you and you can have anything you want its your happiness that is the most important thing and I dont care about me"......bad idea, and not uncommon.
If my lawyer during my almost divorce, he with 30 years of family law representing men and women, had any wisdom, it was if possible, allow some negative to be present immediately for her at filing, meaning if she feels discomfort suddenly you dont look so much the jerk, because he said some huge % of the women he represented got really scared at the nearing of the final date, because they knew that the drama was over and they were unable to change anything else to "get" more or whatever
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I'd say do the right thing. Don't treat her badly. Don't put kids in the position that they have to chose between mom and dad. Protect your money the best you can.
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I guess that all depends on whether or not you want her to go through with it, eh?
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I think it wise to preemptively meet with an attorney to know the best action to take if she makes a move. Ask around for referrals not for the most ruthless, combatitive lawyer but one you'll be comfortable with.
In any interaction you have with her take the "high" road with her and try your very best to not become adversarial. Seek only what is fairly due you monetarily, reach out with what is best for children, pray that God would guide both of you.
Appeal to her as best you can "We don't want the lawyers to get what we've worked for; let's work so we both will win".
In any interaction you have with her take the "high" road with her and try your very best to not become adversarial. Seek only what is fairly due you monetarily, reach out with what is best for children, pray that God would guide both of you.
Appeal to her as best you can "We don't want the lawyers to get what we've worked for; let's work so we both will win".
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