Don't want to be bisexual anymore. Any help?

[White_Wizard]

I realize this topic has been posted before, but I am in desparate need of my own help. I need to know where to turn at this point.

I have been a bisexual male for as long as I can remember. I have no idea why, but I've always been able to enjoy both sexes. I know that this isn't right in the eyes of God and I have been looking to change for the longest of time. I've asked God to help with this battle in the past and it seems to have gotten me nowhere, but where I started. I also recently had a fallout between an ex-girlfriend of mine and I, where she claimed that I was hiding things from her by not telling her that I was bi while we were dating. I only explained to her that I was attempting to repent for my past actions and no longer desired to be gay/bi in the eyes of God. She does not seem to buy it at all.

I just need some type of support. How do I cope with these feelings and where can I turn to for assistance?

 

[Johnnz]

It's important that you focus on the heterosexual aspects of how you feel. Get some good information about heterosexual sex so you develop a sensible basis for seeing sex within that framework. Conversely, don't feed your other inclinations.

John
NZ

 

[WashedClean]

Only Jesus can set you free from all your sins. You have to repent of all sin and accept Christ's offer of forgiveness. Then God will give you a new heart with new godly desires. We can't put God in a box and tell him we only want his help in one area.

Have you repented of all your sins?

 

[White_Wizard]

It's important that you focus on the heterosexual aspects of how you feel. Get some good information about heterosexual sex so you develop a sensible basis for seeing sex within that framework. Conversely, don't feed your other inclinations.

John
NZ

Well I have been with females before, but as I'm sure you've learned by now, I do have urges to be with men at times. It is not something that I can necessarily explain to anyone. It is just who I've thought of myself as. I will try not to feed into these temptations though and I should be able to live with seeing women obviously.

 

[Wackotic]

Maybe it would help not to see yourself in terms of being bi, straight, or whatever. I personally don't think you can help who you like, but it should encourage you all the more to lay everything at Jesus' feet and to cling to him and keep asking him and trusting him to bring you to overcome whatever thing you are facing, including your history with being attracted to both sexes. I can relate to it though I don't label myself anything like bi or whatever. I just ask God to take charge of my relationships as it is a confusing thing for me in many ways. God is faithful.

But in the end, it's not what you can do but what God can. You cannot make yourself pure or change who you are. You need to rest in Jesus and put your faith in him and believe he will work what you go through for the best since he promises to do that for those who love him.

So many of my friends have had times where they had attractions to the same sex. I am not going to debate the morality of that as I really don't know where I stand, though I do believe lustful thoughts are wrong but it's not something that I never have to deal with.

Not much, I don't think, you can do with your ex. It's her problem if she doesn't trust you. But trust God. You can only do so much with your human strength. For me, I am personally not at all concerned with my own feelings even if I largely consider myself asexual. I believe you are own the right track in being sensitive to your conscience but I don't think being negative and anxious about it is going to solve a lot of things on the long term. At the very least, this struggle may help you to keep sensitive, humble, and compassionate to those who have same-sex feelings. I think it's better to be sensitive and understanding and thus more able to relate Jesus to people in that camp than to be insensitive only to push a lot of people away who are otherwise what you would call normal, decent people.

My best wishes.