Don't talk to them!

[mina]

Have you ever had a friend try to control who you talked to, liked, or hung out with? It's the kind of thing that I've seen children do but have you ever had any experience as an adult with that sort of thing?

 

[Wren]

No. I mean, I'm all about loyalty and such, but I can't imagine telling someone who they are allowed to be friends with or be friends with someone who would make demands like that of me...unless there were extremely unusual circumstances.

 

[branchofthevine]

I have had friends who think I should like this girl over here, but not that girl over there, and they seem to think they have control over how I dress and how I appear and also on what I eat and stuff like that. I just remind them that they don't have control then go on my business regardless.

 

[TamaraLynne]

I really only have one friend....but both of us are busy mommies and we call each other when we need an ear...I love her sooo much and think she is awesome. I believe she has alot of friends but I don't know their names...friendship is about the heart and it is unconditional...and a lifetime even if for some reason twenty years have gone by without seeing each other...friends are just friends forever in our hearts...

 

[Socktastic]

I think my personality lends itself to finding the slightly more controlling/protective/whatever you want to call it individuals so yes, i've had a few who have basically said "don't talk to them" or, at best "i'm not saying don't talk to them, but...".

I generally pull away from those sort of friendships the moment that comes up. I'm all for telling people about potentially dangerous situations, but not to the point where it's coming across as a command based on personal grievances/issues.

 

[Blank123]

It happens with both genders but I've noticed this more with my women friends than anything. I can think of one instance where a guy I knew told me specifically not to talk to another guy because he knew he was dangerous (seriously stalker-level crazy). But I'm not usually told directly not to talk to or associate with someone, but we women tend to be much more subtle. It comes out in gossiping, or under the guise of gently warning, that I would be better off just not having anything to do with certain people.

but I tend to be rather rebellious in those situations. When I pick up that someone is implying that I shouldn't spend time with another person, it makes me want to spend *more* time with that person. I find out for myself if what is being said is true. Sometimes it is, and then I stop spending time with that person, but a lot of times its just nonsense based on pointless drama that I'm being dragged into for no other reason than to perpetuate and justify it.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I had a friend in high school who was very jealous and would get upset if I hung out with someone without her. I would just go right ahead and do it and eventually she would get over it. She seems to have grown up a lot since then and doesn't strike me as the jealous/controlling type anymore, but we live in different states so I don't really know for sure.