Doing God's will

[cmefly]

Ok, I had a tubal ligation in 94'. I decided I didn't deserve anymore children after I got pregnant out of wedlock. I wanted to make sure I had no more children in case I ever got myself in that position again. Now, I have NO regrets keeping my child, (not giving her up for adoption) she is the joy of my life.

Years later, I was convicted that I made a choice I should not have made so rashly. I gave it no thought and did it to punish myself for being irresponsible.
I paid to have my tubal reversed in 2001.

I felt I did the right thing.

In 2004' I met and married a man who had a vasectomy at 25 yrs old. I thought it was awfully young to have one. He said he had it because he didn't want anymore kids with his wife, because he was the only one taking care of them. He now has custody of his kids, well, we raise them together.

Well, I didn't want any more children. But for the past year I keep dreaming of having a baby and in the dream the feeling is so strong that I wake up thinking I have a baby, for just a few seconds. Then for a small part of my morning, my thoughts are on my dream and to tell you the truth, lately I have so many of them that it's really weighing on my mind. Now I'm thinking how wonderful it would be to have a child
with my wonderful husband.

No one can really tell me what to do I know, but can anyone give me some advice. Maybe someone who is older than I am, or has gone through something similar.

 

[windcatcher]

Sometimes we do things without asking God. Well, the good part could be that if those dreams are spiritual and from the Lord, you will have kids then?

I have a theory that when God units two, most likely that a woman is to carry the man's seed. I mean that there is a great purpose and responsibility for a woman to have babies, not just God wants to bless your family and you can enjoy your family, but also for some divine God's purposes.

If you believe you and your husband were united because of the lead by the Lord, I have no doubt that the man's seed should be passed on. BUT, this is also spiritual perspective. You may not have to have your biological babies. After all the blood connection is not that important. It's the spiritual connection.

I am saying that you may adopt some kids in the future. There is this possibility. Pray and ask God, sister. God knows that you love kids. Or He is the one who put the desire in your spirit.

 

[Zebra1552]

Ok, I had a tubal ligation in 94'. I decided I didn't deserve anymore children after I got pregnant out of wedlock. I wanted to make sure I had no more children in case I ever got myself in that position again. Now, I have NO regrets keeping my child, (not giving her up for adoption) she is the joy of my life.

Years later, I was convicted that I made a choice I should not have made so rashly. I gave it no thought and did it to punish myself for being irresponsible.
I paid to have my tubal reversed in 2001.

I felt I did the right thing.

In 2004' I met and married a man who had a vasectomy at 25 yrs old. I thought it was awfully young to have one. He said he had it because he didn't want anymore kids with his wife, because he was the only one taking care of them. He now has custody of his kids, well, we raise them together.

Well, I didn't want any more children. But for the past year I keep dreaming of having a baby and in the dream the feeling is so strong that I wake up thinking I have a baby, for just a few seconds. Then for a small part of my morning, my thoughts are on my dream and to tell you the truth, lately I have so many of them that it's really weighing on my mind. Now I'm thinking how wonderful it would be to have a child
with my wonderful husband.

No one can really tell me what to do I know, but can anyone give me some advice. Maybe someone who is older than I am, or has gone through something similar.

Um, have you talked with him about it?

 

[cmefly]

Ummmm, lol. My husband brought up children a while back and we both openly talked about how wonderful it would be, but we brushed that aside.
I'm not going to tell my husband he has to get a reversal so we can have children, because I feel it's his choice.

Well, today I shared my dreams with him and the feeling it left inside. He said, about the reversal, "let's do it." I was like, "that's it, let's do it?" I told him how, because I didn't think he'd prayed about it. He said he had prayed about it before and would have already had it reversed but always finds an excuse not to b/c well, it's not fun to have surgery.

So that's that, I guess. I'll update this thread once in awhile and let you know how it goes.

Thank you both for taking time to respond and help me sort things out.

 

[Elijah2]

I would be talking to a doctor in regards to undoing the tubes, and your age.

Remember if you are successful and you will be, say 60, when you will have a teenager.

There is much more to consider, but I guess there are many around who have had children late in life.

The advice you need should be coming from a doctor.

Be blessed in Jesus' Name.

 

[seeking peace]

My husband was told by the doctor before his vasectomy that the longer you wait to reverse it, the less likely you will be able to father a child. It's really something you and your husband should discuss with a doctor.

 

[suzybeezy]

No one can really tell me what to do I know, but can anyone give me some advice. Maybe someone who is older than I am, or has gone through something similar.

I can share my story, cause I went throug something oddly similiar. I too had my tube tied and then when I married my husband, who I knew was a gift from God. We started having those feelings (and dreams) that we should have a child. We prayed about it and felt God also wanted us to have a child. Well i had my procedure reversed and we tried to conceive and nothing. We talked to my minister and his wife, and we prayed, and we felt completely that God wanted us to have a child. So rather than waiting for God to give us direction, we started fertility treatment. It was costly. And still nothing. It was so confusing cause we felt God wanted us to have a child, but he wasn't blessing us.

Then my niece, who has alot of emotional problems, became pregnant. I couldn't believe God would bless her and not me. I was so heartbroken. She had the baby and then like a month later my sister called me and told me they had taken the baby into protective custody and needed a foster family. She ask me if we could take in the baby while my niece got the help she needed. We agreed. Well it didn't take long for us to figure out that THIS is the child he had planned for us. It was so blatantly obvious. This child is such an amazing blessing. Had we slowed down and truly listened, we wouldn't have gone through everything we did for a child, cause God already had a plan.

I tell you this story to encourage you that if you feel God is telling you to have a child, ask him to show you the path he wants you to take to accomplish it. It may be the reversal, but it may not be. Just pray and wait until he opens the doors for you. Be open to possibilities you may not have thought of.

If you want to talk with me or ask me any questions, feel free to send me a private message.

 

[cmefly]

Thanks for sharing your story. Your niece is very blessed to have you in her life, and also your great-niece.

I can share my story, cause I went throug something oddly similiar. I too had my tube tied and then when I married my husband, who I knew was a gift from God. We started having those feelings (and dreams) that we should have a child. We prayed about it and felt God also wanted us to have a child. Well i had my procedure reversed and we tried to conceive and nothing. We talked to my minister and his wife, and we prayed, and we felt completely that God wanted us to have a child. So rather than waiting for God to give us direction, we started fertility treatment. It was costly. And still nothing. It was so confusing cause we felt God wanted us to have a child, but he wasn't blessing us.

Then my niece, who has alot of emotional problems, became pregnant. I couldn't believe God would bless her and not me. I was so heartbroken. She had the baby and then like a month later my sister called me and told me they had taken the baby into protective custody and needed a foster family. She ask me if we could take in the baby while my niece got the help she needed. We agreed. Well it didn't take long for us to figure out that THIS is the child he had planned for us. It was so blatantly obvious. This child is such an amazing blessing. Had we slowed down and truly listened, we wouldn't have gone through everything we did for a child, cause God already had a plan.

I tell you this story to encourage you that if you feel God is telling you to have a child, ask him to show you the path he wants you to take to accomplish it. It may be the reversal, but it may not be. Just pray and wait until he opens the doors for you. Be open to possibilities you may not have thought of.

If you want to talk with me or ask me any questions, feel free to send me a private message.