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Does race factor into who you'd date?

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Race??? Race? We are all of the same Race, unless you don't believe in the Biblical Account of Creation and Origin of Humanity..... so to be Racist you have to dismiss the Bible's clear teachings anyways.... the only forbidding of marrying outside your group was the Israelites so they wouldn't be dragged into the pagan idolatry of the nations around them....

Therefore every division is just a cultural heritage division and most skin tones are based on generation upon generation of living in an area.... we all have the same pigmentation just different degrees since we came from the Middle East area.....

I find women of all skin colors attractive to different degrees.... it just comes down to compatibility, shared faith and if she finds me attractive or not....
 
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I will and have dated guys of other ethnicities. My family (except for one family member) is very open to people of all ethnicities. I have 2 cousins who are Oneida and 1 who is Bi-racial/Black. My ex-stepfather is Mexican and Arapaho or Navajo. And my grandmother is biracial (Lakota/English-heritage). I think my family would almost prefer that I date someone that isn't white.
 
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Nah, I dont think to myself, "I'd never date a person who is (insert race here)". I mean, I may not find myself attracted to people of certain races in general, but it could definitely depend upon the individual person.

Generally I find it to be that it's the families of certain races or ethnicities (Indian, asian, even something as simple as Italian or Portuguese) who are more discriminatory against people who are "different". I have known tons of people whose families were like "You can't date anyone who isn't Croatian/Portuguese/Italian!" and that difference is really inconsequential, meaning it doesn't usually get people up in arms about anything. Kind of amusing.
 
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ive found that im most attracted to white females, as i am white myself. But ive quite a few latinos and japanese and stuff that were hot as well, so i wouldnt put a limit on it. Im usually not attracted to blacks and arabs, but if one came along that was exeptional, im sure i wouldnt mind.
 
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ive found that im most attracted to white females, as i am white myself. But ive quite a few latinos and japanese and stuff that were hot as well, so i wouldnt put a limit on it. Im usually not attracted to blacks and arabs, but if one came along that was exeptional, im sure i wouldnt mind.
Latinas and Arabs look very much alike, except maybe the nose.
 
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Race does not matter to me unless there is a huge cultural difference that may get in the way. I dont date African Americans because I have never felt attracted to them, but otherwise I have dated out of my race.
 
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I prefer the same race really, Germanic, blondes or brunettes. Can't remember seeing a black woman that have ever attracted me. And when it comes to asian, latinos, middle-eastern then some of them might look pretty, but they usually don't attract me either.

Not sure why I feel like that, I guess it is because Norway mostly have just Norwegians, and the other races also have different cultures. Those from other contries here usually keep for themselves and make a kind of ghetto where they still keep on to their language and traditions.
 
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I don't care about race/color. Even if God told me to marry someone that had blue skin (e.g. Mystique from X-men) I would do it without question.

LOL!! Like it'd be such a "sacrifice" to date Mystique! Of course, with her, you get it all because of her special ability to turn into anyone you want!
 
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For me it doesn't matter for me as long as she is hot.
Actually, when I was young, I was partial to Japanese girls.
I know a lot of people that have racist families too, and that factors into their choice of a mate even if they're not racist themselves.

I strongly suspect that many women who SAY that they'd date someone of any race are insincere and are saying what they're saying because it "sounds good" EVEN THOUGH this is one area in which it's okay to have racial preferences. I think that what's much more indicative is the race of the men they've actually dated. Also, having a fantasy about a celebrity (whether for men or for women doesn't count!) As to men, most men are such "pigs" that they'd date anyone attractive and they really mean it because they're only thinking of one thing!

With that said, the last three women I've dated are Asian, Caucasian, and African American.
 
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I strongly suspect that many women who SAY that they'd date someone of any race are insincere and are saying what they're saying because it "sounds good" EVEN THOUGH this is one area in which it's okay to have racial preferences. I think that what's much more indicative is the race of the men they've actually dated. Also, having a fantasy about a celebrity (whether for men or for women doesn't count!) As to men, most men are such "pigs" that they'd date anyone attractive and they really mean it because they're only thinking of one thing!

With that said, the last three women I've dated are Asian, Caucasian, and African American.

I say what I mean. That being said, I don't see myself dating an African American man. For me personally, it's not necessarily the skin colour but cultural differences in most cases...not all. Not to mention, my dad would likelyl disown me. :(

I've dated two Latinos and would date one again. Middle Eastern-decent men don't do it for me though but I did once go on a date with a guy from Kuwait when I was in college. He was nice.

The main thing is how I'm treated. I haven't had much in the way of positive experience with my own race. :confused:
 
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I strongly suspect that many women who SAY that they'd date someone of any race are insincere and are saying what they're saying because it "sounds good" EVEN THOUGH this is one area in which it's okay to have racial preferences. I think that what's much more indicative is the race of the men they've actually dated. Also, having a fantasy about a celebrity (whether for men or for women doesn't count!) As to men, most men are such "pigs" that they'd date anyone attractive and they really mean it because they're only thinking of one thing!

With that said, the last three women I've dated are Asian, Caucasian, and African American.

I disagree. I don't think anyone here is lying. If they had a racial/ethnic preference that they wanted to hide, they'd probably just not post in this thread. All of my family members who have dated or married non-white people have been female. I have dated white men and a black man. I would have no problem dating a Latino or Asian man or any ethnicity really. My only concern would be big cultural differences, so I probably wouldn't date someone who had very conservative views on women (such as: women should cover their faces, not work outside of the home, etc).
 
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First off, I care more about whether the culture meshes with me, than the race.

I do have racial preferences though in regard to dating though. They simply exist - that's that. I tend to prefer men closer to my own race (Caucasian) but I also like Latin men with that olive-skinned complexion (to come think about it, maybe even more so than the Caucasian). I also like good-looking Spanish/Portuguese men who look like Latin men. I tend to stop there when it comes to racial preferences in dating. I can't click with Asian men, or Indian/Paskistani men or the like.

Plenty of Arabs and Middle Easterners are like Latins in complexion - but I don't connect with their culture. Heck, now that I think about it, I don't even know if I connect with any culture. :|

I'm not exactly attracted to African-American men and they aren't attracted to me - but it's the culture more than anything else that I don't click with, that's all. However - strictly African men tend to be attracted to me.

I think that maybe I should have been born in South Africa or something. That's one of the only places where I feel that flocks of men would find me beautiful :scratch:
 
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First off, I care more about whether the culture meshes with me, than the race.

I do have racial preferences though in regard to dating though. They simply exist - that's that. I tend to prefer men closer to my own race (Caucasian) but I also like Latin men with that olive-skinned complexion (to come think about it, maybe even more so than the Caucasian). I also like good-looking Spanish/Portuguese men who look like Latin men. I tend to stop there when it comes to racial preferences in dating. I can't click with Asian men, or Indian/Paskistani men or the like.

Plenty of Arabs and Middle Easterners are like Latins in complexion - but I don't connect with their culture. Heck, now that I think about it, I don't even know if I connect with any culture. :|

I'm not exactly attracted to African-American men and they aren't attracted to me - but it's the culture more than anything else that I don't click with, that's all. However - strictly African men tend to be attracted to me.

I think that maybe I should have been born in South Africa or something. That's one of the only places where I feel that flocks of men would find me beautiful :scratch:

I totally understand what you're saying when you talk about culture. However, there isn't a complete overlap between race and culture. For example, there are Asians and African Americans and Latinos who grew up in a mostly white neighborhood and attended mostly white schools which is different from if they grew up in an "ethnic neighborhood" and had friends who were mostly the same race. There are Caucasians who studied abroad or did missionary work in an Asian country as well as Caucasians who grew up in mostly black neighborhoods. Etc.
 
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