I have been dating a guy for four months who lives about 40 miles away. We see each other on the weekends. He is a christian, non abusive, really good job and we get along it is just he has never tried to kiss me. I asked him why and he said I had something about germs (I think he was joking). I should hope if we get married he would kiss me (along with sex). Does him not kissing me while dating mean he only thinks of me as a buddy? One of my lady friends I spoke to said he is just respecting me.
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Does not show affection
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This could go either way, Stef. With teaching out there that we aren't suppose to have any sexual or even sexy contact till we are married, that could be respect.
But then others have come to CF and told how they thought it was respect while dating and after marriage there was maybe sex once in 3 to 6 months.
Personally, if a woman put in that situation I'd be saying good bye. Others would think it was love.
For sure have a serious talk with him. Or snuggle up with him and see how comfortable he is with it.
But then others have come to CF and told how they thought it was respect while dating and after marriage there was maybe sex once in 3 to 6 months.
Personally, if a woman put in that situation I'd be saying good bye. Others would think it was love.
For sure have a serious talk with him. Or snuggle up with him and see how comfortable he is with it.
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hmm, is he showing you other forms of affection? I.e, holding hands, putting his arm around you or doing other gestures of respect like holding the door open and what not? If so, then I suppose his lack of lip lock could be respect. However, if you only get along well in terms of agreeance then I would probably end this relationship. You mentioned hoping he would kiss you if you married someday. So I'm guessing you are developing deeper feelings for him, which is normal but you need to have a mutual level of attraction. I like dayhikers suggestion of having a serious talk. your feelings are important and if they aren't shared then it's time to move on.
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Ask him about that. We can guess. He might just not be affectionate. Or he might be so full of passion and affection that he's afraid if he kissed you, the flood gates would open and he could not contain it anymore. Why don't you ask him.
If he's spending money on you, he may be interested in more than being a buddy.
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