Thanks for these words! I agree- I think that’s where I’m finally getting to. If he wants me I just want him to do something and I don’t want to even date someone that I had to pursue.
If you two start dating, one of you two will have to pursue. Whether you should or not depends on factors you have not shared.
- Is he introverted, or extroverted? And which of these traits show when he is around women?
- Does he subscribe to the weird notion that he must not date anyone unless he has gotten a clear revelation from the Lord?
- Does he subscribe to the philosophy that people should just be friends until they're ready to get engaged or at least "very serious"?
- What are the nature of these invitations? Who else does he invite? Are there any other females that he invites, and if so, does he pay more attention to you than he does to them?
- Does he seem to want to maximize or minimize conversations with you?
Personally, I would appreciate it if a woman I liked would ask me out. I think that should be encouraged more in the church, I do not think we would have as many singles in the church today as we would if we did. As an introvert myself who has gone through his share of rejections, I would say that ceasing to answer my calls would communicate rejection, and any woman who has done that would have to actively pursue me very steadfastly in order to earn the opportunity for a relationship with me. Feigning disinterest or playing "hard to get" is not going to get a woman any closer to a relationship with me.
But I don't know this guy. He might have no interest and not want anyone to think he has interest unless he asks you out. You've got to consider the aforementioned factors when determining his level of interest.