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Honestly, I think your pastor is over-reaching with a doctrine that doesn't have a sound basis in Scripture. Yes, 1 Timothy 3 does indeed talk about the qualifications for those who would lead a church, and that list does indeed include a stipulation that such a man be "the husband of one wife" (1 Timothy 3:2). It seems that if your pastor excludes you because of that passage, then he somehow thinks you are in some way still married to your first wife -- thus making you the husband of two wives.He based this logic on 1 Tim.3 where a bishop (overseer) is to be the husband of one wife. His claim was that, that applies to preachers as well. However, in my opinion of which I believe is biblical, these are two seperate ministries, and not all preachers are pastors or will become pastors. We pretty much agreed to disagree.
This will illuminate what the Bible says about divorce a bit more clearly...Honestly, I think your pastor is over-reaching with a doctrine that doesn't have a sound basis in Scripture. Yes, 1 Timothy 3 does indeed talk about the qualifications for those who would lead a church, and that list does indeed include a stipulation that such a man be "the husband of one wife" (1 Timothy 3:2). It seems that if your pastor excludes you because of that passage, then he somehow thinks you are in some way still married to your first wife -- thus making you the husband of two wives.
The Greek for that passage is pretty clear and the King James and others all translate that passage quite literally. The passage does not say "Husband of only one wife ever" nor "Husband of only a first wife." It says "husband of one wife" -- or for you NIV users, "husband of but one wife." In either case, the clear implication (at least to me) is that God wants men who are married for love and for life, just as Adam and Eve (1 man, 1 wife) became "one flesh." The implication is that "bishops" ought not to be men who have two or more wives -- thus being men who may have married for social, financial, political or purely sexual reasons. The passage does not specify nor does it imply that the man may not have been divorced or widowed and then remarried.
The only other prejudice I could think that your pastor might have would be that you have been divorced and remarried, and that he does not recognize those as legal in the eyes of God. It is plain, however, that he does recognize them, as he has accepted you as a teacher in other areas of the church.
As a divorced man who remarried and is studying for the pastorate, I honestly think your pastor is confused or that he is perhaps over-interpreting a doctrine of your particular denomination. I have had my own call discerned and confirmed by a Baptist preacher, an evangelical pastor, and an Episcopal elder. I can't see why you would be disqualified for the pastorate.
I remember reading that article when it appeared, and I was intrigued by Instone-Brewer's socio-historical read on divorce. As a divorced man remarried, of course I want there to be some allowance within God's church for people who simply cannot function while they are together.This will illuminate what the Bible says about divorce a bit more clearly...
http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2007/october/20.26.html?start=1
I don't agree.I remember reading that article when it appeared, and I was intrigued by Instone-Brewer's socio-historical read on divorce. As a divorced man remarried, of course I want there to be some allowance within God's church for people who simply cannot function while they are together.
I did not agree to divorce easily, but I knew my own faults and I acknowledged that my own sinfulness had ruined my marriage to the point where my ex-wife didn't feel like even God could repair it. (Oh ye of little faith!) Anyway, we split, we divorced, we met new people, both got engaged, I remarried, she's due to get remarried next year, and we are both happier and our families are better off in the long run. The rest of my testimony is all over these forums, but suffice to say that the result of our divorce has been God-glorifying.
That having been said, there is a lot of disagreement among scholars, pastors and theologians as to the validity of Instone-Brewer's interpretation of divorce passages in the Bible. Too often, when we find out something "new" about the socio-political situation in Palestine at the time, we read those ideas into Scripture and try to reinterpret what has been "known" for centuries. In such cases, some people are sure they've gotten the "ultimate" understanding of God's Word. But remember this: Such interpretations assume that God Himself would allow His inspired Word to be influenced by temporal concerns, that He did not inspire the writer to put something down that is truly eternal. When we assume that, then even more verses become suspect, and we find ourselves doubting if we ever can know what was truly intended. As a firm believer not only in Scripture as God-breathed but also as Spirit-protected, I do not think God would have allowed His Word to be grossly misinterpreted for 1900 years, only to have the "real" interpretation of the Savior's words come to light in a period of rampant immorality. That just seems a little too convenient for a liberal interpretation of Scripture, if you follow me.
Nonetheless, I do think Instone-Brewer's article and book can offer us food for thought, prompting us to look at the Bible as a whole -- as we always should do -- and not just laying down church doctrine based on one particular passage. In that case, we ought not to rely solely on 1 Timothy 3 for our understanding of the role of elders/bishops and deacons, we should look at all of Scripture, and then we'll find that it is not the acts that God seeks but the heart of the man, regardless of his marital status. His heart will rule his life, and his life will display who reigns, the Spirit or the flesh. A man with only one wife who contributes to his ministry would seem to have himself under control, whereas a man with a wife and a mistress plainly does not, regardless of their roles in his life. As I said, the pastor is narrowly interpreting a passage that has generally never been interpreted that way before.
I guess I wasn't clear before. I am not saying that some passages in the Bible might not have a specific sense when interpreted in the light of the times. Your mustard seed example is a very good one. Honestly, not being a horticulturalist I still think of the mustard seed as the smallest seed. The point is not that the mustard seed is the absolute smallest seed in the whole world, the point is that it is so tiny and yet produces a good-size tree (or shrub, depending on your perspective). But comparing a mustard seed to other common seeds does not depend on the time or the place. Pretty much anyone who has ever seen a mustard seed next to a grain of wheat or an apple seed will notice how tiny it is.I don't agree.
You see, the Bible was not written to Americans. Not to say that it doesn't apply to us, not saying that at all. But it was written to the people in the time of Jesus (the New Testament, anyway-- the OT was written to various peoples at various times), and thus the NT contains allegories, parables, etc. that only make sense when you understand the culture of the time.