Does anyone here ever worry that they'll be single forever? I'm 18 and from my knowledge nobody has ever liked me. I think I'm good enough looking. Sometimes I even think a guy likes me, because they start to act funny around me, but they never ask me out. I'm kind of a quiet person, do guys not like quiet people? I have a great loving family, but sometimes I would like a boyfriend.
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I was actually thinking that same thing today myself. I have been single going on four years now and a lot of my single friends are starting to get married or engaged so sometimes I feel a little alone but........hopefully things will get better. All I can say is God has his perfect timing.
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invisiblebabe
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It's frustrating waiting when nobody seems to be around, isn't it? I was there once.
Saying "your time will come" seems so cliche and unhelpful.... but at the same time, it is true to a degree.... once you start dating and being in relationships, a ton changes, and you can't go back to the way it was. Sometimes I wish I hadn't thrown myself into the relationship scene so early.
As for being quiet, nothing wrong with that at all
I'm an introvert (but I'll talk anyone's ear off one on one.. haha) and figured from early on that I would be best matched with a guy who is also an introvert. So, perhaps you should check out some of the quiet guys.
Saying "your time will come" seems so cliche and unhelpful.... but at the same time, it is true to a degree.... once you start dating and being in relationships, a ton changes, and you can't go back to the way it was. Sometimes I wish I hadn't thrown myself into the relationship scene so early.
As for being quiet, nothing wrong with that at all
I'm an introvert (but I'll talk anyone's ear off one on one.. haha) and figured from early on that I would be best matched with a guy who is also an introvert. So, perhaps you should check out some of the quiet guys.
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Starcradle
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Not particularly. What concerns me upon occasion (as much as I endeavor to refrain from doing so) is the possibility of having to live without the man I presently love, who at this point is only a dear friend. However, I am fully cognizant that the Lord's will is not only supreme yet best, and I am willing to surrender to it irrrelevant of what it is.
No one has ever had genuine, romantic sentiments toward me and I am 29!
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You are young kid so please take your time and keep on being young because you are only young once as well as take your time being single because God would want you single for all the right reasons and not have a boyfriend for the wrong ones.
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discipleofHim
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Why do you people dwell on it so much? I find myself free to do so many more things being single than I ever was able to do in a relationship. I see people that are so preoccupied with finding "the one" or trying to do something about there singleness they're cheating themselves out of some of the finest things in life.
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Chihiro99 said:
I may be single forever. But I wouldn't say that I worry about it. There's nothing wrong with a life of singleness and if that's what God wants for me then it will be what is best.
As others have said though - you're 18. There are tons of people who have never had a romantic relationship yet at 18. And a lot of them end up getting married when they are older. Furthermore, the bulk of romantic relationships in high school are pretty shallow and it's no great loss not to have had one.
There are many different guys out there, and they all have different likes and dislikes. Don't worry about whether or not guys in general like this or that. Just concentrate on being the person who God made you to be. Not everyone will be attracted to that person, but some people will be. Considering that you can only marry one person at a time, that's probably a good thing.
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Sketcher
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You're only 18, you have time. Guys like quiet girls, it's just harder to get to know them. It really sounds like you've got a lot going for you since you even think you're attractive. Trying to convince a pretty woman that she really is pretty when she refuses to believe it is about as fun as being locked out in the cold.
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TriptychR
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discipleofHim said:
I agree with you, but I think it may be harder to prove this to those who have never been in a relationship. While singleness can often be underrated, there is also a craving to know the experiences of being with someone as well. I dare say it's insatiable until it's actually felt.
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VivDaGurl
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Like others said, you are only 18 and I'm already 27. I'm also very worried that I would never get married. 
When I see couples together or receiving invitation cards from couples getting married, the craving of having someone in my life is very strong. Well, what can I say but to let God handle this part of my life?
When I see couples together or receiving invitation cards from couples getting married, the craving of having someone in my life is very strong. Well, what can I say but to let God handle this part of my life?
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I feel the same way too sometimes. Its hard especially in college, when most of my friends go out to clubs and parties..and I dont go, because I want to please God. Sometimes I wish that God would hurry and send my scripture quoting, Bible carrying, I love Jesus t-shirt wearing, praise and worship leading, youth pastering, praying, God fearing, God loving, God seeking, God pleasing man. . .LOL. . .but i would rather be single until he comes. I try to think of it this way: You are already commited to him (the one you will someday marry) so there is no use in "looking" for him. He will come when God sees fit. He will come when you probably are not even looking. God knows the desires of your heart, and He wants to give them to you. Be patient in Him. God understands our needs, desires, concerns....etc. God has impecable timing as well. Keep praying. I pray and ask God to send my husband..and I thank Him for sending him. It will be wonderful the day he arrives. . .so look forward to it!
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Peter_in_Christ
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Try not to compare yourself with others, the right time will come... we are all unique in Gods eyes, personalities are similar and different in many ways...
I like to be by myself often as it helps me to listen out for God and not be clouded by they earthly things of life, you get to see things from a different perspective, you'll notice that there are many people like you including myself, from time to time you may like to take the initiative on things from a Godly sense.
Commit everything to the Lord through prayer and things will fall in to place in time...
Peter
I like to be by myself often as it helps me to listen out for God and not be clouded by they earthly things of life, you get to see things from a different perspective, you'll notice that there are many people like you including myself, from time to time you may like to take the initiative on things from a Godly sense.
Commit everything to the Lord through prayer and things will fall in to place in time...
Peter
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Chihiro99 said:
Yes ,I think of it sometimes. But it doesent worry me. If someone don't talk to you, it doesen't mean he don't like you. (When I was in School, no girl wanted to talk to me). Some boys think that they are not good enough for you if you are pretty.
Be your self and don't worry so much. Sooner or later you will get a boyfriend, and then you will be glad you didn't date a bunch of boys.
God bless.
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soda
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I have thought about that too. but it doesn't scare me. I mean sometimes it makes me a little bit sad, but normally I'm absolutly fine with my single being. i really enjoy my freedom and what comes with it. if it'd stay like this forever, I think I would not really have a problem with it.
I hope you're able to relate to that. and I hope you can live your life everyday as it'd be your last - no matter if you're in a relationship or single.
bless
I hope you're able to relate to that. and I hope you can live your life everyday as it'd be your last - no matter if you're in a relationship or single.
bless
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The feelings go by and sometimes they can be heavy to carry. However, they don't have to be there forever - or at last they don't have to be as painful. Hope is something that must be practiced - if you don't use it, you'll lose it. Hope has to be built on trust in God and subject to His desires, but in all cases hope has to be nurtured day by day, or else it will wither and die. Keep your hope healthy by providing it opportunities, praying, and seeing the other good things in life.
(hence I'm going camping with the regional church near Austin, TX this weekend - hope it's a pretty weekend.)
(hence I'm going camping with the regional church near Austin, TX this weekend - hope it's a pretty weekend.)
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I feel this way a lot mostly because I have made mistakes and have been in a couple very serious relationships. It's strange that I found this thread because more recently I have been feeling like I am not worthy enough to be blessed with a wife. I mean, I feel soooo guilty that I didn't preserve myself for her, especially if my wife did that for me.
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