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Do you trust condoms?
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Skaloop
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Heck no. I don't trust condoms anyway, and don't ever plan on using them except as a last resort. Good thing I'm not promiscuous.But just the mere chance of it breaking is enough to make me paranoid and never use them. So there's no way I'd risk the thing breaking and then me being stuck with the AIDS.
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Are broken condoms a regular occurrence? I've been with my wife for seven years. In those seven years, we've had sex hundreds of times, 99% of those times with a condom. There has not been a single broken or fallen-off condom in all of our experience.
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I've been with my boyfriend for well over a year and we've had one break once. I'm on birth control, though, so while it made us slightly nervous for a few days we were never /really/ worried and it never turned out to be a problem.
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You didn't? Yup, there is a such thing as the female condom.
http://www.who.int/reproductive-health/stis/female_condom.htm
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i'm not sure what that means but i'm pretty sure it doesn't need it... i'm completely grossed out... it does make me appreciate my husband so much more knowing there are guys that think like in that thread if only i could see him more than a month a year... 
if only i could see him more than a month a year...
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Girls, too. My wife is into everything mentioned (and a whole lot more) just as much as I am, if not more so. There's nothing gross or perverted about any of it.
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I don't consider it perverted either, just... not for everyone. If it floats you and your partners' boats, then go for it. If not, then don't. If one wants it and the other doesn't, then talk about it and come to an agreement you can both live with. Simple as that.
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I fully agree with that. Nobody has to do anything, and nobody should do anything they don't want to do. On the other hand, dismissing things outright because of some misconception about it being gross could rob people of a very valuable and enjoyable part of their sexual repertoire.
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The question was would you trust your life to a condom.
Several years back, when the AIDS epidemic first really came to world attention, a doctor I knew was in my office as some comment about safe-sex came up. I asked his medical opinion.
He told me he would never put the life of anyone he cared about on a condom and told me that AIDS is a hearty virus, much stronger in its own ability to survive than most STD's are. That is why the concern over shared needles is so high. You cannot simply sterialize or alcohol-away AIDS.
It is also easier to get through sexual contact with infected people than other STD's are because your body's immune system often does pretty good at some of the other STD's, but it can't fight AIDS.
It is more dangerous than other STD's. There are no cures, and it is deadly. Besides those two things, it attacks your immune system so that other deadly diseases have a much greater chance of attacking you as well.
After spelling these things out, this doctor said, "Now, consider the condom's reliability rate. A properly used condom is a pretty rare thing. People put it on too late, after they've played around awhile and some seminal fluid has been exposed to body parts, thinking it is okay because they have not actually penetrated. They put it on incorrectly and it comes off or it bursts. They decide "just this once" not to use it. They don't use lubricants, and it tears. They use the wrong lubricants and it deteriorates. They move away from their partner without securing it, and lose it inside the partner.
The reliability rates are based on calcuations of how many people reported using them who did get pregnant, and how many people reported using them who did not get pregnant.
Pregnancy cannot happen every time a woman has sex unless she really has bad timing. You only have a few days out of every month when a woman is able to conceive. So when we talk about 10% failure rates, we are not saying that only 10% of the time a condom was used it allowed seminal fluid through. We are saying that it only failed 10% of the time when a woman was ovulating. It may have failed 15 times when she wasn't ovulating, but those 15 times do not appear in the statistics because no one reports those. There aren't any tests or surveys saying, "How often did you notice that it broke, or slipped, or leaked when you weren't ovulating?"
On top of that, you have to be careful when you buy one. Is it "old"? If so, odds of it failing are greater. Is it one of those that advertises "lambs skin"? Don't get it. That will let through the HIV virus, even though it will not let through sperm.
According to body.com "Several studies clearly show that condom breakage rates in this country are less than 2%."
Okay, think about that. Seems low doesn't it.
If you have sex once a week in a year, you've had it 52 times. That means that statistically, at least once that year your condom probably broke.
Even if it wasn't at a time conception was a problem, it was a time AIDS could have been.
All of that said - - if you are going to have sex outside of marriage PLEASE use one. Because there were 51 times that year it probably saved your life.
Several years back, when the AIDS epidemic first really came to world attention, a doctor I knew was in my office as some comment about safe-sex came up. I asked his medical opinion.
He told me he would never put the life of anyone he cared about on a condom and told me that AIDS is a hearty virus, much stronger in its own ability to survive than most STD's are. That is why the concern over shared needles is so high. You cannot simply sterialize or alcohol-away AIDS.
It is also easier to get through sexual contact with infected people than other STD's are because your body's immune system often does pretty good at some of the other STD's, but it can't fight AIDS.
It is more dangerous than other STD's. There are no cures, and it is deadly. Besides those two things, it attacks your immune system so that other deadly diseases have a much greater chance of attacking you as well.
After spelling these things out, this doctor said, "Now, consider the condom's reliability rate. A properly used condom is a pretty rare thing. People put it on too late, after they've played around awhile and some seminal fluid has been exposed to body parts, thinking it is okay because they have not actually penetrated. They put it on incorrectly and it comes off or it bursts. They decide "just this once" not to use it. They don't use lubricants, and it tears. They use the wrong lubricants and it deteriorates. They move away from their partner without securing it, and lose it inside the partner.
The reliability rates are based on calcuations of how many people reported using them who did get pregnant, and how many people reported using them who did not get pregnant.
Pregnancy cannot happen every time a woman has sex unless she really has bad timing. You only have a few days out of every month when a woman is able to conceive. So when we talk about 10% failure rates, we are not saying that only 10% of the time a condom was used it allowed seminal fluid through. We are saying that it only failed 10% of the time when a woman was ovulating. It may have failed 15 times when she wasn't ovulating, but those 15 times do not appear in the statistics because no one reports those. There aren't any tests or surveys saying, "How often did you notice that it broke, or slipped, or leaked when you weren't ovulating?"
On top of that, you have to be careful when you buy one. Is it "old"? If so, odds of it failing are greater. Is it one of those that advertises "lambs skin"? Don't get it. That will let through the HIV virus, even though it will not let through sperm.
According to body.com "Several studies clearly show that condom breakage rates in this country are less than 2%."
Okay, think about that. Seems low doesn't it.
If you have sex once a week in a year, you've had it 52 times. That means that statistically, at least once that year your condom probably broke.
Even if it wasn't at a time conception was a problem, it was a time AIDS could have been.
All of that said - - if you are going to have sex outside of marriage PLEASE use one. Because there were 51 times that year it probably saved your life.
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