Do you sabotage yourself?

[memoriesbymichelle]

So I am finally admitting to myself that I sabotage myself. I want to be thin, but when I start losing weight and almost getting to my goal, I quit and start eating crap and gain some of it back. I think I do this so I can have an excuse to not look my best, but also to avoid possible relationships. Those that know me here, know I have fears about that, but lately I really really honestly do not know how I feel, whether I would like a relationship or not. Thinking of the energy it takes, and the time, exhausts my mind. Also my heart is fragile so I'm not looking forward to any cracks or breaks or shatterings. Some widows start dating about 2 years after their husbands/wives pass, some sooner and some later. It's been 7 years for me and I know it's different for everyone and I'm OK with that, but IDK, ya know?

I think I do this in other areas of my life too, like my finances. I am working on that area alot lately since my finances are about to change to IDK what.

SO....anybody? Do you sub consciously or consciously sabotage yourself in some area of your life? What should we do about it, if anything, besides the obvious of not doing THAT anymore lol?

 

[dayhiker]

Hi Michelle,
What an honest post. You have a lot of respect from me for the honest posts you have been making the last few weeks. I noticed the change in tone a couple of weeks ago.
I don't have any words of wisdom. But wanted you to know you are loved and respected for the tough situations you have been dealing with and the work you are putting in to deal with them.

HUGZ

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Hi Michelle,
What an honest post. You have a lot of respect from me for the honest posts you have been making the last few weeks. I noticed the change in tone a couple of weeks ago.
I don't have any words of wisdom. But wanted you to know you are loved and respected for the tough situations you have been dealing with and the work you are putting in to deal with them.

HUGZ

Why thank you dayhiker! I never was one to beat around the bush (unless it's a burning bush lol) I hope you are noticing a positive change and not the opposite

 

[dayhiker]

Its always good to take an honest look. I'm sure it will help you get to where you want to be.

 

[Life2Christ]

I was listening to a sermon given by Charles Stanley recently and he said that he believes that people sabotage their own efforts because they have been treated badly in the past by people they love and they carry that unworthiness around everywhere. So he recommended that people deal with that.

He also said that people are always trying to put us down but that it doesn't matter what people say or think (because they are so flawed) only what God thinks of us because is perfect and He loves us.

 

[dayhiker]

Yes it is easy to accept others view that we are good enough therefore sabotage ourself. It's not easy to ignore what other people say or think about' us. So he should say to ourselves that is what they think about me. But I think this about myself why should I think their negative thoughts about me.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I was listening to a sermon given by Charles Stanley recently and he said that he believes that people sabotage their own efforts because they have been treated badly in the past by people they love and they carry that unworthiness around everywhere. So he recommended that people deal with that.

He also said that people are always trying to put us down but that it doesn't matter what people say or think (because they are so flawed) only what God thinks of us because is perfect and He loves us.

Good advice! I love Charles Stanley! Saying you are going to deal with something is one thing and how to do it is another, though.