The effects of what we did with #1 still carry over to today (and he's 6 now) and I don't think I realised that would happen when he was a baby!
I'm curious to find out what you mean by that.
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The effects of what we did with #1 still carry over to today (and he's 6 now) and I don't think I realised that would happen when he was a baby!
I really really want to avoid the nursing in bed though for personal reasons.
I just wanted to add that in my experience, finding one's maternal voice is an ongoing process. Each new child leads you deeper and further in and stretches you in ways you've never imagined. It's as though each child adds another pitch to your voice, another layer of complexity. I guess I am just saying to stay open to the idea that though these things vibe with you right now, they might not as your experience of motherhood grows--just like co-sleeping for you--your experiences have made that something which you before had wanted to do, but now do not. Given the right set of extreme circumstances, it's very possible that you would again change your mind.Oh yea, I've learned that now after finding my maternal instinct. With my son (he's my only --- for now, God willing), I couldn't find my inner voice as mom in the beginning, so I did what had helped me survive in life til then, I parented (lived life) based on my intellect over my instinct. I don't plan on following any one person's method of parenting strictly ever again, I only did that back then because I could not hear my instincts speak to me. Now that I have found my maternal 'voice', I am in a much better place. I love my books still and will very much incorporate what it is I have read along the way with my next one. These are things, though, that really vibe with me on the inside now (in my heart and soul and not just my mind).
I really really want to avoid the nursing in bed though for personal reasons.