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[Svt4Him]

I sometimes find people who are unmarried to have a very naive view on marriage. But I don't dismiss unmarried people, I just know it's a different dynamic. Even if you've lived with your bf forever, it's different being married. I heard that over 84% of people who live together get divorced after they get married because it is different.

 

[searle29678]

I sometimes find people who are unmarried to have a very naive view on marriage. But I don't dismiss unmarried people, I just know it's a different dynamic. Even if you've lived with your bf forever, it's different being married. I heard that over 84% of people who live together get divorced after they get married because it is different.

I freaked out when I heard a similar statistic, I thought "Oh my goodness what if that happens to me" But I think a lot of people that live together get married simply because one partner just won't leave the issue alone and the other gets married just because they dont' want to lose that person. Living together in the short run is more convenient because you can just pick up and leave (assuming that you don't consider yourselves commonlaw) and marriage can be a scary thing because of the commitment of it all. It's permanent (or supposed to be) Robert and I both went into this knowing that it was something we both wanted for our own peace of mind (can't live "in sin" forever) and love for one another. We knew we wanted it and neither of us was coerced into it.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I think I'll be more likely to ask questions about relationships in here now (if that's ok), because my relationship is not as simplified as a 'dating' thing anymore - everything we do together is to help us grow towards being a healthy spouse for one another.

I find that when I ask a question, I get more sensible, useful information from the married folk, rather than those just dating, so as long as it's ok, I might start asking my questions in this area as well. I guess because most of my questions will have to do with how behaviours/beliefs will affect marriage (and if my belief is healthy/Godly, whatever), rather than 'how much do you love your bf', 'long distance relationships' etc (which seems to be the main threads in CC). And I can't go around in Engagement forum for too much longer - it does my head in!

Thanks guys, and I just wanted to say - I know there's a major difference between marriage and just living together - it's part of the reason I moved out. I guess that's part of the reason I feel we're fairly close to an engagement - it doesn't seem like there's too much more we CAN grow closer together in, that can be done safely outside the bounds of marriage.

Still praying though...

Sasch

 

[LynnMcG]

I heard that over 84% of people who live together get divorced after they get married because it is different.

How scary is that? Same thing with traditional marriage statitics - less than a 50/50 chance anymore. But don't you think a relationship with Christ makes ALL the difference? Sometimes I'll here statistics like that and think, ok that's fine. But my Father in Heaven is in charge of my life. So if he ordains it, it will be done!

 

[If Not For Grace]

If someone gives me advice that I don't necessarily agree with, I just tend to smile and say thank you and move on. So long as the attitude behind it is right, then it's fine with me.

I bet you are a Great Mom too!