Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (5)

Inkachu · May 9, 2009

I'm still firmly convinced that nobody will ever simply love me just the way I am, with all my flaws, to the point where I actually feel loved enough to believe it.

Ah well. I live vicariously through books

Tinkerbell33 · May 9, 2009

Inkabink said:
I'm still firmly convinced that nobody will ever simply love me just the way I am, with all my flaws, to the point where I actually feel loved enough to believe it.

Ah well. I live vicariously through books

Don't believe the lie that Satan wants you to believe.

white dove · May 9, 2009

Inkabink said:
I'm still firmly convinced that nobody will ever simply love me just the way I am, with all my flaws, to the point where I actually feel loved enough to believe it.

I found men like that... and if I can, anyone can.

I would like to add that even though you find men like this, things still might not work out just wonderfully.

But, there is still hope!

CoachR64 · May 9, 2009

I just still have a hard time understanding internet crushes. Maybe it's because I don't open myself up much on the internet to those types of emotions. It just all seems so impersonal "fake" to me when it comes to feelings of "love" or even "lust" online.

Coach

Stravinsk · May 9, 2009

CoachR64 said:
I just still have a hard time understanding internet crushes. Maybe it's because I don't open myself up much on the internet to those types of emotions. It just all seems so impersonal "fake" to me when it comes to feelings of "love" or even "lust" online.

Coach

It's the same for me. I need to really get to know someone (on the internet) for there to be a crush. It also helps to actually hear their voice and see them in action too (like video chat).

I've found that in one case, when I finally spoke to someone on the phone - my perception of them changed dramatically. Not only the tone of voice but the words that come out in casual conversation aren't so easily retracted as they are in text chat or on an mb where they can be thought about beforehand to meet perceptions.

Niels · May 9, 2009

CoachR64 said:
I just still have a hard time understanding internet crushes. Maybe it's because I don't open myself up much on the internet to those types of emotions. It just all seems so impersonal "fake" to me when it comes to feelings of "love" or even "lust" online.

Coach

I suppose I understand them, but I also see where you're coming from. Real life crushes and internet crushes aren't quite the same. That's why I think an internet crush should just be for fun. Possibly a way to meet, but nothing serious until you've known each other in person for a while. If it somehow beats the odds, and turns into something significant, great. If not, it was just an internet crush.

That said, I think we should be careful not to inadvertently play with other peoples' hearts. Not everybody keeps the same degree of psychological distance online.

Inkachu · May 9, 2009

This is why on the internet, it's usually just a passing interest, not a real, starry-eyed, heart-thumping CRUSH.

And thanks Becky and White, for the encouragement. I don't know if I believe it, but thanks for being sweet anyway

CoachR64 · May 9, 2009

I hope people hear don't think I was making fun of them or thinking I was better than them because they get internet crushes... it's just not the way I operate and I have never understood it. The same reason I try and stay out of most mental illness type discussions, because I don't get it.... when I struggle, I usually just kick myself in the butt and tell myself to fix it.

Coach

.Mikha'el. · May 9, 2009

CoachR64 said:
it's just not the way I operate and I have never understood it.

That used to be me.

puffca · May 9, 2009

I'm like the opposite. I always feel/sense more things than I should and get myself into toubles.

Blank123 · May 9, 2009

finding love online ain't for everybody. I can totally understand people who don't want to get involved online because there are big risks involved that you wouldn't encounter meeting face-to-face. But it can and does work for a lot of people. it did for me anyways

.Mikha'el. · May 9, 2009

Someone ought to write a book entitled "I kissed online dating goodbye." I would surely read such a book right now.

Thunder Peel · May 9, 2009

Petrarch said:
Someone ought to write a book entitled "I kissed online dating goodbye." I would surely read such a book right now.

They should just include everything: "I Kissed Online, Real-Life, Imaginary, Fictional, Wishful, Desperate, Crazy, and Inter-dimensional Dating Goodbye."

trOlliJokinen · May 9, 2009

Thunder Peel said:
They should just include everything: "I Kissed Online, Real-Life, Imaginary, Fictional, Wishful, Desperate, Crazy, and Inter-dimensional Dating Goodbye."

no way in heck you're touching my inter-dimensional dating

HoosierCanuck · May 10, 2009

Thunder Peel said:
They should just include everything: "I Kissed Online, Real-Life, Imaginary, Fictional, Wishful, Desperate, Crazy, and Inter-dimensional Dating Goodbye."

hmmm...you're giving me an idea for my next career....author!!!

Julina · May 10, 2009

Petrarch said:
Someone ought to write a book entitled "I kissed online dating goodbye." I would surely read such a book right now.

why not write it?

.Mikha'el. · May 10, 2009

It would probably have to be a collorative effort amongst a few different CF members, including me.

Inkachu · May 10, 2009

I'm not going to promote kissing online dating goodbye, as long as I still see people finding their S.O.'s online. It does happen. Frequently.

I would promote a lot more caution and prudence in dating, period, whether online or offline

HoosierCanuck · May 10, 2009

I've thought about creating a new group: Future Hermits of North America

However....I would be the only member....HAHA

My dealings with people in general lately have left me wondering if I'm not even meant to be a part of the human race....let alone the dating world. (I've already established that I'm not qualified for dating)

nbiol · May 10, 2009

I'd totally join in on the book thing.

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