Do you feel...

[LadyOfMystery]

Like it's really hard to meet people nowadays? Like somehow todays society is so closed off that I feel like it's hard to break through.

It's like I can think of all the people I know and realize that we're all just a bunch of acquaintances and I can only truly count just a handful that have went past the mundane things like How's the weather.

So yeah, do you feel like it's harder to meet people in todays society? Or do you think it just depends on the person and how social they are?

 

[TraciDee]

I absolutely agree with this. I'm in a situation where I've moved about every 2-3 years all my life, so I've grown pretty used to meeting people. For some reason, though, my most recent transition has not been a good one. It's really hard to meet young people who have intentional relationships with Christ and one another. Post-school life, I'm just not sure where you go to meet young, Christ-following people who are looking to meet people. In my Church search I find either the young adult Bible studies are really sparsely/irregularly populated or filled with a very clique-ish group of people who seem rather opposed to getting to know someone new.

It's funny, I think technology has been a large part of what isolates us, yet it's also the place we can turn to when we're feeling alone and seeking conversation.

I also think it's really scary for a lot of people to be totally open, to let friendship grow to a deeper level. I've seen a lot of friends in my life fall away due to that overtime... it makes you really appreciate the people who will be vulnerable enough with you to cultivate a meaningful relationship.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Hi TraciDee! Welcome to the forum, btw.

I totally agree! I didn't mention this in the OP, but not only is it hard to meet another female but also a Christian one at that. Someone who isn't my complete opposite, you know?

I went to a Christian Coffee House a few years ago where you expect to meet new people, and everyone already had friends, and the girls all sat at one table and they were fine with me sitting there but like NO one talked to me. I went to where some of the guys were playing games (card games and the likes) and I was immediately welcomed, I was talked to, and they acted like I was one of them. It was a great feeling. But I felt let down by my own gender! So I ask the same question as you! Where in the world does a Christian girl go to make a friend with another female? lol

Yes! I totally agree with you. I feel like it has totally isolated us, and I feel like we can make friends online better than we can offline, but we talk about SO much online, if we ever met said person offline we'd hear crickets because we've talked about everything.

I agree here too, lol. I think technology has a lot to do with this as well. I fear we have entered too much personal info into the interwebs and then it comes back to bite us where now we feel paranoid and dont want to give anyone any personal information about ourselves. Does that make sense?

 

[KitKatMatt]

I don't know about "nowadays", but I have trouble meeting people because I live in an area that doesn't share my views or values.

I too went to a Christian gathering place (was a short lived smoothie hangout for Christians my age), and since no one was talking to me I started to do some college homework on a table.

A nice girl came to talk to me about what I was doing and I told her, then she was really standoffish because "girls have no need for that" (I was supposed to settle down after high school and start a family!).

I derailed the subject to talk about books instead, but that didn't work. She said she had purposefully dropped out of school to avoid reading "un-Christian things" and claimed she had never read any book but the Bible.

I was out of there quick and never looked back.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I don't know about "nowadays", but I have trouble meeting people because I live in an area that doesn't share my views or values.

I too went to a Christian gathering place (was a short lived smoothie hangout for Christians my age), and since no one was talking to me I started to do some college homework on a table.

A nice girl came to talk to me about what I was doing and I told her, then she was really standoffish because "girls have no need for that" (I was supposed to settle down after high school and start a family!).

I derailed the subject to talk about books instead, but that didn't work. She said she had purposefully dropped out of school to avoid reading "un-Christian things" and claimed she had never read any book but the Bible.

I was out of there quick and never looked back.

Whoaaa. lol I probably would have done the same thing.

 

[Cearbhall]

A nice girl came to talk to me about what I was doing and I told her, then she was really standoffish because "girls have no need for that" (I was supposed to settle down after high school and start a family!).

I derailed the subject to talk about books instead, but that didn't work. She said she had purposefully dropped out of school to avoid reading "un-Christian things" and claimed she had never read any book but the Bible.

I was out of there quick and never looked back.

This story made my day.

 

[anewman1993]

I'm a guy but feel the same way, even in college. Ive bounced around a couple diffrent "college" christian groups. The one I'm going to now is the first one that actually welcomed me with open arms and had several people my age. I'm tried of everyone already being married lol. I'm 21, for some reason everyone in churches tends to be a few years older than me an married, or engaged. I'm just in a very different place in life and would like to have some friends who arn't married lol. It doesn't help when it comes to meeting women to date either, I wish I knew where some of you who were serious about god hung out at, case I would go there