Do you ever want to break the rules?

[Lotar]

Last Saturday night I went to Knott's Scary Farm (lots of fun ). While there, I met two girls who had me "escort" them through one of the haunted houses. I went there with a bunch of friends, of which only one other was single (he was a little mad that both the girls went for me ). Anyways, neither of the girls were Christian, so I didn't persue it and parted ways. But being there with a bunch of couples, and having the experience of taking a girl through the haunted maze just made it so apparent how badly I want a girlfriend. The whole rest of the night, while fun, was a bit of a downer.

This seems to happen to me all the time. The only girls who seem to be attracted to me are either non-Christian or wierd. Sometimes I just want to break the rules and go with an unbeliever. It takes just about all the willpower I have to just perservere and keep on the straight and narrow. Does anyone else experience this sort of thing? How come cute unbelievers come up to me, but I can't get a good Christian girl, no matter how ugly she is? I guess the Lord has me waiting for someone (hopefully). But it sure would be nice to have kids while I'm still in my 20s.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Man I go thru that alllll the time!! I totally know what you mean. Man its so frustrating.

Like IF any guy looks at me, hes either a non believer or one that I just dont have anything in common with. Actually to think about it... I just dont get looks at all... heh... oh well

I am relying on God to be my match maker... and although at times its hard.... VERY hard because I really would like to be with someone... I just have to sit back and waite...

Its hard I totally know how you are feeling... trust me!

 

[JillLars]

Hey Lotar, if you don't mind me asking, how did you know these girls weren't Christian? Did you ask them? I'm not implying that you assumed they weren't, I am just curious as to how it comes up in a conversation, is it something you find out right away?

 

[Lotar]

I must admitt that I didn't ask. I just assumed because of some of the things I heard them say. Perhaps I'm being to judgemental.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

first off, congrats on nabbing BOTH girls. You remind me of myself at a younger age .. (ALL JOKES PEOPLE, ALL JOKES)

Here's my thought on "If I'm such a great catch, why haven't I been caught yet?"

I do beleive that God has ONE person who's perfect for us. Albiet, there may be hundreds that are CLOSE. Case in point, my ex-girlfriend and I could have been happily married, we could have made it work, but I'm not settling for second best. So, if I'm with one of the hundreds of runner's up, settling and "making it work", I'm missing out and I won't be available for the winnahh (winner) when she comes along. So, this leaves me thinking "What about HER?" she's almost PERFECT for me. Sure, she's may be close, but she's not, and I'm the type of person that would stick with something like that, thinking I could do it, I could make it happen. So, if God let me get into that situation, I'd stick myself there and wouldn't leave without a fight.

break for quote "I've learned not to hold onto anything too tightly in this life, it hurts too much when God has to pry it loose."

So now Ms. Second Place and I would both be hurt when God tells me to move on. That's not fair to her, and God could be preenting me from entering this situation.

So why settle for "good enough"? And don't forget that you'reonly 50% of the equation here. Your future Mrs. Lotar could very well be "making it work" with a second place. So God's got to pry her out of that without destroying her and what's his name.

Does that make any sense? I just typed without thinking it through too much.

 

[LifeInYou]

Ms. Second Place

I get your drift, but get this....I think I've discovered that God has a fetish with irony. The "1st place" woman you imagine by your side could very well be (and often is) entirely different then who the Big Man has chosen for ya. Stay open, that's all I'm sayin'.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I get your drift, but get this....I think I've discovered that God has a fetish with irony. The "1st place" woman you imagine by your side could very well be (and often is) entirely different then who the Big Man has chosen for ya. Stay open, that's all I'm sayin'.

True that, and in many cases, I've heard people say they're happier with the person they "weren't" interested in.

IMO, God knows more about me than I do, and he knows her too, so I'll just stay out of his way, and try to have a six-pack by the time she gets here.

(Noticing he's in a conversation with LIY again, iklepac13 presses play, and starts dancing to "I like the way you move" by Outkast... seeing as the last jam session was interrupted)"

 

[Roqstardeva]

I have always felt that way ... I feel so out of place.. I feel like I will never meet a good christian man. Every guy I meet is not christian and its so hard.

 

[James Sez]

I have always felt that way ... I feel so out of place.. I feel like I will never meet a good christian man. Every guy I meet is not christian and its so hard.

Maybe your lookin for love in all the wrong places

 

[LifeInYou]

(Noticing he's in a conversation with LIY again, iklepac13 presses play, and starts dancing to "I like the way you move" by Outkast... seeing as the last jam session was interrupted)"

teehee.....*takes note that iklepac uses LIY's weakness (dancing) to side track her from the conversation*


but uhm, ya....it's like single Christians have a harder task in finding a mate... they have to be Christian AND be 'the one'. Why is that TOO MUCH to ask??

 

[ebd]

This seems to happen to me all the time. The only girls who seem to be attracted to me are either non-Christian or wierd. Sometimes I just want to break the rules and go with an unbeliever. It takes just about all the willpower I have to just perservere and keep on the straight and narrow. Does anyone else experience this sort of thing? How come cute unbelievers come up to me, but I can't get a good Christian girl, no matter how ugly she is? I guess the Lord has me waiting for someone (hopefully). But it sure would be nice to have kids while I'm still in my 20s.

I hear you about the waiting room syndrome.

When I was in school (uni), I was asked out by non-Christian men and ended up saying no a lot. My social dating calendar was pretty non-existent.

I'm sure that you'll find the girl that God has for you to be attractive, in her character (you sound like a guy who is looking out for that when you mentioned about watching what those 2 girls were saying)...and I'm sure that you'll also find her physically attractive too!

God bless.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

but uhm, ya....it's like single Christians have a harder task in finding a mate... they have to be Christian AND be 'the one'. Why is that TOO MUCH to ask??

Our pool of possible mates is definately smaller in that respect, but then again God also specializes in miracles...

 

[ps139]

Lotar, who made these "rules" ? I can understand, and agree with the "rule" that you should marry a believer. I think it is common sense. But dating? Who knows, maybe you meet a girl who has always had questions about God, but nobody to ask? If you date a non-Christian, and you see that you won't be compatible, then break it off. But if she has a geniune interest in God, you may be able to help her. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Lotar, who made these "rules" ? I can understand, and agree with the "rule" that you should marry a believer. I think it is common sense. But dating? Who knows, maybe you meet a girl who has always had questions about God, but nobody to ask? If you date a non-Christian, and you see that you won't be compatible, then break it off. But if she has a geniune interest in God, you may be able to help her. Just my 2 cents.

You've got a good point, as long as we avoid "missionary dating". You wouldn't want someone's salvation to be cetered around a relationship.

Of course, I'll gladly date a non-beleiver. A date is a date IMO.

And I too, never got a copy of "the rules".

 

[PennylessZ28]

Who said you can't date a non-believer? Didn't Christ make himself known as the friend to sinners.

Live by example correct? If you meet someone, who knows, like ps139 ssaid, you might change them. I was a one of those beleivers who never understood or really commited. Just kept god in my head and thats about it.

My current g/f is all about God, and she changed me. And helped answer my questions.

 

[Lotar]

Personally, when I consider dating a girl, she has to be the type of girl I would marry. I have no problem with being friends with a non-believer.

Guess I'll just have to keep looking for the winnah as Iklepack13 says Good post btw.

 

[Roqstardeva]

Maybe your lookin for love in all the wrong places

I never go out looking.. it just happens that I met someone wherever I may be. I don't believe that there is a right or a wrong place.

 

[LifeInYou]

On the flip side, I met a guy once who was a Christian and he constantly pursued 'dating' non-believing females. He then came at me and I had to stop and ask myself...Is his faith really THAT important to him? Are we saying of God that his 'don't be unequally yoked' plan is just a suggestion and shouldn't be taken seriously? Or perhaps I'm just thinking that the act of dating is a more serious thing than others here? Errr.....

 

[Lotar]

On the flip side, I met a guy once who was a Christian and he constantly pursued 'dating' non-believing females. He then came at me and I had to stop and ask myself...Is his faith really THAT important to him? Are we saying to God that his 'don't be unequally yoked' plan is just a suggestion and shouldn't be taken seriously? Or perhaps I'm just thinking that the act of dating is a more serious thing than others here? Errr.....

I know what you mean. Isn't the whole point of dating to find the person you are going to marry?

 

[LifeInYou]

Isn't the whole point of dating to find the person you are going to marry?

...that's what I thought.