Do you consider intelligence important in a future spouse?

[Rhye]

MacFall, you keep bringing this thread back. How many times do I have to say a smart man is a sexy man.



Oh. You were answering a post. LOL

 

[MacFall]

Yes, well apparently according to the poster I answered, you are going woefully down the path of unrighteousness by wanting a sexy, intelligent man instead of a spiritual man. Because apparently, the two are mutually exclusive. Apparently we should marry people who do not meet our physical and intellectual needs. Or something like that.

 

[Rhye]

Yes, well apparently according to the poster I answered, you are going woefully down the path of unrighteousness by wanting a sexy, intelligent man instead of a spiritual man. Because apparently, the two are mutually exclusive. Apparently we should marry people who do not meet our physical and intellectual needs. Or something like that.

I didn't read his post honestly, but I did fail to mention that I DO agree with you on that last comment.

A person can be both. I'm not sure why someone has to be one or the other.

 

[KingCrimson250]

My issue with prizing spiritual maturity exclusively is that it, too, is transient. I pick a woman because she's this mind-blowingly Godly girl, great. But He works in ways we don't understand. Five years into our marriage, we try to have a kid, but she finds out she's barren. She's wanted a kid more than anything her whole life, and she just can't jive with this. Her faith falls apart, and for the next thirty years she's just barely following God, her heart ruled by bitterness.

Now if the only reason I married her is because she was so Godly, what's going to happen now? Where does that leave the relationship?

Here's my perspective on it: Your spiritual growth is going to come from God, not your spouse. Don't pick someone who's Godly because you want them to challenge you or to help you grow - that's God's responsibility, not their's. Rather, I think it makes the most sense to look for someone who's more or less on the same level spiritually as you. That way you're both starting in the same place, and when the inevitable twists and turns of life and faith come, it's easier to trace each other's paths, and relate to each other's situations. A man and a woman growing together in God, isn't that what it's all about?

 

[Stephen Kendall]

Being faithful and loving is paramount to me in a relationship, for that is what I give to her. The shallowness of the modern-day relationships that we have isn't good. All of those years of loving and devoting your all comes to nil when he or she flirts with adultery or wantonness. Faithfulness is what I can live with. My wife's beauty is nice, but her desire to be faithful and loving to me is most important. Having her to love God more than life helps a lot. I might be called to serve in the mission field one day, I pray. May God bless you all in your search in life. Remember, most is not quantifiable by smarts, looks and even personality, but plain old faithfulness and a loving cheerful heart that is there for you till the end is. Don't want the most of these add-ons for your marriage, but look at the glue that bonds first. Get it permanent. A Godly glue is the best way to be sure that you blessing will not come apart. If she follows the teachings of Christ, keeping the Faith and loves God over all, she is most likely a lot smarter than the most. The glue that marriage has will then mostly depend upon whether you have also such faith.

 

[KingCrimson250]

But the inevitable question is, how do you evaluate someone's faithfulness before making a serious long-term commitment to them?

 

[StartedAtEly]

How unintelligent is too unintelligent? And how do you gauge their intelligence? IQ? college degree?

I'll be honest: one girl that was interested in me made a lot of spelling mistakes in her communications with me and it was a huge turn off.

Depends. I'd like her to be reasonably intelligent, but she doesn't have to be too smart.

Having said that if a girl was VERY dumb, I wouldn't like it.

 

[Rhye]

My issue with prizing spiritual maturity exclusively is that it, too, is transient. I pick a woman because she's this mind-blowingly Godly girl, great. But He works in ways we don't understand. Five years into our marriage, we try to have a kid, but she finds out she's barren. She's wanted a kid more than anything her whole life, and she just can't jive with this. Her faith falls apart, and for the next thirty years she's just barely following God, her heart ruled by bitterness.

Now if the only reason I married her is because she was so Godly, what's going to happen now? Where does that leave the relationship?

Here's my perspective on it: Your spiritual growth is going to come from God, not your spouse. Don't pick someone who's Godly because you want them to challenge you or to help you grow - that's God's responsibility, not their's. Rather, I think it makes the most sense to look for someone who's more or less on the same level spiritually as you. That way you're both starting in the same place, and when the inevitable twists and turns of life and faith come, it's easier to trace each other's paths, and relate to each other's situations. A man and a woman growing together in God, isn't that what it's all about?

You know, I really like this. to you!

 

[Stephen Kendall]

But the inevitable question is, how do you evaluate someone's faithfulness before making a serious long-term commitment to them?

Excellent morals would tell me if she is faithful and in love with God. My ex did not have such, but Genny, my beloved wife always has. Both called themselves Christian, but only one was found to be true to her word. The test is going on since you met her. Check out their scores, but be honest and impartial. There is no excuse for a lack of love for God and unfaithfulness to his word and Christ. Tell me, which is Christian attendance to a Church or attendance to God's word? There should be no confusion here. God's word is for us to be kind, loving, forgiving, caring, devoted, excellent morals (do not steal, lie, kill, cheat, fornicate and love & honor your mom and dad). This lover of God is the one to marry, love none other but her.

I am sure that the devil is nearly a genius, yet lacks so much love that he wouldn't even qualify as a newborn.