Hi restore. Well, coming from a dysfunctional family *could* affect how you feel about settling down. If your family experience was stressful and challenging, it makes sense that you would not want to repeat that by getting married.
However, I think that the best marriages ARE worth it. They are positive, joyful, loving and meaningful. Many of us need to learn good communication and relationship skills in order for this to be possible, however. In other words, we can't just "do as we learned" in our families, or else we'll just repeat what we had in our families. Does that make sense?
Romantic feelings that disappear could be infatuation. That's attraction but not true love. True love is based on respect for yourself and the other person. It's two people being vulnerable with each other, sharing their deepest thoughts. It's also having fun together, and being united as a team.
There's a popular saying nowadays: Love is an action. That's what a relationship is about. Not just a feeling, but a series of actions that show you care about the other person.
I don't know how old you are, restore, but it's OK if you are not ready to settle down. Just make sure you are not afraid of it, as I think if you talked to happily married people, they would tell you that the work is worth it.
Hope that helps.
