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[TheThirdLink]

I think its alot difrent with guys than girls.

It is indeed, sir. Us girls are twice as emotional as you guys are and we tend to take things harder. Some of us are extremely emotional and we cry a lot (like me). It's been proven scientifically. That's how God made us versus you guys who act all tough and manly and say "it's no big deal".

 

[TheThirdLink]

I've been abused by my parents and my sisters. I used to be slapped around with long, thin sticks all the time. They sounded like whips. My mom is the one who instigated that...she thought it was a reasonable form pf punishment, but I look upon it as child abuse because it was strange and it stung like mad...she used to hit me all over the place with those "stick whips."

Then my dad would come home from work in the evenings and take out all his anger on me. He'd take me by the collar of my shirt and shake me around and yell in my face demanding why his dinner wasn't ready and why I hadn't done the laundry. >_< I can still see his angry face looking down at me.

Then my sisters would beat up on me all the time; it was more than the typical sibling argument. We sometimes shed blood...my older sister would attack me and I'd be forced to fight back.

Then I've been abused over the internet. I've had several hackers attack me and hack into my personal stuff and steal some of it. Some of them even wiped my hard drive clean.

I've had people send verbal assuals my way, both online and offline. Some of them called me "fat", others "infidel", others called me "stupid" and "dumb."

Then there were those who hurt me. Cases of abandonment. I used to have a 12-year-old friend who said I was his best friend. Then I made one mistake and he started shunning me, which is immature, by the way. It messed me up; it really hurt because we were so close and I was suddenly recieving the silent treatment from him. He looks upon me as an evil person for something petty that happened, and I know I'm not a bad person. It's frustrating. He claims he is a believer. I thought believers were supposed to forgive one another?

 

[oldrooster]

If you love your kids, you will spank them, it keeps them from becoming idiots.....

 

[WarSong]

I advocate spanking, but not abuse.

A little off topic, but I like your sig pic TheThirdLink.

 

[Motor City Christian]

I was bullied pretty much by everyone in junior high. I had some social issues and still suffer the effects. People used to constantly talk behind my back. I could hear them gossiping right behind me in class. I would get nervous and start to sweat, sometimes all day right in the middle of class. I cared so much about what everyone thought of me, yet had no friends and was quiet(at least back then). I would distance myself by moving my desk in the corner(I sat in the back often) and just wanted to be left alone. Then people would say, "Oh he's moving because he smells". When actually I got sick of the gossip and laughing, I just wanted to be alone. There were very few girls who could talk to me, and I never could talk to anyone popular. I also got into a few fights in jr. high. A couple were my fault, but most were not.

In high school things were bad until 12th grade. Spit wads were thrown at me quite a bit during class. When I was in 11th grade, some dumb kids thought it was cool to shine a flashlight right in my eyes. I still struggled with friends and extracurricular activities outside of class being that I had no friends.

Fortunately, things turned around in senior year as people finally matured and some expelled over the previous summer. I didn't have any close friends, but people realized how stupid they had been. I had fun on my senior trip and enjoyed senior year. I overcame all the problems and even became salutatorian of my class. Even through all the past troubles I had socially, I worked hard on my studies during that time frame.

Now in college, I have quite a few friends. I also find myself talkative amongst the people I know even if we aren't friends. But overall, I have five friends from school I have made. I will probably keep in touch with them after we all graduate. The college atmosphere is a much better environment to make friends in I am finding. I still am somewhat paranoid about others talking behind my back, but that is understandable for all I have been through.

So my message to all who are being bullied, take heart! If you are being bullied physically, I would urge you to not take it all the time. There comes a point where you have to fight back. However, be aware of the consequences. If you end up going to college, most likely things will be very different! Just pray that God's will can be done in all that happens!

If you are being bullied, do not hesitate to PM me. I'd be willing to give you support. God bless!