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They don't understand the psychological desires men have in wanting age gaps.
You might enjoy Survival of the Prettiest by Nancy Etcoff. She explores the topic from an evolutionary perspective.
I recall a photo project a couple years ago that captured the ideal face. Most agreed it was an oval shape with large eyes and a full mouth. The features are more yin (fleshier) than yang (sharp) and usually maintain some measure of suppleness which minimizes gauntness from aging.
~Bella
I'll have to look into it. I know large eyes are important, because they are a powerful sign of a neotenous looking face.
Bette Davis is probably the prettiest woman I've seen mainly because of her large eyes. Although I've heard she might have suffered some kind of disease because of it, but whatever her eyes looked perfect regardless. They were not buggy or strange looking.
They improve symmetry and provide a focal point. Size and shape are equally important and a strong brow emphasizes their beauty.
Audrey Hepburn is the classic example of the features mentioned and their benefit as aging ensues.
~Bella
Large eyes also illicit more of a sympathetic response.
Hmm.. never understood the appeal of her.. I think Bette Davis aged well.. it's not like large eyes become smaller the older one gets, lol.
Interesting. I never considered that. But I’ve seen it echoed in novels. Perhaps that’s why.
I think it’s a combination of beauty, elegance, and off-screen behavior that made her an icon. She was a humanitarian and known for her gracefulness. Her character and concern for others enhanced her loveliness. That’s why many admired her. She was more than a pretty face.
~Bella
It's evolution.. female beauty is largely based on neoteny.. traits that are evolutionarily advantageous because women are the ones burdened with pregnancy's, and the more protection and care they can receive the better their chances of spreading on their genes.
She's not ugly or anything… lol.. maybe she reminds me too much of women in my family.
plus I never really liked whatever the makeup hairstyles clothing of the 1950s and 1960s very much.
Can't say I've ever seen a movie with her in it. Maybe I have.. I like to watch some classic films.. but can't think of anything at the moment.
Do you think that still holds true today? Especially in western countries?
That isn’t unusual. Familiarity can foster similarities or a desire for difference.
Do you favor a specific era?
Breakfast at Tiffany’s is popular. I enjoyed Bette Davis in Whatever Happened to Baby Jane. What’s your favorite by her?
~Bella
Yeah. Nothing bad, just a little weird when people remind you of family members.. lol.
As for Bette Davis.. probably of Human bondage. She's so cute and funny in it.
Yes, I can understand the awkwardness. I’ve been equally influenced by my family’s appearance. Especially the women.
I haven’t seen that one. I’ll have to check it out. She’s a hoot.
~Bella
Yeah, one of her earlier films.. kind of a sad one too. It's not really about what some people might think.. sorta.. lol.
I said in my original post, that looks often have a strong psychological underpinning to them. I've seen women older than me look younger than me, it's still a turn off when I hear about their real age.
For men wanting younger women is much more than just "looks". I've heard women try to contemplate why men are so crazy about younger women "they're like.. younger people look better.. but still". They don't understand the psychological desires men have in wanting age gaps. They're looking at things through feminine eyes, and sadly in this culture the feminine viewpoint is one that average person can really grasp.
As far as "wearing out", rougher skin is not going to look as bad on a man as it does on a woman. Not to forget to mention men have thicker skin than women and it takes longer for it to wrinkle up.
I believe the world record for a woman to have childbirth without much medical intervention was in her early sixties.
Not to mention men don't want women who are in their last leg to have children. They want a young fertile women with years ahead of her.
Not to mention men don't want women who are in their last leg to have children. They want a young fertile women with years ahead of her.
There is always another side to something. That natural urge for women to feel protective and seek out tall men is going to have another side where men seek out women they feel have a vibe to be protected.
In the dating niche scene I am in, that age gap is not uncommon. I still think you're looking at attraction through men's eyes. Women like dominate/protective men. Right or wrong, large age gaps can give that psychological appearance. Women don't just get to whine that they need a man to be taller than them, and expect things like youthfulness to be the same for men as it is for women.
As far as the vanilla world is concerned, I think for decades feminists have been going after the biggest flaw women have and that being youthfulness. They've been spreading messages that men are somehow psychologically damaged if they like younger women. It's just ridiculous.
There is always another side to something. That natural urge for women to feel protective and seek out tall men is going to have another side where men seek out women they feel have a vibe to be protected.
Classic films are really neat. Do you have other favorites?
~Bella
Yeah, but ,they'll tell you , "I know what I want, and won't settle" and of course, "Better to be single than unhappy" cliche's.
Yep, and just imagine a woman that's 6 feet tall. I have noticed however though, if a woman is unusually tall. IE 6 feet, they may actually have to be flexible in their ht. requirement because they KNOW they'll be alone forever if they don't.
I'll have to look into it. I know large eyes are important, because they are a powerful sign of a neotenous looking face.
Bette Davis is probably the prettiest woman I've seen mainly because of her large eyes. Although I've heard she might have suffered some kind of disease because of it, but whatever her eyes looked perfect regardless. They were not buggy or strange looking.
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