do i tell her?

[dan0488]

Hi, first post

I met a really amazing girl about two months ago, and it's been a really long time since I met somebody that i liked instantly, or as much as her. Only problem is that she's from Germany and she's supposed to leave in march, but her host parents want her to stay longer and this is a hard decision for her to make. I don't want to make it any harder for her by telling her this, but I like this girl like crazy, and I think she may like me, I really want her to stay, but i want her to make the best decision for her.
Should i tell her how i feel/ask her to hang out to get to know her, or wait until she decides. would it be selfish of me to tell her now?

 

[Bootstrap]

Hi, first post

I met a really amazing girl about two months ago, and it's been a really long time since I met somebody that i liked instantly, or as much as her. Only problem is that she's from Germany and she's supposed to leave in march, but her host parents want her to stay longer and this is a hard decision for her to make. I don't want to make it any harder for her by telling her this, but I like this girl like crazy, and I think she may like me, I really want her to stay, but i want her to make the best decision for her.
Should i tell her how i feel/ask her to hang out to get to know her, or wait until she decides. would it be selfish of me to tell her now?

Me, I'd tell her.

You may not be able to plan out where this leads, and it may not survive when she moves back to Germany, it may last until March, she may stay longer, she may not be interested in you, she just might.

But whatever happens, you'll learn from the experience and grow and remember it.

But I'd also pray for God's peace before telling her. God may give you a clear leaning, or he may not.

Blessings to you!

Jonathan

 

[O_Sky20]

^agree with this

 

[Blank123]

i agree with his agreement ^^

 

[caterina9]

Hey there

Firstly, i agree with what the first guy who responded said...think his name is Jonathan. I obviously don't know much about you or her, but from where I stand, how do you know that by telling her you like her, it won't make things easier for her? I don't think you should make this overcomplicated - you like her, so tell her. The worst that can happen is that she moves away, knowing you like her, which yes, is pretty bad, but at least then you'll know she never liked you. Follow your heart (just had to add in a little clicheed part right there). Seriously.

 

[Bootstrap]

One more comment about the OP. I think part of your concern is that you see that you can't be in control of what happens if you tell her how you feel, you can't make a plan for how it goes.

But that's always how it is. Even in marriage, you have the commitment, but neither of you is really in control of the relationship. You have to feel your way. That's hard for a lot of guys (and not just guys).

Jonathan

 

[* kittie *]

I agree with them...especially the first reply.

hmm...As a girl (although I won't say I speak for all girls)...when I am in the predicament of moving back or staying, I prefer the guy be honest with me and tell me his feelings.
I had a guy who told me that he just wants what's best for me. Which is good. But for me, especially if I'm interested in knowing HE wants...I'd prefer him to tell me just that rather acting as if his wants aren't important. Or that where I am is more important to me than who I am with. I'm thinking girls see it a different way than guys do...but I could be wrong.

Of course, the girl still can make her decision. I don't think you telling her will make things harder for her, unless you begin pleading with her (not that I think you'd do that ). But at least you have it out there and she will know. If she leaves...well...that is the risk you have to take. But like caterina said...at least you'll know instead of living regretfully.

 

[dan0488]

Hey guys thanks for the advice.
I told her that i liked her last night, and she told me that she didn'twant a boyfriend right now, and that she didn't see me in the boyfriend way. Oh well, I really like her, but i'm not that upset, because her whole family's in Germany, and i figured it wouldn't have worked.
I just hope i didnt make anything awkward between us, I really like hanging out and spending time with her.

 

[Bootstrap]

Hey guys thanks for the advice.
I told her that i liked her last night, and she told me that she didn'twant a boyfriend right now, and that she didn't see me in the boyfriend way. Oh well, I really like her, but i'm not that upset, because her whole family's in Germany, and i figured it wouldn't have worked.
I just hope i didnt make anything awkward between us, I really like hanging out and spending time with her.

As long as you accept it, I bet it won't make things awkward.

And it sounds like you've been learning some things about yourself in relationships.

Blessings to you!

Jonathan