do i stay???

[joaddi3]

Hi Joaddi!

I will be praying for you!
Stand strong...God is with you!!
He has been so good to me through my struggles!
Soak yourself in the Word of God!!
Love and HUGGIES!!

thank you so much lambkins...i am praying for you too sister

 

[genifer]

You are brave and realistic. Thats awesome. I second alot of what has been said. OUR God is the God of healing and restoration among many other things. The God of hope.

Jeremiah 29:11
11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I always believe in having hope in God in situations like you described. It may seem impossible for some time but our hope is one that DOES NOT disappoint. These are not mere cliches or pat answers. In marriage we do make a commitment before God and I dont take that lightly either. God will be at work in your life, in your dh's life. Even if it doesnt seem like it. God is on your side. Im going to say a very unpopular and hard truth to swallow. God uses these difficult circumstances to create beauty in our lives that would otherwise never be possible. We cannot imagine the riches of his blessings he has in store for following Him down those seemingly impossible roads. They are hard and they do feel impossible but He is so faithful to see you thru it one way or another. He is faithful. Ok. Im done.

 

[LTRoss]

I'm praying for you and your husband during these difficult times. It sounds like he has some depression or mental illness caused or aggravated by what's going on with him physically. Family counseling is essential. Since he is refusing medication, there is probably a way forward.

A good Christian counselor would be beneficial to you and your children. Your pastor might be able to recommend one. Your kids need to understand that Dad is sick and has a hard time controlling his actions.

As for your husband, any type of counseling he would agree to would help tremendously. Basically he needs to get on his meds and go from there.

I understand where the post counseling divorce was going. However, there might be a clear path to reconciliation in your situation. As long as he is not causing any physical harm to you or the kids, counselors will help your family deal with his hurtful words or actions.

Mental illness does a lot of christian marriages a lot of harm. We all think "It's not supposed to be this way". I'm going to pray for you and your family today. God is so wonderful to those who trust, believe there can be a happy family at the end of the tunnel.
God bless,
LT

 

[2theBone]

in my head i think that, but what about the committment i made to him before God?? i didnt take it lightly. also, i cannot divorce him unless he is unfaithful. i do appreciate your input very much. thanks

Your head is Correct!

How could he ever be more unfaithful than he is right now?

He has abandoned you and your children.

His example is being seared into the minds of your children every day......and this will cause them to grow up and repeat your marriage in their own marriages.

You now have not only the RIGHT, but the RESPONSIBILITY to divorce this man.

As I said, you will need counseling to get you through this crisis.......you need a lot of help from supportive friends and professionals in order to get your life in order.

May God help you.

 

[joaddi3]

You are brave and realistic. Thats awesome. I second alot of what has been said. OUR God is the God of healing and restoration among many other things. The God of hope.



I always believe in having hope in God in situations like you described. It may seem impossible for some time but our hope is one that DOES NOT disappoint. These are not mere cliches or pat answers. In marriage we do make a commitment before God and I dont take that lightly either. God will be at work in your life, in your dh's life. Even if it doesnt seem like it. God is on your side. Im going to say a very unpopular and hard truth to swallow. God uses these difficult circumstances to create beauty in our lives that would otherwise never be possible. We cannot imagine the riches of his blessings he has in store for following Him down those seemingly impossible roads. They are hard and they do feel impossible but He is so faithful to see you thru it one way or another. He is faithful. Ok. Im done.

thank you for being honest and understanding

 

[joaddi3]

I'm praying for you and your husband during these difficult times. It sounds like he has some depression or mental illness caused or aggravated by what's going on with him physically. Family counseling is essential. Since he is refusing medication, there is probably a way forward.

A good Christian counselor would be beneficial to you and your children. Your pastor might be able to recommend one. Your kids need to understand that Dad is sick and has a hard time controlling his actions.

As for your husband, any type of counseling he would agree to would help tremendously. Basically he needs to get on his meds and go from there.

I understand where the post counseling divorce was going. However, there might be a clear path to reconciliation in your situation. As long as he is not causing any physical harm to you or the kids, counselors will help your family deal with his hurtful words or actions.

Mental illness does a lot of christian marriages a lot of harm. We all think "It's not supposed to be this way". I'm going to pray for you and your family today. God is so wonderful to those who trust, believe there can be a happy family at the end of the tunnel.
God bless,
LT

thanks for the advise

 

[joaddi3]

Your head is Correct!

How could he ever be more unfaithful than he is right now?

He has abandoned you and your children.

His example is being seared into the minds of your children every day......and this will cause them to grow up and repeat your marriage in their own marriages.

You now have not only the RIGHT, but the RESPONSIBILITY to divorce this man.

As I said, you will need counseling to get you through this crisis.......you need a lot of help from supportive friends and professionals in order to get your life in order.

May God help you.

thank you so much for your bluntness it is greatly appreciated...i want you to know that we are currently looking for a good christian counselor. one step in the right direction is better than none

 

[2theBone]

I know of one Christian counselor who advised a woman whose husband was beating her.

His advice?

He advised the woman to get down on her knees and pray while her husband was beating her. He said this would shame the husband into stopping.

Believe me, a Christian counselor will only try to save your marriage.......and prolong the damage to your children and you.

You need a divorce counselor and a divorce lawyer.

 

[joaddi3]

I know of one Christian counselor who advised a woman whose husband was beating her.

His advice?

He advised the woman to get down on her knees and pray while her husband was beating her. He said this would shame the husband into stopping.

Believe me, a Christian counselor will only try to save your marriage.......and prolong the damage to your children and you.

You need a divorce counselor and a divorce lawyer.

thank you for your honesty and taking the time to post your reply. i appreciate it very much...

 

[2theBone]

And may God bless you and give you strength.......you are in a battle that the woman usually loses......badly.

And this is mainly due to some very negative and false cultural programming.

I hope you prevail.

 

[Lambkins]

Still Praying for you Joaddi!!

Love and HUGGIES!!!
Lambkins

 

[joaddi3]

And may God bless you and give you strength.......you are in a battle that the woman usually loses......badly.

And this is mainly due to some very negative and false cultural programming.

I hope you prevail.

thanks

 

[joaddi3]

Still Praying for you Joaddi!!

Love and HUGGIES!!!
Lambkins