Do I keep believing?

You need to let her go man.

A lot of us have been in love in the past (true love) and that doesn't mean that person was necessarily the person that I was suppose to be with.

First of all you don't even know her new boyfriend but you've already formed the opinion that he just wants her for sex. Thats not fair to either one of them. The fact that you are worried about if they are having sex seems to indicate a possesiveness that you need to drop. She's not your girlfriend and its none of your business who she's sleeping with. Her obeying God's word to have sex only in marriage is her business.

Personally what I think you need to do is to try to seperate yourself from this girl as much as possible. If you need to you need to explain to her how you are still carrying these feelings and you can't afford to have her in your life. Trust me thats really really hard in the short run, but better in the long run for you.

As to how and what you should pray.

First of all if you are really in love with a person that means you want the best for them, even if what is best for them is not best for you. So you should pray to God that she finds the best person for her, and if this guy is the best person for her, then you should be happy for her.

I think you should pray for yourself as well. I think you need to ask God to help you eliminate these toxic feelings. Do I call those feelings love? No I don't. Love's highest priority is concern for the well being and happiness of another person. If you where the person who made her happiest, then she would still be with you. And I'm sorry to say that, it hurts, but its true.

So sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go. And thats the hardest thing to do.

I went through the same stuff when I was in high school. I was put in the position of telling my best friend that I was ok with him dating her because she was interested in him but not in me. (I liked her since the 7th grade) But I learned a lot from that. The main thing was that if you are trying to get over someone you need them out of your life.

I've been thorugh a lot of the same emotions and feelings. I'm not going to lie to you, none of it is easy. But its time to move on.

I think you may be deluded. Also, do you know what they are doing, or are you assuming it?

It's not healthy to let deep attachments develop when they are not being reciprocated. Learning to guard your heart against this is part of growing up. It's also why intimate friendships between members of the opposite sex are difficult and not advisable in some circumstances: one of the parties often develops romantic inclinations which are not reciprocated. It's what men and women do.

In short, I'm saying you may have to let this one go.

Keep on praying... in general? Or for this exact result? Because if you mean the latter, I would recommend you read my previous response twice.

Look: God makes a lot of promises. He always delivers on them. He did not, however, promise that you will marry this girl. She certainly is not acting like it is in the cards from the very little information you gave us - she's seeing some guy, she may be having sex with him, he's not even in the country permanently, you're a long distance away, you have a severe mismatch between the affection you have for her and the affection she has for you. You are not exactly set up for success in this matter. You have two options: presume God will make a miracle and somehow the two of you will end up married, or presume that it is not going to happen and move on, thanking God for bringing you closer to Him through this. Trust me on this one. Take the second option.

My experience in life agrees with gzt, take the second option and move on.

You need to accept that just because you have an affection for someone does not mean that you where destined to be together forever. That idea entirely a Disney creation.

You are only hurting yourself by doing this. And trust me you arn't doing anything good for her either.

Luther073082 said:

My experience in life agrees with gzt, take the second option and move on.

You need to accept that just because you have an affection for someone does not mean that you where destined to be together forever. That idea entirely a Disney creation.

You are only hurting yourself by doing this. And trust me you arn't doing anything good for her either.

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Thirded.

It's time for you to move on.

Markus6 said:

Thirded.

It's time for you to move on.

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Fourthed.

latteda said:

Fourthed.

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Fifthed. You've gotten some good advice here.

Luther073082 said:

You need to let her go man.

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Sorry bro. I know it hurts.

Women just seem to be able to bounce to the next guy. But men grieve for years.

It's gonna keep hurting. Each time you think of her.

Keep her in your heart, cry if you need to. I know I sure do, even after 12 years. But accept it and move on. It will eventually enrichen your life.


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God might have willed her out of your life. He can do that too - He might have willed her in for specific purposes, such as those you named, but then let her leave your life when those purposes have become accomplished, in order to further His will in another way that couldn't have been done with her still in your life.