Do I have a CHOICE?

[NinadeDios777]

praying for ya hun *hugs*

 

[penguin]

Yes we have a choice but the urge when it is so strong, often wins doesnt it. it can be in many ways easier to harm than to fight that urge. I have thought at times is this how a drug addict feels when they get the urge of overwelming temptation. i remember once really fighting the urge. I cant remember if i gave in or not but the urge was so strong. As I have mentioned before. For me using an elastic band was a half way house - not lasting scars. Still self harm and still having the same effect but less distructive. You have to get the the point where it is you that says 'I am giving this over to God' I did this and I really felt that yes, for the first time i was able to hand it TOTALLY to God. i have relapsed once sinse. It is nearly a year sinse i gave it to God. It Is long time since i cut or burnt. it was the elastic band method i used latterly which was a suggestion from my psychatrist i had a while ago. When I asked her for an alternative she gave me an elastic band. When i was saying to someone i know it is wrong but it helps me. (when I relapsed in May) She said How can something wrong be of help.She has a point. You have to be the one ready to give it all over to God. and let go of self harm as you security blanket. Other peoeple just telling you to stop is not going to help. Ask Jesus to help you give it to him. He is the only one who can really help you get the to point of surrendering it all to yo him.
God Bless
Penguin

 

[Psychlea]

No, I didn't go to the hospital because I cut. I went because I was suicidal, and I knew that that was not the right answer, so I went on my own (well, with a friend) and said that I needed help, that something was seriously wrong, and please help me. They thought, for my own safety, that they better admit me to the hospital.

-Lea

 

[IKTCA]

PsychLea,
Once you are overcome by the urge to cut, you don't have a choice. But between cuts, you have a choice, either to keep your mind as is or to give it to Jesus. That is the choice.

The choice is not really about to cut or not. The REAL choice is about mind, whether to let the mind idle (only to be overcome by next urge to cut), or to give it to Jesus.

Say you cut 10 times a day. Still you have a choice to give you heart to Jesus in-between. If you choose Jesus, you will read the Bible and learn what he wants you to think and do.

As you give your heart and mind to Jesus, slowly and surely, the urge will become less. Eventually, you will not cut yourself again. After all, Jesus rewards those who seek him.

I hope you choose, whenever you can, to give your heart to Jesus. He will give his heart to you.

Rupert