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Do guys really just "know"?

memoriesbymichelle

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I can't speak for other guys, but as for me, I can know whether she has qualities I cannot live with.

All I have to do is ask her questions and see how she answers them. I gauge how supportive she would be as a wife, and how she helps or doesn't help solve problems.

and attractiveness is in there somewhere I would imagine too?
 
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OK next question,

At what point in the relationship would you "know" she was or wasn't the one?

Are you always looking for "the one"? or just someone that meets all the check marks?


your first question; if she does or says anything that isn't in line with my values or what I can or can't live with.

second question, Back then I was always looking for "the one". These days not so much, because I think she has finally come into my life!
 
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your first question; if she does or says anything that isn't in line with my values or what I can or can't live with.

second question, Back then I was always looking for "the one". These days not so much, because I think she has finally come into my life!

congrats on having someone in your life!

On the first question I guess I meant more of a timeframe. Like do you think you would notice this in the first 2 weeks or so, or would you give it a month or longer?

I have never looked for "the one" because I think there can be multiple "ones" but I long for someone that would love me more than I have ever been loved.

There's a new movie coming out, I think it's called Endless love. and in the trailer the guy says "I know I'm not good enough for you, but I'll spend the rest of my life proving that I am" or something like that.
IOW I have never had someone love me more than I loved them. And that's not really what I mean either. I just hope I can meet someone that I want to make happy that wants to make me happy back.
 
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