Do bad things make you feel good?

[uniquetadpole]

In June 2005 I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, a form of Autism. Then on Aug 17, 2005 I emerged from an 8 year abusive relationship.

Lately though I have been dealing with something I don't know whether to post here or in the Autism forum...

I chose here because I want to find out if things are due to my sensory issues or repressed hurt.

After being sexually abused is it common for someone to have a mixed up body? I mean, do bad things make you feel good physically?

a very confused tadpole

 

[justcallmejamie]

used to. and thats all ill disclose for now.

 

[Loopi]

yes. i wont go into any details, but yes. i cant explain why scientifically or anything else, but yes.

 

[flautist]

When a person has been abused for a long time, especially if that was their first sexual experience, the brain gets acclimated to that experience. Because sex is the weapon used by a rapist, the body thinks that is sex. That's how we are introduced to it, and our brains get acclimated to think that's how it's supposed to be.

It's kind of the same reason why women go from one abusive relationship to the next. I am in a wonderful relationship right now, have been for almost 5 years, but because of my past, sometimes it makes me feel uncomfortable when he is so wonderful to me. I'm thinking, "This isn't how it's supposed to be... when's the other shoe going to drop."

We may not like the bad things, but they are familiar. Our brains tend to like familiar things.

Did any of this rambling make sense at all?

 

[uniquetadpole]

When a person has been abused for a long time, especially if that was their first sexual experience, the brain gets acclimated to that experience. Because sex is the weapon used by a rapist, the body thinks that is sex. That's how we are introduced to it, and our brains get acclimated to think that's how it's supposed to be.

It's kind of the same reason why women go from one abusive relationship to the next. I am in a wonderful relationship right now, have been for almost 5 years, but because of my past, sometimes it makes me feel uncomfortable when he is so wonderful to me. I'm thinking, "This isn't how it's supposed to be... when's the other shoe going to drop."

We may not like the bad things, but they are familiar. Our brains tend to like familiar things.

Did any of this rambling make sense at all?

Yes it did...but the problem is this has been going on since I was thirteen...I have never experienced anything else.

Tad