Divorce

[SimplyRain]

Besides adultery, are there any other Biblical grounds for divorce?

 

[WashedClean]

My pastor did a sermon on this about a month ago. He mentioned the three "A's": Adultery, Abuse and Abandonment. I can't remember what scripture he used for the abuse reason. I'll try to find out.

Also, abandonment is not necessarily physical. If a non-believing spouse wants to leave the marriage, then we are not to fight it, but let them go. God calls us to live in peace.

Basically, one should avoid divorce if at all possible. God hates it!

Are you asking for yourself or someone else?

 

[charligirl]

The bible also says that if one partner becomes a christian and the other cannot accept it then the unbelieving spouse can leave and the believer is allowed to let them leave.

However there are many other arguments that have been discussed here in the past about whether God allows divorce for other reasons. For example, what about if one partner was physically abusive?

Interesting thoughts on this here...

http://www.thirdmill.org/qant_answer_main.asp/section/qa/subnav/nt/file/99813.qna

 

[SimplyRain]

In this case the couple have been married for 18 years. They met in a foreign country. The wife believed in God, but did not attend church regularly. The husband was/is an athiest. Shortly after the marriage, the husband began to be verbally and physically abusive. After three years of this pattern, he went to counseling and the physical abuse stopped, but the verbal abuse and control continued. After being married for 8 years, the wife accepted Christ as her savior and made a commitment to grow spiritually in her walk with Christ. Although the husband does not forbid her to attend church or her children, he does make comments that Christians are all hypocrites, and all the church thinks about is making money off of people. They live like two roomates and never talk about anything other than the daily routines. Although the verbal abuse lessens as he gets older, the stress of living with this person has taken a toll and the wife has been suffering from severe depression. Discussion about the marriage is practically impossible, because it always leads to the husband telling the wife she is just imagining things or that it happened so long ago that it doesn't really matter anymore. The one time divorce was mentioned he told her did not want a divorce (she thinks it's just a control issue with him). Prayer and fellowship with her Christian women friends have helped her tremendously, but the shear loneliness in the marriage sometimes overcomes her. She wants to do what is right in the eyes of God, and knows that there is a promise of greater things to come, but when, in this life, is it time to just call it a day?

 

[Lena75]

My sister almost had an argument today about divorce and remarriage. She's the type that does not back down on any argument! The Bible clearly states that divorce is wrong and that God does not like it. Is it wrong to remarry after a divorce? Is it committing adultery? Is God gonna question you on judgement day? Are we to judge people? Let's say that one person has had a bad history. IE: non-christian. Then he/she meets a Christian and he/she becomes a Christian because of the Christian. Then they get married. Is it still wrong?