Divorce

[xAtheistx]

When homosexuality comes up, it inevitably brings up the topic of divorce, and how that's also a maritial issue, or whatever.

People say it's very common... I was just wondering...

Are your parents divorced?
How long were (have they been) they married?
How long have they been divorced?
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)?

If you can think of any other important aspects, involving step-parents, step-siblings, or whatever... state those.

Just curious.

Edit: If you'd rather not say, you don't have to (obviously). You can still vote.

 

[Jacob4Jesus]

My parents were married for about 13 years and they got divorced when I was about to turn 11. So, they have been divorced for about 20 years almost. Both remarried in short marriages that lasted a few years and divorced again. I believe my dad is single and will probably stay that way because I couldn't imagine any sane woman wanting to be anywhere near him. My mom and my stepdad have been together for about 14 years, although they have only been married for three years.

Really, as far as I am concerned, my stepdad is my dad. My real dad is a disgusting, abusive person who exploits would be something I couldn't post about here. When I was baptized two years ago, I put my stepdad down as my father.

 

[Toboe]

My real parrents were never married, so I guess I say no.

 

[xAtheistx]

My real parrents were never married, so I guess I say no.

Do they live together? (Did they ever)?


I have some really cool friends who have really ****** parents... I feel terrible for them, because I know they're not at their full potential largely due to their parents. (Dad's a drunk, and their mother's worse)

 

[bumblebee62331]

Are your parents divorced? No
How long were (have they been) they married? 26 years? I think?
How long have they been divorced? N/A
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)? My Dad's been divorced once before marrying my mum. They are both my biological parents and my brothers and sisters. I have one half-sister (from my dad's first marriage) but I never see her or my dad's ex-wife because they live in England.

 

[Jetgirl]

Are your parents divorced?

Yep.

Idiots.

How long were (have they been) they married?

28 years before they split up, 29 before they were officially divorced.

How long have they been divorced?

About 4 years now.

How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)?

Just the once.

My dad remarried, so he could rack up two divorces shortly if this one doesn't work out.

If you can think of any other important aspects, involving step-parents, step-siblings, or whatever... state those.

Well my dad, after dumping my mother (which I can somewhat understand, my mom and I don't get along too well either) and getting a new girlfriend, he made positive changes in all the ways that would have probably saved his marriage to my mother.

My mom has turned into a co-dependant mess, and has dated a chain of immature alchoholics (totally unlike my dad was).

 

[Toboe]

Do they live together? (Did they ever)?


I have some really cool friends who have really ****** parents... I feel terrible for them, because I know they're not at their full potential largely due to their parents. (Dad's a drunk, and their mother's worse)

Well I live with my dad but my biological mom is somewhere in texas and they lived together for like a year i think.

 

[gwenmead]

My parents aren't divorced. They've been married for um... let's see, 38 years now?

Oddly enough I've often thought that they should've split up for the sake of the kids. My mom was an abusive alcoholic and I would've given anything to have my dad leave her and take us with him. Their marriage was miserable while she was drinking, and their parenting was substandard at best.

But, the safety and psychological health of their kids wasn't their priority. Staying together was. They have a much better marriage now that the kids are gone and my mom has been sober for a long time.

I'm not offering my experience as a judgment on the necessity or impact of divorce on all families, btw. I just offer it as one of the probably rare times when staying together likely wasn't in the best interest of the family as a whole. My family wasn't a safe place and keeping it together enabled a damaging situation to thrive.

Some families do better if they stay together. I don't think mine did.

 

[justanobserver]

Are your parents divorced? yep

How long were they married? appr. 24 or 25 yrs

How long have they been divorced? before re-marriage? maybe 3 or 4 yrs

How many times have your parents divorced? 1 time each

If you can think of any other important aspects, involving step-parents, step-siblings, or whatever... state those. hard to answer not knowing fully what your asking. yes, I got a step mom who has 4 or 5 kids of her own and yes I got a step dad who has 3 kids I think of his own. When I say "kids", I mean adult children ranging from appr 21 yrs old or so to maybe mid/late 30s.

 

[marblehead]

Are your parents divorced? Yes
How long were (have they been) they married? Not sure, maybe 15 years.
How long have they been divorced? Around 15 years also.
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)? They only divorced each other, and my dad remarried but my mom didn't.

 

[Danhalen]

My parents are married and have been for 35 years. They have never been married to anyone else. They have never even dated anyone else.

 

[katautumn]

Are your parents divorced?

Nope

How long were (have they been) they married?

26 years.

 

[destinyhope]

sadly yes

 

[Thirst_For_Knowledge]

Are your parents divorced? Yeah

How long were (have they been) they married? 10 years?

How long have they been divorced? 10 years?

How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)? Dad once, mother is on her third marriage

If you can think of any other important aspects, involving step-parents, step-siblings, or whatever... state those.

I've never gotten along with my stepmother. When my father married her, I was 10 and she was 19 and we both had about the same maturity level. She was evil evil evil... and eventually it caused me to never talk to her again.

Years later I found out she had MS, and I really felt bad, because her... problems were related to the disease... but I still won't go around her, because I still can't stand her even though I know it's a disease.

Also, I'd like to ask, if someone gets a divorce, do they automatically go to Hell? I mean, don't you have to make an effort to stop living in sin to get in heaven, or if you trully believe in God? So like, since you are forever divorced (unless you remarry that person) and continuously living in that sin, can you still be a real Christian?

How is the sin of being divorced or remarried any different than the sin of living in a homosexual relationship?

Would you allow your kids to be around a divorced person?

 

[xAtheistx]

I love those "Go straight to Hell, do not pass 'Go!' do not collect $200" tickets...

Because, then, what's stopping you from running around mad, murdering every Christian (or non-Christian) you see? You're already going to Hell anyway, right? What difference does it make in what seat you get on the lake of fire?

 

[Moros]

Are your parents divorced?
How long were (have they been) they married?
How long have they been divorced?
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)?

If you can think of any other important aspects, involving step-parents, step-siblings, or whatever... state those.

No.
18 years. (I think)
n/a
mother 0, father's been married.. thrice.

One step-brother, significantly older. Only seen him twice.

 

[SimplyMe]

Are your parents divorced?
No, then again they are from the previous generation where 95% never divorced.

How long were (have they been) they married?
At the end of January they will have been married for 57 years.

How long have they been divorced?
n/a

How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)?
None.

 

[LiberatedChick]

Are your parents divorced? No
How long were (have they been) they married? 26 years
How long have they been divorced? n/a
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)? None

 

[sparklecat]

Are your parents divorced?
Yes.
How long were (have they been) they married?
I'm not sure really, maybe 8 years?
How long have they been divorced?
18 years, 16 of which my mom has been remarried for.
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)?
Well, my father was my mom's third husband (the other two were for 5 years each, max), and I expect the fourth to be permanent. My stepfather was married once before. My birth father... I think my mother was his second wife, and that he's currently on number 4 or 5... pretty sure it's 5. I have three half-brothers, two from his first wife and one from his third, though I've only communicated with the second oldest. I also have a stepsister from my stepfather.

 

[Lokisdottir]

Are your parents divorced? No.
How long were (have they been) they married? 29 years.
How many times have your parents divorced (eachother, or others)? None. They met each other when they were 12 years old and dated off and on until they were 18, at which point they had a shotgun wedding. Not the best start for a marriage (my grandparents were none too thrilled), but amazingly, they made it work. My dad, who started off dirt poor, clawed his way up the ladder to a well-paying job in a field he enjoyed; he was working with computers before most people knew what a computer was.

It hasn't always been perfect, but my family is definitely a success story.