Divorce

[blan3556]

Not to be noisy and if you do not want to answer don't...just wondering how many people are divorced and for how long....I am having alot of problems with this as being told I am an adulturer and must leave my husband...please no advice on the matter I am bombarded with it..I don't think it is right to just leave my husband and kids with me...so just wondering if I am the only divorced one here .

 

[Macca]

Yes, I am divorced. It is about 16 years since, I was not a Christian.
I have been remarried for 13.5 yrs, and am applying for ministry credentials.
Macca.

 

[vinc]

Divorce is something between you and your husband to decide. It is not for other people to decide. Even if you have fallen into adultery, it is upto your husband to decide whether to go for divorce based on the grounds of infidelity (which is indeed a scripturally valid ground for a spouse to claim divorce). But, there are many husbands and wives who have forgiven their spouses and have been continuing their married life happily and successfully.

This is entirely between your husband and you (with due consideration to your children). Others have no right to say that you have to leave your husband.

 

[blan3556]

sorry to confuse, I do not want to divorce my husband, I am talking about a divorce from 7 years ago, I am told to leave this husband for a divorce I had, and I have been married for 6 years and have 2 children with my current husband.

 

[SandyLou]

I am twice divorced and a layity speaker in my church.

We live in a fallen, sinful world. Stuff happens even when we pray about them and for them. We can't control life's events. God can control our lives only when He is allowed to. Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him

 

[Tavita]

I've been divorced for about four years. I left an abusive marriage of nearly twenty years and I'm quite happy to stay as I am now.

 

[DawnTillery]

May I add one piece of advice, even though you didnt ask for it
Being divorced has NOTHING to do with serving God. God uses all people as He needs to.
I was married in 90, divorced in 93, remarried in 93 to another man. Was told in 95, I couldnt be saved unless I divorced my current husband (2 wrongs dont make a right)
in 2004, I was saved and I am currently married to my 2nd husband. I am a member of a General Baptist Church -- although I have heard the things you have heard.. ITs between you and God, not MAN.... Man is not God.. Althought man likes to throw their OWN doctrine in there, its best for you to pray and follow Gods will. God has a special plan for you, allow Him to lead you to it and (I KNOW THIS IS HARD) let the rest of Mans views roll off your back..
Also I am curious are you talking to people from a Church of Christ? Cause thats the church that told me similiar to what your describing..
God Bless you!

 

[blan3556]

No actually mt church is supportive and does not condone but believes in Forgivness. It was the people on this forum..in Christian advice! It was so bad that 2 of them followed me to all my other threads just to tell me about how bad I was for being divorced! I was actually thinking of leaving my husband because I want ti live right more than anything..then I realized God knows my thoughts, He knows how much I wanmt to serve Him....So HE will tell me what to do..until then I will respect my sanctity(cant spell) of marriage on the adage that I asked for forgivness for my first divorce and repented therefore I do not want to do the same sin again..until GOD shows me otherwise...Thank you all for posting to me...may God Bless

 

[DawnTillery]

My brother has been divorced twice... He was in jail about 10 years ago and found the Lord in his jail cell. Since then he has been living for the Lord and even after salvation he was remarried. (Both times his wife left him, for non biblical reasons) You dont know my brother, so you cant see what im telling you, but although I loved my brother prior to salvation, he was living a dangerous life on drugs and alcohol. He has done a 360+ degree turn around and when your near him, you can just see God and feel God.. I know it was ONLY God that turned him around so he is a living example that God uses all people, even those of divorce...

 

[asjs1206]

I have been divorced for 5 years-I did'nt divorce for lame reasons. I divorced because there were abuse issues, my husband also was continually unfaithful to me, and I did'nt want my then 2 yr old son to grow up thinking it was okay for a man to act this way. I was not a christian, but even if i had been back then I still would've felt it was okay to divorce. I am now re married. I just remarried 5 months ago and am very happy. My new husband and I are new christians and this marriage is built on a firm foundation with God in the center of my marriage. So...I do not feel that divorce is always wrong..Furthermore, I do not think that anyone has the right to tell someone to leave their current husband because you were married once before.....Those kind of people are Judgemental....you have to do what you feel God would lead you to do ...