Divorce

[SuperMama]

Is it harder to survive​

divorce when you are a ​

Christian than it is ​

if you are not?​

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I have been married twise. I know that for me, the hardest aspect of my separation and then subsequent divorce was where God was at concerning the marriage break up. EVEN though when I married my first husband I was not a christian, but when I left him I was. I was almost envious of non christian friends who didnt have to wrestle with the spiritual side of breaking up.​

 

[ToddNotTodd]

Is it harder to survive​

divorce when you are a ​

Christian than it is ​

if you are not?​

​

I have been married twise. I know that for me, the hardest aspect of my separation and then subsequent divorce was where God was at concerning the marriage break up. EVEN though when I married my first husband I was not a christian, but when I left him I was. I was almost envious of non christian friends who didnt have to wrestle with the spiritual side of breaking up.​

Well, if you were divorced because of adultery (which various Christians tell me is one of or the only legitimate reason) then your beliefs would justify such a thing. If you weren't then I can see how it would be troublesome. I would imagine that your faith would be just one more thing to have to deal with, something that an atheist or someone of a faith where divorce was ok wouldn't have to deal with.

 

[Murmur]

I think it depends on the situation itself, not what faith you practice.

 

[The_Unknown]

SuperMama, is that you in that picture?(Have been wondering that for a while)

 

[Seeking...]

I certainly don't think it is any more difficult. My husband and I married as Christians and I left him after becoming Non Christian - believe me, he seems to be having a much easier time of it than I. Just because someone isn't a Christian doesn't mean that they have no spiritial issues to resolve regarding divorce. It isn't a lesser committment to us.

 

[GMRELIC]

I am a Christian and I am divorced, I divorced my wife over 14 years ago. She didn't committ adultry nor did I, She was a victim of Mental illness, and I honestly had all I could take, I no longer felt she was stable enough to be unattended with my children. She was in and out of mental hospitals the last year of our marriage. The house burned one too many times, and my children were endangered one too many times, so I divorced her. she did committe suicide 2 years after our divorce, I don't think God frowned on my divorce, I think he gave me the strength to get out of that situation and the strength to raise my 2 infants by myself.

 

[merryheart]

I am not divorced, so perhaps I should've kept my mouth shut, but seems to me that part of what Christianity is about is that we believe a Christian has resources to strengthen them in life's worst situations. We have a Comforter, a guide, and forgiveness when needed.

 

[SuperMama]

Hello Unknown - yes it is me. There is a similar but different photo of me if you click on the camera icon under my name. The Babies are not both mine. The little girl on the left is my wee daughter Amelia. And the little boy is a friends son. I gave them little halos with paintshop pro. Cuties the pair.

In response to other queries. There was no adultery issues in my divorce. However as a Christian I found it hard because a vow is a vow and I was not sure initially that God was too impressed with my decision to leave my first husband. I remember thinking that I would have had it easier if I only had to justify my actions to me. I wondered if others had a similar experience.

 

[Seeking...]

In response to other queries. There was no adultery issues in my divorce. However as a Christian I found it hard because a vow is a vow and I was not sure initially that God was too impressed with my decision to leave my first husband. I remember thinking that I would have had it easier if I only had to justify my actions to me. I wondered if others had a similar experience.

I understand your feelings. I had only ever thought divorce was permissable in the case of abuse, real physical/sexual and/or drug abuse that the abuser was unwilling to try to stop. I didn't even consider adultery a reason for me to leave. The problem is - you are asuming that non-Christians only have to justify their decision with themselves. There are plenty of us who believe in God. I prayed, cried and prayed again. I felt like I was giving up and that was a slap in the face to the committment I had made. I had always felt like I would never find someone and here I was - walking away from a marriage. How could God forgive me for that? Even if my God isn't involved in my daily life - bestowing blessing or punishments, that doesn't mean that I don't seek him. It doesn't mean that I don't pray hoping for some sort of communication that I am making the right choice. If anything, Christians may have it easier - some on these forums have posted that they prayed on it and came to peace with God about their decision. My God doesn't do that. I just finally had to accept that I was walking out on my committment, because my husband already had - and praying to my God about it wasn't going to make my husband change his ways.

 

[SparkleDazzle]

You are allowed to divorce because of adultury but you are not allowed to get married again until the person you divorced dies.



It's harder to survive when you are unsaved because Christian divorced people cannot get married till the person they divorced died or it's a sin. Unsaved people remarry and stuff and don't care.

Is it harder to survive​

divorce when you are a ​

Christian than it is ​

if you are not?​

​

I have been married twise. I know that for me, the hardest aspect of my separation and then subsequent divorce was where God was at concerning the marriage break up. EVEN though when I married my first husband I was not a christian, but when I left him I was. I was almost envious of non christian friends who didnt have to wrestle with the spiritual side of breaking up.​

 

[tcampen]

I'm sure God has to be reasonable. If a woman is a victim of domestic violence, and her husband refuses to get help, then divorcing him cannot be a sin. It would be inconceivable to think any God would want that woman, who escaped a living hell at the hands of her prior husband, to not be in a healthy marriage until the dirtbad finally kicked the bucket.

Gotta go with what makes sense.