Divorce Questions?

[christiankate]

I was thinking today, and I wanted to ask you all what you think. Would you date someone who has been divorced? Please Vote and explain your answer

 

[covenantwmn]

Oops, voted wrong, yes I would. There are those of us who fought to keep our marriage, and couldn't. When one has started an affair and chooses to leave, not much you can do. I'd hate to think that no man would date me becuz of that, and I certainly would date a guy whose wife left him, of course it all depends on the circumstances. Good question!

 

[Sketcher]

The only way I would consider considering it would be if she had been cheated on. Then it would be Biblically legal. But that's not enough to make me date someone. Did her husband cheat on her because of stuff she was doing/not doing to drive him crazy? That is not an excuse for him, but I've gotta know what I'm getting into. Then there's rebound time, whether or not she has kids (I don't want to be a dad just yet) and a whole mess of other issues.

 

[JPPT1974]

It all depends on whether I like the person or not. I wouldn't date somebody who was like four-times divorce for fears of that person not being able to keep a commitment. Or be ready for a long-term relationship all due to his marriages.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

um depends on why he got divorced I guess

 

[Sketcher]

Aphiemi vs. Apoluo ? Both words mean the same thing. They mean divorce.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Yes, In the case of unfaithfulness

Matthew 5:32 (AV)

But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Diane

 

[winglovesall]

Me also. I definitely would never date a person who's divorced - or has a previous boyfriend relationship - sometimes - having the previous boyfriend relationship is not a matter to me - everybody is different - but in the end, I prefer people who have never dated before.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

i think it would depend on why he got divorced but probably not, i would rather marry/date someone who has never been married before.

 

[Pyrogenesis]

That's a fairly complex question. I've been good friends with 2 divorced women, one with a son from the marriage (Lisa) and the other with no children (Sue). To be honest, I loved hanging out with Lisa and her son because I got to 'play' dad.

Sue was a little irresponsible; she married the guy a week after they met, and were both high that whole week... There wasn't really anything resembling commitment. Lisa married out of duty; she was pregnant and wanted her child to grow up in a real family. Unfortuantely her 'husband' wasn't the 'real' type and roamed the neighbourhood...

Lisa tried to do the right thing; Sue was just nuts. Even though Lisa had a son, I would have rather married her than Sue simply because her heart was right.

Names have been changed, etc. I could write a book about that year of my life, but it goes to show that there's a lot more to it than simply "Divorced: Yes/No" But after what God taught me through all that, I don't think I would marry anyone who had been divorced. I don't want to sound mean, but there are far too many issues for someone with no marriage experence to deal with.

 

[chanis]

I would consider someone whose been divorced, now I wouldn't date someone with kids...

 

[BeautyForAshes]

it just depends on the circumstances (ie why, how long he's been divorce, etc.)......

 

[Blank123]

I suppose that would really depend on whether or not it's God's will.

 

[OhhJim]

If she were hot, sure!

 

[Crono]

Considering that I am dating someone who is divorced, my answer is obvious.

 

[Niels]

If the divorce wasn't her fault (the ex cheated/abandoned/abused her), and sufficient time had passed to avoid rebound issues, it wouldn't phase me.

As far as children from a previous relationship are concerned, one might possibly be Ok. However , at this point in my life, I wouldn't want to date her if she didn't want to have another one (or two) with me, in the event that we choose to tie the knot.

 

[JPPT1974]

It would depend on if they were divorced for all the right reasons like if somebody left them for somebody else and all they were doing is being the best husband ever.

 

[winglovesall]

Sometimes - I can look into it -- I mean -- divorce does happen within Christian families -- not a lot though.

 

[JPPT1974]

Sometimes - I can look into it -- I mean -- divorce does happen within Christian families -- not a lot though.

Are you meaning that non-Christian families go through divorce rather than few Christian families?

 

[Sketcher]

Sometimes - I can look into it -- I mean -- divorce does happen within Christian families -- not a lot though.

I badly wish that were true, but divorce happens just as much among Christians in this country as it does in the world. It is a terrible stain on our witness.