Divorce Possible?

[stryper36]

My post are not offensive; they are the truth. Something you probably don't want to hear either.

1) You have a man who wants JUSTIFICATION to get his g/f back

2) There are 2 sides to every story...Lets hear hers and her parents

3) What is the reason she married another guy and not him. Her parents forbid it for some reason.

4) He don't want to hear the truth; just somebody to tell him that he should get her and take her. He wants someone to give him Scriptures to say he has every right to be with her because they had a child together.

5) He knows why her parents forbid him to marry her, but he's not going to tell anybody why. All he keeps saying is how him, her, and their son are suffering.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

My post are not offensive; they are the truth. Something you probably don't want to hear either.

If you have to come out and state that your posts are offensive then chances are...they are. And regardless of your message in your posts, the tone you have used is unmistakably offensive and rude. I am offended, and they aren't even directed at me.

The one comment you did make that was directed at me has to do with me not wanting to know the truth. Well, you have no idea what efforts I have made to get to the truth so I invite you not to make such sweeping assumptions. And if I have come off as rude myself, I appologize. I'll admit I was pretty upset when I wrote my last post. = )

 

[LITB]

Go back to the bible for your answer. I believe there are no grey areas, nor are there any unique divorces. I personally believe a divorce is permissable in the case of adultery, but I believe for her to leave him, he would have to commit the offense. That's just my opinion.

God never promised us life would be fair - we make our own mistakes and whilst God forgives us, He doesn't always remove the consequences of our actions.
I believe God is most understanding and compassionate of your situation, but He will not water down His word to suit you because He is Holy, Perfect and Unchanging.
You just need to take your eyes off this girl as an answer for your happiness and look to God instead - He still has your best interests at heart - just don't run ahead of God by deciding what's best for you - let Him show you - He will not let you down!

 

[stryper36]

Appology accepted.

I would like to get to the truth of this also but it seems that there are a lot of unanswered questions that hasn't been truthfully answered.

I am sorry if my posts sounded harsh but by no means thats not the intentions of it.

How can you help someone if they are not going to tell you the whole story. When someone tells you bits and pieces of a story; it hard not to assume because of what they are saying.

 

[Jvn]

Thanks LITB, I know he will not lead me in the wrong direction. Hey, he led me here, right? This forum has helped me a lot already.

 

[Iridescent]

Hmmm...that is a really tough situation you are in. I can understand how you would be confused as to whether her divorcing her husband and remarrying you, so you can raise your child together is the best thing. There's a lot more that needs to happen before that decision can be made. But first, you know as a Christian that adultery is wrong. Being a part of her betraying her marriage vows is ~wrong~ and I strongly believe that you know that in your heart. My suggestion would be to immediately STOP having an affair with her. That would be a sign that you have more respect for the mother of your child then to drag her down into an adulterous relationship. And you need to have the respect for yourself, as a man and as a Christian, that you are strong enough to not do something that you know is going to cause nothing but hurt to everyone involved. Then, make arrangements to see your child on a regular basis. You are that child's father. You have a right to be in their life, and they need you to be in their life. His mother should not be afraid to tell her husband she wants to set up visitation with you. He must have known when he married her that you would need to be part of that child's life. Then take the time getting to know your child, and keep your distance from the ex for a while. As long as you are still in a romantic/sexual relationship with her, especially one based on deceit, you won't be able to make a clear decision and neither will she. You'll be continously motivated by guilt, lust, and the 'high' of not getting caught. You and she really need to step back for a while and take some time to do some serious decision making. And of course talking with your pastor and praying. This situation didn't happen overnight and it won't be resolved overnight, but eventually it will be resolved. It may not work out the way you want, but years from now the day will come when your child has questions for you about this. I know that you want to be able to tell your child that you tried your best to do the right thing.
I hope I don't sound judgemental. Every single one of us has sinned...every one of us has made huge mistakes, or struggled trying to decide what the 'right' thing is. I'm just hoping some of what I said makes sense to you. Best of luck to you and you will be in my prayers.

 

[forgivenmuch]

We have tried separation no less than four times by her choice or mine. It doesn't work for us. Nothing will change unless she does something. I just don't think he would ever divorce her

this is what this man said in the other forum. 4 times they have cheated .. how sad. RIGHT HERE THIS MAN IS SAYING HE WILL NEVER CHANGE .. SHE WOULD HAVE TO FIRST. HOW CAN ANYONE HELP THIS GUY?

NOTHING WILL CHANGE UNLESS SHE DOES SOMETHING.
THERE IS YOUR ANSWER HOW SAD.

 

[Jvn]

FM, see other forum. That quote was part of a series of responses. I was answering someone else.

 

[stryper36]

You was answering someone else in another forum looking for someone to give you justification to take her from her husband.
You still asked the questions in here as you did in the other one.

So what is the difference?

 

[trust_faith]

Try not to divorce. divorcing is already a sin in God's eyes... pray together. work out together. if you 2 still love God, Let God do the miracle between you 2...