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Hi everyone!
I've posted this in another forum area but having read through most the the other 'divorce due to abuse thread' I just needed a more specific collection of opinions to my circumstances. Apologies for covering old ground again
Right now I am separated from my Muslim husband (in different countries). In accordance with 1 Cor 7 I have tried to reconcile our differences whilst at the same time letting him know that he needs help and that I am not prepared to return to an environment of abuse. He recently received a copy of my police report and is now unrepentant of his actions to the point of placing the blame completely at my door. He believes that all that he did (I experienced) is in line with his religion and so does not feel he needs to change to harmonise the marriage.
I need some scriptural guidance for this 'stale-mate'. I'm reluctant to divorce and will arrange for a legal separation. However I realise that it is very unlikely that we will see each other again while he is still a Muslim and/or holds onto his views because it will harm both myself and our baby.
In terms of the Christian view, where does the believer stand when a spouse does not upheld their obligation from G-d (in terms of taking care of their spouse) to the point of mentally torturing their spouse. In such circumstances are we okay to divorce an unbeliever or do we still (whilst protecting ourselves and children) go for a legal separation and endeavour to still salvage the marriage? What happens when the unbeliever doesn't want to compromise and has the rhetoric "my way or the highway" - can such behaviour on their part be contrued as the unbeliever destroying the marriage, thus releasing the believer from the marriage contract?
Is the point of the guidance written by Paul in 1 Cor 7 purely to do with the issue of remarriage after such a divorce or does it also include those like myself who have no real plans to seek another partner?
So many questions and again I apologise
I may not be able to chip in here as often as I use to with the exception of reading so I haven't gone away completely - just got an old machine to work from now.
G-d bless and thanks for any thoughts on this.
LP
I've posted this in another forum area but having read through most the the other 'divorce due to abuse thread' I just needed a more specific collection of opinions to my circumstances. Apologies for covering old ground again
Right now I am separated from my Muslim husband (in different countries). In accordance with 1 Cor 7 I have tried to reconcile our differences whilst at the same time letting him know that he needs help and that I am not prepared to return to an environment of abuse. He recently received a copy of my police report and is now unrepentant of his actions to the point of placing the blame completely at my door. He believes that all that he did (I experienced) is in line with his religion and so does not feel he needs to change to harmonise the marriage.
I need some scriptural guidance for this 'stale-mate'. I'm reluctant to divorce and will arrange for a legal separation. However I realise that it is very unlikely that we will see each other again while he is still a Muslim and/or holds onto his views because it will harm both myself and our baby.
In terms of the Christian view, where does the believer stand when a spouse does not upheld their obligation from G-d (in terms of taking care of their spouse) to the point of mentally torturing their spouse. In such circumstances are we okay to divorce an unbeliever or do we still (whilst protecting ourselves and children) go for a legal separation and endeavour to still salvage the marriage? What happens when the unbeliever doesn't want to compromise and has the rhetoric "my way or the highway" - can such behaviour on their part be contrued as the unbeliever destroying the marriage, thus releasing the believer from the marriage contract?
Is the point of the guidance written by Paul in 1 Cor 7 purely to do with the issue of remarriage after such a divorce or does it also include those like myself who have no real plans to seek another partner?
So many questions and again I apologise
I may not be able to chip in here as often as I use to with the exception of reading so I haven't gone away completely - just got an old machine to work from now.
G-d bless and thanks for any thoughts on this.
LP