Divorce Care?

[madison1101]

I just started attending a Divorce Care group near me, and was wondering if anyone else has been through the program. It is 13 weeks long and offers the opportunity to meet and fellowship with other people going through the painful process of divorce. It includes a video/lecture and small group discussions. It is based on Scriptures.

Anyone else familiar with it?

Trish

 

[car501]

I just started attending a Divorce Care group near me, and was wondering if anyone else has been through the program. It is 13 weeks long and offers the opportunity to meet and fellowship with other people going through the painful process of divorce. It includes a video/lecture and small group discussions. It is based on Scriptures.

Anyone else familiar with it?

Trish

I haven't take the 13 week course yet, but my church does have a DivorceCare group/workshop. From everything that I've read & seen in regards to it, it seem very good & is bible based. I have been getting their daily emails for 4-5 months and they have been extreamly helpful. I have purchased some of the books that DivorceCare web site has recommended and they have helped a lot. I reaaly am looking forward to taking the 13 week course. I think you'll get a lot from it.

 

[Godisgr8r]

I've been to Divorce Care and found it to be quite helpful. I really enjoyed it.

 

[bkg]

I say run - run far away and never look back. DivorceCare claims biblical backing, but I found it horribly biased against the teachings of the Bible. For example, the session on new relationships comes BEFORE the session on forgiveness. The session on remarriage comes before forgiveness as well. HUH? How on earth could we begin talking about jumping into a new relationship w/o having first dealt with the pain of ending the prevoius one?

Of the two courses that I participated in, a great percentage of the people were a) very bitter about their situation, even after having remarried... yes, they were still attending the course. See my comments about forgiveness previously. b) The last one I was in centered around lawyers and strategies for dealing with Judges moreso than what is really happening. in fact, the two leaders were both on their 2nd/3rd marriage and both started dating befre their divorce was final.

Be very careful that you don't end up in a "justification care" course where time is spent more on justifying the reasons people left their marriages or the route they have taken in the courts rather than forgiveness and, if possible, saving the marriage.

Not surprising, I was asked to leave when I called out the hypocricy of a person filing for divorce over her husband's affair... the entire time (during class) having an affair herself. I don't think it's a very just nor Biblical course UNLESS in the hands of people who have a heart for marriage.

g'luck.

 

[cjba]

I'm in the process of getting into the same program. I think it may be helpful to understand the emotions we go through.

 

[givengrace]

I say run - run far away and never look back. DivorceCare claims biblical backing, but I found it horribly biased against the teachings of the Bible. For example, the session on new relationships comes BEFORE the session on forgiveness. The session on remarriage comes before forgiveness as well. HUH? How on earth could we begin talking about jumping into a new relationship w/o having first dealt with the pain of ending the prevoius one?

Of the two courses that I participated in, a great percentage of the people were a) very bitter about their situation, even after having remarried... yes, they were still attending the course. See my comments about forgiveness previously. b) The last one I was in centered around lawyers and strategies for dealing with Judges moreso than what is really happening. in fact, the two leaders were both on their 2nd/3rd marriage and both started dating befre their divorce was final.

Be very careful that you don't end up in a "justification care" course where time is spent more on justifying the reasons people left their marriages or the route they have taken in the courts rather than forgiveness and, if possible, saving the marriage.

Not surprising, I was asked to leave when I called out the hypocricy of a person filing for divorce over her husband's affair... the entire time (during class) having an affair herself. I don't think it's a very just nor Biblical course UNLESS in the hands of people who have a heart for marriage.

g'luck.

You are the first person I've ever heard that said ANYTHING agaist Divorce Care I went for a VERY long time did the class over and over learned and heard new things as my healing continued. I now lead a group along with my new husband Maybe you should have gone to more than two classes before you judge it.

 

[John Spong is wrong]

Hi from Australia!
Yes, I am doing the course for the second time. It is a very gentle (without being sappy) and healing course. It places a strong emphasis on forgiveness and not jumping into new relationships. It rightly emphasises that we are complete in Christ - we don't need a 'soulmate' to complete us.

 

[givengrace]

Hi from Australia!
Yes, I am doing the course for the second time. It is a very gentle (without being sappy) and healing course. It places a strong emphasis on forgiveness and not jumping into new relationships. It rightly emphasises that we are complete in Christ - we don't need a 'soulmate' to complete us.

That is so awsome that you have Divorce Care over there. I belive (if your's is as the one here) it was done in North Carolina. I bet we sure talk funny to you. With the southern drawl.

 

[Hewlett2]

Yes, I went thru the series. It was very very good.

In my opinion this is something you need to do and should make it a priority.

I would also recommend books and videos by Dr. Henry Cloud (Boundries, Changes that Heal and Safe People)