Thank you guys so much for this advice. I know it's been a while since I last posted but I have been really busy with my son. It's been a wonderful year though. I have put a lot of your advice into practice. My son listens very well now. I think a lot of you were right. . . My problem was that I was over using the word "no." My DH came home one night from work and got to experience first hand what I meant when I couldn't get him to leave plug outlets alone. My issue wasn't that I didn't have the little plastic covers over them. . . It was that he had figured out how to pull the little plastic covers out of the wall.
Well DH saw him do this one night while I was in the shower. I heard my husband scream "No...OUCH...That will hurt you!" of course my baby cried because Daddy never raises his voice. EVER! lol! When my DH apologized to him for raising his voice my son just hugged him and loved on him.
which seems to be the case. We always try to assure him after we scold him for something that we are not mad at him but that his behavior is not permissible.
Now my son is 2 going on 3. My biggest problem with him is that he tells me "no" LOL! What irony GOD throws my way.
Usually with my son I have learned (as many of you have stated) that it's just a sense of curiosity. He wants to know what things are. . . and naturally so. So instead of being angry with him over some of the simplest of things I simply explain them to him. Its done wonders for him and me.
I never knew raising a child would be so challenging for me in the beginning but it's the patience of it that was wearing me down. Once I calmed myself and realized that this little soul didn't have the same understanding of the world as I myself had I was more apt to trying to explain things more diligently to him. Of course he still gets into things that he shouldn't. . . What 2 year old doesn't?
But instead of scolding him, fussing at him, or flat out getting frustrated with him, I simply just explain to him why I don't want him getting into those things. He seems to understand me when I ask him to "leave mommy's makeup alone" or "don't go through the trash can it's yucky." LOL! now he looks at me and says "no in mommy's makeup" or "no trash yucky!" LOL.
I think getting him to understand things has been a big challenge for me over the last year seeing that he wouldn't really talk. It wasn't until this past summer when I quit my job and started staying home with him more that he finally decided to start "using his words" more. Before he was babysat while I was at work. The lady that babysat him was deaf and had taught him sign language. I didn't mind this because I as well had began signing with him at an early age. (we started learning sign language at about 3 months old.) Now he is finally talking with me and his dad.
Of course he is still learning to sign and he still signs when he talks but I am so much more happier that he is talking and understanding my words more clearly.
Again thank you all for helping out with this. I have been putting your advice to good use.
I am however going to start a new thread on potty training if any of you have some good advice about that.
It will be under the parenting forum as well. Thanks.
