Destroying my life!

[Sarabi]

Okay, I know I am a newbie here but it seems this Forum is a God-send.

I have BPD , and have had it my entire life

I hate:

The destroyed relationships

Fear of abandonment is my main issue. It causes clinginess, attention-seeking behavior, etc..............

Anyway my name is Sarabi........ im pleased to be on board.

 

[madison1101]

Hi there. Abandonment was my deepest issue, and it still crops up occassionally, just not like it used to. Therapy and hard work helped me heal it. Also, a discipleship relationship with a woman from my church. She helped me see my relationship with God in a whole new light.

Get a good, cognitive behaioral therapist and get involved in a Bible study and find a discipler/mentor.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[cherokee's friend]

Hi Sarabi. I have the same exact problem. I think I have BPD but haven't been diagnosed. I have all the symptoms, including fear of abandonment, clinginess, and fear of being alone. When there's someone in my life I depend on, if they meet my expectations I see them as a hero, but if they don't I tend to see them as the exact opposite. I always have a feeling that someone doesn't love me enough, or that they only make up kind words just to humor me.

 

[aflower4God]

Hi there my dear sweet sister Sarabi I am almost pretty sure that I have BPD as well.
I am a MAJOR splitter there is no grays for me just everything is black and white. people are either kind, caring loving or evil and out to get me. I have a huge fear of rejection and when I have been rejected I see people as complete evil. Same with people who bully me, I see them as evil and working for the devil.
My only friend says that when I see people with potental to reject me I will judge them first and walk the other way without even giving a bennifit of the doubt. I want to let you know that I can dearly relate to you. Also a BIG WELCOME to CF. I hope that you find it easy to talk to folks on here. God bless you my dear sweet loving sister and LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU ((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))

 

[OlaOlala]

Hi Sarabi! I'm new here, too, and have BPD as well... my biggest problem is the way I reject the people I love, especially my fiance... it sucks. Hugs to you Sarabi, let's hope we find some consolation and friends here!

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

Welcome Sarabi and OlaOlala.

If there is a dialetical behavioral therapy group/therapist in your are you might want to consider checking out that treatment. I was just in a program where this treatment was used and it deals a lot with the distortions of the mind, as cognitive behavioral therapy does, but has been specifically noted as a treatment for BPD.

 

[_jesusfreak]

hi guys!
i'd like to make some friends here... people like me, who understand what i feel...
i already love you all!!

 

[MotherofQ]

Hey, Sarabi--if you aren't getting enough support here, please email me. WOOPS--they won't let me post my email. <staff edit>! I think you can figure it out. Or look for me on facebook--<staff edit> (I'm from North Carolina)--just tell me who you are, and I can add you and to the closed BPD sites I'm on. I am on here looking for other Christian people with BPD, but it doesn't look very active! I am on a couple of closed BPD sites on facebook, but not everyone is Christian, so sometimes the attitude isn't looking towards God for answers. I am witnessing on there, but I would also like to have a page at some point as well for people who have borderline and would like to look into the scriptures for help.

 

[MotherofQ]

OKay, weird! I didn't see EVERYONE else's posts until I posted the last one. This applies to anyone who wants to make friends with me on facebook or here!! I apologize for saying that Sarabi wasn't gettign support!