Destroyed confidence

[Anthonyw]

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]My mother destroyed our confidence, I have 2 sisters and 1 brother none of us got married. 3 of us have not done well work wise although one sister is a nurse and own her own house so she's done alright. [/FONT]​

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[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]It has not been until resent years I've realised were that lack of confidence comes from, I can remember times when my mother used to say things like, everything you touch you break, or goes wrong, or it always happens to you, (gross [/FONT]​

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]exaggeration is one of her problems.)[/FONT]​

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]There were other times when you felt useless and hopeless and you never amount to anything, Sometimes I've thought my mother some how thought this was funny and did it for it's entertainment value. [/FONT]​

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[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Some months ago she mentioned the fact she said things that undermined our confidence, she saw this as quite a minor thing, how brain dead is that? In countries like Africa they see such a thing as pronouncing a curse over someones life. Which is exactly what it is, leaving them to struggle through life as emotional cripples.[/FONT]​

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]My mind boggles to think that our mother would take away from us something so important as confidence.[/FONT]


[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]If anyone out there has a good solution to this problem I'd be glad to here from you.[/FONT]


[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Blessings,[/FONT]
[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Anthony
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[Petunia]

Your strength should come from the Lord. Not necessarily from your mother. She may have given birth to you.. but she did not create your spirit. God is the one Who created you.

My dad did the same thing to me when I was younger. As I got older.. it was easier for me to forgive him.. and realize that it was all apart of his own weaknesses. Not mine.

Forgive your mom. Realize that the negativity is not from God. But either from the flesh.. or from the devil. Rebuke it. Don't listen to it. Refuse it... and move on.

Develop your own confidence. And definitely get into the word.. and STAY into the word for the renewing of your mind. You are what God says you are. A new creature in Him. All things are possible through Christ who strenghtens you.

The Lord bless you, my friend.

 

[Johnnz]

Same with me. I had to rebuild my life. the structures and a encouragement that Jesus brought to me was a major part of that process.

It was a matter of choosing to be more positive about myself, of adjusting and learning from situations and experiences, working through sheer terror at times, and discovering there is life and hope even after failures and disasters.

John
NZ

 

[BelindaP]

Part of getting past this kind of emotional abuse is to create new scripts for your life. Even when we are no longer with the person, the scripts run through our own heads, telling us that we are worthless or not capable.

When you catch yourself thinking these kinds of thoughts, make a conscious effort to replace them with something positive. One of my favorites is "I'm worth something. God don't make no junk."

If you keep doing that, you will find that the old scripts start to fade, and you will start having more confidence.

 

[FallingWaters]

These are all excellent posts.
Follow the advice.

 

[Anthonyw]

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Thank you all for the advice of course you are all right. That was particularly interesting what you said Johnz about the terror factor I feel that in some situations.
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[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]So I guess I best just knuckle down and replace all the negative words with the Word of God and expect breakthrough.[/FONT]​

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Blessings everyone,[/FONT]​

[FONT=Palatino Linotype, serif]Anthony[/FONT]​

 

[restore]

make a conscious effort to replace them with something positive. One of my favorites is "I'm worth something. God don't make no junk."

If you keep doing that, you will find that the old scripts start to fade, and you will start having more confidence.

Yes
And remember, the devils is looking at us, Jesus is looking at us.
This fight is not only for yourself, It is a fight for heaven, too.
I would say, this fight is v v hard. but if we give up or delay, we will be regratful , right?