Desires

[Bootstrap]

When I'm not in a relationship, my strongest desire is for God.

When I'm in a relationship, my desires are divided. My thoughts revolve around my fiancee as much as they do around God, I'm tempted to not want time alone with God if I can be with her instead, or even just daydream about her, and it gets harder to focus on God.

To me, these are the two of strongest desires I have. Any thoughts about how to best keep them in balance?

 

[Luther073082]

Well I think you are experiencing what Paul discussed when he talked about marriage. Basically when you get married your thoughts go less towards God and more towards pleaseing your spouse. This is probably starting in you as you are mentally becomming more prepared to be married.

I don't think its necessarily bad, but its sort of what we get with marriage. Which is why if you can handle it, celibate singleness to serve God is better then marriage.

I agree to a small extent my thoughts have been less on God and more on my fiancee. It helps to have scheduled times for God that you hold to. Bible Studies, worship and things like that. The other thing that helps me is viewing my fiancee as a great gift from God. So thoughts upon the gift ultimatly do lead to God in the end.

*It may also help me to some extent that I'm LDR*

 

[Bootstrap]

Yes, I think that is it. Instead of being able to say my heart belongs to God, I say that my heart belongs to God and it also belongs to my fiancee.

And I'm often letting my spiritual disciplines slip as I work on things like ... getting married in two weeks!

 

[Luther073082]

Yes, I think that is it. Instead of being able to say my heart belongs to God, I say that my heart belongs to God and it also belongs to my fiancee.

And I'm often letting my spiritual disciplines slip as I work on things like ... getting married in two weeks!

Yeah thats a pretty stressful time, so some things are going to slip when you are that close to the wedding. Thats probably why I don't feel it as much as you, because I have about 8 and a half months left. When I get down to just a couple weeks, it will be different I'm sure.

I think once you get home from the honeymoon, (If you are going on one) and get settled in, then you will probably pick them back up again.

 

[Miss Lara]

Your question reminds me, too, that the covenant of marriage is the closest earthly example of God's covenant with His people. It is a blessed and sacred thing, modeling the very character of God while at the same time, creating an environment where we we experience greater need to seek Him, trust Him, and die to ourselves.

It is really quite beautiful.

Blessings to you and your beloved,
Lara

 

[Johnnz]

Don't get dualistic in your thinking. God created is so that we can only focus on one thing at a time, apart from multi tasking females of course! But we can't solve a maths problem and contemplate some doctrine simultaneously. 'God first' means we understand what values we prioritise life with, not that we must be thinking about God 24/7.

John
NZ