I am a depressed Christian teenager, I am 17 years old in the 11th grade. Why does God favor others over me, He gives other teenagers girlfriend friends,awesome talents I just am good at poetry. I just got rejected again I feel like crying , no girl will ever go out with me. God always wants to give me bad things I feel like cutting, I do have internet friends but no friends outside of that. I am also male.
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You are making a bad assumption that having a girlfriend in your life at this point will make your life better. Have you not seen what happens when couples break up...and they almost all will since almost nobody marries their high school sweetheart anymore.
You are actually not that unique in being 17 and never had a girlfriend....YET. I don't think my husband started dating until he was 17...and he found me a few years later....we were together for 24 years before he died of cancer at age 41. Many people don't start dating until they are well out of their teen years.
Actually, you won't ever find happiness FROM another person. You are responsible for your own happiness...because it isn't a tangible thing but rather an attitude.
Have you told anyone about the cutting? You need to get some outside help and counseling for this....meds or therapy but this can literally kill you or do permanent nerve damage...even if you are "careful". Please tell someone...your parent, a school counselor or favorite teacher, someone at church... In the meantime, put a rubberband on your wrist and snap it instead of cutting if the urge ever becomes so overwhelming.
Poetry is a talent and something good. Does your school have a poetry or literary club where maybe you can find people who are also interested in the same things. Or go to the library and see what they have posted...yes, the age span of the group would be larger but a friend is a friend...so consider it. It might actually be easier to have a friend who is a bit older because they can help you see what in your life is more temporary than it feels at the time.
Please reach out for help. When you have reached the point where you are cutting, you have reached the point where you can't handle this alone. You aren't alone. It only feels that way right now.
I am sorry that you are feeling so low right now, but remember that it won't always be this way and that there are ways to help you feel better about yourself. If you can't do this directly, then write a poem about it...sign your name and leave it where someone you trust can read it.
I will be praying for you.
You are actually not that unique in being 17 and never had a girlfriend....YET. I don't think my husband started dating until he was 17...and he found me a few years later....we were together for 24 years before he died of cancer at age 41. Many people don't start dating until they are well out of their teen years.
Actually, you won't ever find happiness FROM another person. You are responsible for your own happiness...because it isn't a tangible thing but rather an attitude.
Have you told anyone about the cutting? You need to get some outside help and counseling for this....meds or therapy but this can literally kill you or do permanent nerve damage...even if you are "careful". Please tell someone...your parent, a school counselor or favorite teacher, someone at church... In the meantime, put a rubberband on your wrist and snap it instead of cutting if the urge ever becomes so overwhelming.
Poetry is a talent and something good. Does your school have a poetry or literary club where maybe you can find people who are also interested in the same things. Or go to the library and see what they have posted...yes, the age span of the group would be larger but a friend is a friend...so consider it. It might actually be easier to have a friend who is a bit older because they can help you see what in your life is more temporary than it feels at the time.
Please reach out for help. When you have reached the point where you are cutting, you have reached the point where you can't handle this alone. You aren't alone. It only feels that way right now.
I am sorry that you are feeling so low right now, but remember that it won't always be this way and that there are ways to help you feel better about yourself. If you can't do this directly, then write a poem about it...sign your name and leave it where someone you trust can read it.
I will be praying for you.
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orangeness365
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Some of those friendships can be toxic, and can lead to bad things, so having a large number of friends leading you down the wrong path might not be a good thing. There are also other people that aren't as lucky as you are. Having a girlfriend, like Black Ribbon said, shouldn't be your source of happiness. You've gone 17 years of your life without a girlfriend. Was there anything that made you happy? I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 20 years old, and it didn't work out, it only lasted for 3 months, and I've only had one. I figured, yaknow, I'm 24 years old now, and only had a relationship for 3 months, and apart from that I've been relationship free. I know it's hard to not have friends. Are there things you can go out and do with family instead? Like going to church? I haven't quite decided yet, but I'm pretty sure I plan on staying celibate, and making Jesus my source of happiness instead. I haven't done that yet though, and it's easier said than done. I realized that I had made some imaginary relationship with a husband for years on this pedestal, and I realized after reading about statistics on lots of marriages and hearing about a lot of abusive horror stories, that it's only great for some people, but not everyone. I know what you mean about the friends though. Without friends you feel like you're missing out. I made my family my friends. Do you have family? Think about it this way. You may not be as lucky as some, but there are many who have less than you do. It's like the story of the talents. One person was given 10 talents, another 5 talents, and the last got 1 talent. You may have less than others, but you can still work at and give back in accordance with what you've been given.
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Well my cousins rarely talk to me and basically ignore and nothing makes me happy and I never harmed myself I just am tempted to do so.
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At 17 you are still very young and adolescence is a difficult time in your life. So take that into consideration.
Have your relatives or close friends given you any feedback on your personality or what they do not like? Although it hurts to get feedback from others if it is not positive, it can be a good way for us to understand what our strengths are as a person and what are weaknesses are as a person. Have you ever thought about what you might be able to do or change that would give you more confidence?
Look deep inside yourself. Look at the good and the bad. Knowing yourself as you are is a powerful thing. Not our own biased view of who we want to be or what we want to be. But right now, who you are. No biases. Just facts.
Have your relatives or close friends given you any feedback on your personality or what they do not like? Although it hurts to get feedback from others if it is not positive, it can be a good way for us to understand what our strengths are as a person and what are weaknesses are as a person. Have you ever thought about what you might be able to do or change that would give you more confidence?
Look deep inside yourself. Look at the good and the bad. Knowing yourself as you are is a powerful thing. Not our own biased view of who we want to be or what we want to be. But right now, who you are. No biases. Just facts.
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ToBeBlessed
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Give some thought to how you see your own personality?
Are you outgoing or more of an introvert?
Is your overall demeaner one of optimism or pessimism?
If your unhappy with your life, do you take any steps to change that or are you just existing?
What is your normal schedule for the week (besides school)? Do you seek out things to do or would you rather spend your time alone?
What are your hobbies?
How is your relationship w/ God? Are you saved?
Don't just answer quickly. Take time to ponder what you think vs. what you do.
Are you outgoing or more of an introvert?
Is your overall demeaner one of optimism or pessimism?
If your unhappy with your life, do you take any steps to change that or are you just existing?
What is your normal schedule for the week (besides school)? Do you seek out things to do or would you rather spend your time alone?
What are your hobbies?
How is your relationship w/ God? Are you saved?
Don't just answer quickly. Take time to ponder what you think vs. what you do.
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ToBeBlessed
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Pray for God to show you how to go about getting what you want in His way and righteousness.
God does not always answer prayer quickly, but he always answers eventually.
I'll be praying for you. God bless you and may he answer all your prayers quickly.
P.S. Have you been diagnosed with depression? or do you just feel like you have it?
God does not always answer prayer quickly, but he always answers eventually.
I'll be praying for you. God bless you and may he answer all your prayers quickly.
P.S. Have you been diagnosed with depression? or do you just feel like you have it?
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