Depressed over a guy :(

[Life2Christ]

RuntoJesus,
Having a child before marriage is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. What is wrong with people? Lol.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

So tired of the Catholic hatred on this board. Surprise the mods allow it. Being Protestant doesnt give you exclusive rights to Jesus.

I don't hate catholics. I hate the catholic church for not knowing or caring to give the real Gospel message so people can be saved in THIS life(leading INTO eternity) and not allegedly , later. Its not a Prot versus CAtholic issue but rather a Bible versus Catholic issue.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

Blackribbon.... My date with him last night was a huge FAIL!! We spent the entire night making out. I found his background was legit and all those weird coincidences were accurate. I was drunk last night (and not on alcohol) but on lust. He wanted to go even further but I told him I would not. I told him he needs to read his bible about what God has to say about fornication and he told me my interpretation is wrong. Uh! His parents are strong christians so I told him to ask his own father what he thinks. Other than the sex angle I like him a lot (responsible, hard working, smart). My biggest investigation right now is to find out if he is possessive/jealous or dangerous.

So you put yourself in a very unhealthy situation by arousing each other tonguing and with hands no doubt exploring your Bodies ? A lot of date rapes occur doing this. Further, you need more self control / to think objectively / refuse the school-girl kind of party-thinking and acquire a mature womans way of handling yourself / and I strongly suggest you don't date or lay next to a male until your wedding night. . Also, allowing yourself to get drunk is a satanic enticement so you will get further away from God and his loving protective moral mandates for your life. This is what lusting does for men and women.

What I also suggest out of concern for you, is to not follow our out of control Secular Humanist culture and to really dive deep into a personal relationship with Jesus who will then give you the power to live life to his glory and for your own wellbeing. Its often referred to as a Born Again new nature change. Without this kind of Holy Spirit guidance in your life, a fall is inevitable .

 

[Life2Christ]

What I also suggest out of concern for you, is to not follow our out of control Secular Humanist culture and to really dive deep into a personal relationship with Jesus who will then give you the power to live life to his glory and for your own wellbeing. Its often referred to as a Born Again new nature change. Without this kind of Holy Spirit guidance in your life, a fall is inevitable .

I have a personal relationship with Jesus. I am not sure what you are suggesting. I am struggling with my sexuality to the point that I don't know what to do. I am a grown woman with grown-up desires. Bible says I can't get married again so what options do I have? I said I wasnt going to sleep with him, isnt that good enough? This is a painful dilemma for me I hate the fact that my ex-husband (who dumped me for another woman right after I gave birth) has been happy for the past 4 years with his girlfriend. I just want to be distracted and happy. I am happy in Christ (so happy) and I want physical love too.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

Being Protestant does not give anyone exclusive rights to Jesus. Please forgive him.

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Correct. That's where being Born Again comes in.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

4. If your Catholic, you will no doubt want to raise your kids the same if youre a devoted Catholic to the 'Mother Church' alledgely let down from heaven on a shoe string. If youre not devoted to it, then so much the better when considering someone for marriage. If you take a genuine Catholic and Protestant who are sold out to their Faith and what the real Gospel is, then you start off with serious differences already because the Catholic 'gospel' is not the biblical one . http://www.christianforums.com/t7808868/

David, do you have any idea who compiled the Bible? Do you have any idea who determined what were legitimate writings from the apostles vs. heretical Gnostic writings? Were it not for the Catholics, you wouldn't have the New Testament. You would likely have a book of Gnostic philosophy and Christianity would have become a cult of weird Gnostic spirituality. And you say Catholics don't have the gospel?

How about reading something more substantial than a Jack Chick tract?
http://www.amazon.com/Gospel-Catholic-Church-Michael-Ramsey/dp/1598563890

 

[Run to Jesus]

Correct. That's where being Born Again comes in.

I agree with you. However, some Catholics are Born Again but have remained in the Church. Definitely, not the one I had mentioned. I realized that later. Sometimes we need to get to know people to find out.

I know an elderly couple who are Catholic but Born Again and they love Jesus and witness to their fellow Catholic Brother and Sisters. They are still in the Catholic Church.

However, I think helping our Sister here is important so I'd rather not go off topic.

 

[William67]

I have a personal relationship with Jesus. I am not sure what you are suggesting. I am struggling with my sexuality to the point that I don't know what to do. I am a grown woman with grown-up desires. Bible says I can't get married again so what options do I have? I said I wasnt going to sleep with him, isnt that good enough? This is a painful dilemma for me I hate the fact that my ex-husband (who dumped me for another woman right after I gave birth) has been happy for the past 4 years with his girlfriend. I just want to be distracted and happy. I am happy in Christ (so happy) and I want physical love too.

Wait, wait, wait. He commits adultery and you think you cant get married again? Says who? The Bible says an adulterer/adulteress can not remarry. If he is the one who cheated, then you are blameless.

 

[Run to Jesus]

Wait, wait, wait. He commits adultery and you think you cant get married again? Says who? The Bible says an adulterer/adulteress can not remarry. If he is the one who cheated, then you are blameless.

Amen!

 

[ToBeBlessed]

I have a personal relationship with Jesus. I am not sure what you are suggesting. I am struggling with my sexuality to the point that I don't know what to do. I am a grown woman with grown-up desires. Bible says I can't get married again so what options do I have? I said I wasnt going to sleep with him, isnt that good enough? This is a painful dilemma for me I hate the fact that my ex-husband (who dumped me for another woman right after I gave birth) has been happy for the past 4 years with his girlfriend. I just want to be distracted and happy. I am happy in Christ (so happy) and I want physical love too.

Keep in mind what the bible says about lust.

Matthew 5:27-28
"You have heard that it was said, 'YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'; 28but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. "

Paul says that those who cannot control their lust should marry. Although remarriage is a sin, so is lusting in your heart which is committing adultery.

So, it seems that one has to make a decision if they are lusting. Both are sins, lusting and remarriage. So ....

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

Blackribbon.... My date with him last night was a huge FAIL!! We spent the entire night making out. I found his background was legit and all those weird coincidences were accurate. I was drunk last night (and not on alcohol) but on lust. He wanted to go even further but I told him I would not.............I told him he should read his bible. My biggest investigation right now is to find out if he is possessive/jealous or dangerous.

FAILURE = being successful at wrong things. Gods ways are not doing things that create lust, but rather, avoids that.

 

[Life2Christ]

So, it seems that one has to make a decision if they are lusting. Both are sins, lusting and remarriage. So ....

So...that doesn't really help anyone. I might be able to get remarried but the idea scares me but I guess I am not going to have a choice. This relationship is still in the embryonic stage and still too early for sex and marriage.

 

[blackribbon]

I personally want to eventually be married to a man who both lusts after me and I lust after him. Anything less sounds like more like a roommate situation. So I think the sin of lusting has more to do with what you do with it...than the simple act of feeling a human emotion.

 

[Nobadee]

I have a first date tomorrow with a man I have not met yet. This guy is very eager to meet so we waited a full week after making contact. He is handsome and personality is "so far so good". He strongly believes I am "the one". We discovered that we accidentally met as children, our parents grew up in the same town, we work around the corner from each other...just weird coincidences. He is giving me the "I can't stop thinking about you" vibe and I am nervous. He is building me up in his head to be perfection. He is going to blow this thing up before we get started.
He is in love with my photos despite me being shorter than his stated parameters and I am not his body type. Am I dealing with a red flag situation here? What am I going to do?

Edited to add: I am Catholic and he grew up Pentacostal. We both go to church every Sunday but he believes pre-marital sex is a must. I lol @that. 1Corinthians 6:9 tells me otherwise. He is going to tempt me and being the raging hetero that I am I dont know if I can handle this. I have lived a celibate life for 9 years.

I made that mistake with a woman once. I slapped her up on a pedestal and painted a perfect image of her that she couldn't possibly fill, no matter how remarkable she was. The fact that she was riddled with insecurities only exasperated the problems.

I saw something I liked and I was rash. I told myself that "this is it!" Without taking everything into consideration. Later I realized that I allowed my feelings to get the better of me, that I had gone out of character. The very moment I stopped being my normal rational self, was the moment that I compromised everything.

Sounds like this guy is having a bit of an emotional dilemma of his own and I would advise you to take charge of the situation in insist on taking things down a notch. Eventually he is either going to have a break down or he will go away when he realized what a fool he is being.

 

[Life2Christ]

Nobadee, I agree. He swears we are destined to be together. His 49th bday is next week and I swear he is having a midlife crisis. But no matter what I say he thinks I am the one. I am definitely taking it super slow and will be responsible enough for the both of us. He is unapologetically still pushing sex on me but I told him no. He says I get the last word. I discovered this is a pattern from all his past relationships; sex as a glue but the relationship is a shell. It is scary but my eyes are opened. It is a shame we get along great.

 

[blackribbon]

Say "let's fly to Vegas, get married...and then we can have sex....how does next weekend sound to you?"..... I'd say it in a half-jokingly but half serious manner....

Then you will find out if he really does believe "this is the one" or if it is just a line he has used to get Christian girls to have sex before marriage....

(Note:..I wouldn't actually do it, but you will get a better feel for his intentions by how he responds...)

 

[exitstageright]

Don't let him put you up on a pedestal - and don't be easily goaded into feeling special. He needs to earn your trust just like anybody else. Being 'nice' doesn't change a thing - he still needs to run the gauntlet. So make him WORK.

. The "I can't stop thinking about you" comment is already a problem for me.



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So would you have a problem with this very lovely song?

I look at you and you look at me
Trying not to want what can’t be
You’re with my friend and he holds your hand
Wasn’t that supposed to be me

Oh baby, I can’t get you out of my mind
I don’t know why you came into my life
I can’t get you out of my mind
Hard as I try, you’re there all the time

You never said and I never asked
How was I to know you weren’t free
He spoke of you but I never knew
That the other man was me

Oh baby, I can’t get you out of my mind
I don’t know why you came into my life
I can’t get you out of my mind
Hard as I try, you’re there all the time

Each time I see him now I think of you
I don’t know what I’m gonna do
I look into the eyes of someone new
And there reflected is my love for you

Oh, oh, I can’t get you out of my mind
I don’t know why you came into my life
I can’t get you out of my mind
Hard as I try, you’re there all the time

I can’t get you out of my mind
I don’t know why you came into my life
I can’t get you out of my mind
Hard as I try, you’re there all the time

I can’t get you out of my mind
I don’t know why you came into my life

 

[Life2Christ]

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